About My Crazy Filled Life
Hi my names Katy, I live in a mediterrenian climate of Spain, I'm 17, 5'9 in hight, 54-57 kg and my body build is hourglass.
I am single by choice, I can not stand guys who meet me and say your hot wanna go out?... I am not like that anymore i like friendship more than romance ... i have enough love from my dog, cat and laptop XD ( fyi i dont like short guys, when I see them with tall girls I cant help but lmfao.)
I do party at clubs till 7 am because.... hello who doesn't like to dance and lose yourself in the music.
This last year I did some volunteer work, and it made me realise this is something I want to work on more in the future, for now thou I need to focus on getting my license and getting a permanent job. I also play guitar and i have slowly fallen in love with sunburst finishes on them . 4laugh
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You just let them know in the most level-headed and sincere way possible.
It doesn't need to be force and all.
Just apologize for what you've done on your end is all and let them know why it got to that point.
And, so that a problem doesn't arise with you again, let them know you feel uncomfortable being around the smoke, and not them, and that you will respect their time to do it, by excusing yourself and going else where.
It's something you can't deal with and you don't want that to cloud you like it is.
Tell them you don't have a good experience witht that type of stuff at all.
And, if they ask what, tell them the smoking.
But, you let them apologize on their own part.
You just mean what you say is all.
I know you might like one, but don't go in expecting one.
To settle the situation a little more, you get your apology in to make yourself feel better, with the possibility of making them feel better as well.
Let me explain though.
I have a few friends who smoke it, too.
You might not like them smoking it, but they are right.
They can smoke it anywhere they please.
Though it's understandable you wanna be around you friends, you should keep yourself around something you hate just to do so.
If they can't respect the fact that you don't smoke it and pull it out in front of you to do so, then respect your choice to not be there at the time a be else where.
If anyone has a problem with you walking away, then you let them know "I don't smoke that and it bothers me. I'm walking away to respect both our choices."
I don't know your friends well, but when it comes to things like smoking and stuff, it merely the addiction that does all the talking, which is probably happeneing.
Your differences of how you and they think about smoking on clashing.
That is what brings about your ongong debate about the arguement you had.
In a way, they feel disrespected, but at the same time, they aren't thinking how they disrespected you as well.
Even if you have to walk away everyday, you do that because you're doing it for the better of yourself.
Because in a way, they are peer pressuring you, so don't fall for it.
You let them decide what kinda of friends they are by their actions.
I know it's hard to think about, but it seems like they are your friends when not smoking and aren't your friends when they are.
I'm not gonna suggest you not be friends with them.
But, you have a question to answer for yourself: "Are these people worth the stress they are causing?"
Friends or not, you do what you're doing and if they are to imatture to understand that or can't agree with it, then it's their problem.
Don't let them badger you about it.
Even if you have to distance yourself for a long time, there is time for them to realize the mistakes they made.
If not, then you have to decide if you even wanna be around them anymore, for this time being.
The only thing you did wrong, according to their standards, is telling them what to do, which is not to smoke it in front of you.
Also, that you lashed out in front of them all like you did.
The best option would have been to excuse yourself from them all and take yourself from the problem, instead.
If they can't respect that you don't wanna be around it, it's not your problem to deal with.
Everything else is their own fault.
You don't have to deal with it at all, if you don't want to.
And, keep it in your head: "Are these people really worth the stress they are causing me?"