Let's have a rant thread! ~*Stress Relief*~

[Tokioka]

^ Uh, maybe put that sort of post in chatterbox in the future. sweatdrop

@Everyone: Thanks for the support and sorry for the long rant, I really hadn't expected it to turn out so long. Maybe things will get better but considering what happened yesterday... let's just say I'm still feeling more than a little apprehensive. >__>

EDIT: I re-read what everyone had to say and think I should reply properly instead of just saying 'Thanks for the support'. I just felt so much like ranting first. xd

@Niph: Yeh I see what you mean about it being unguyish. I probably think too much into it because I'm quite a sensitive and considerate guy and because there's been silence between us for so long these thoughts have just continued to build up. Actually, it's similar to what I do with a lot of my emotions. I bottle everything up inside, stuff that I feel I can't tell people I know. Then sometimes (very rarely) it all becomes too much and I have a bit of a breakdown. But I'm usually okay the day after. xP
You may think that we ended up seeing each other too much, but in fact we were gradually seeing less and less of each other as the 2nd semester went on. There'd be times where we wouldn't hear from one another for 2 weeks or so, and that was even before the easter incident. I dunno what happened, I really don't know. =/
As for kissing and making up (xD), I don't think it's gonna happen for a looong time, if at all. Myself and Ryco are guys who don't like confrontation and all that stuff that happened between us just got swept under the carpet and tomorrow was a new day. I suppose this coming year we'll be living together so that should make confronting him a lot easier.

@t0sh: stare kuso...

Read the whole thing! And the 2nd part too! mad Lazy bish...

@hip2b^2: Haha, looks like my rant was already too much for you to start your own. Gomennn... sweatdrop

@kt_jingle: Friends will always be friends, I'm not so sure on that one. ._.  

[Tokioka]

domokun **WARNING, FOLLOW UP RANT IN PROGRESS** domokun

Okay, so I saw Ryco yesterday for the first time since easter. My dad and I went back up to Bath to collect the rest of the stuff I'd left in my room and I'd agreed to let Ryco leave some of his luggage in our garage over summer (so he wouldn't have to take it back to HK with him). Should've been a simple task, right? Wrong.

Firstly, my dad was a few hours late due to my mum needing the car for something and all through this time Ryco kept phoning and moaning at me, as if it was my fault. Dude, I can't control this sorta stuff. If my dad's late, he's late.
During our wait I remembered to ask him about the housing forms for next year. Guess what? The arsehole didn't bother filling them in. Even though I've been constantly reminding him for the past few months via email and phone. I reminded him again just last week. He's just taking the bloody piss. His exams ended on tuesday (same as me), so he had NO EXCUSE not to fill in the 2 pages of forms and send them to the letting agents. His crap excuse was that he was having fun, doing preliminary work and sorting out travel for his holiday to Milan/Bordeaux. I was having fun too y'know, went out every night except saturday. But then again I'd already filled in my forms and sent off my cheques. It was just too much to ask of him wasn't it? stare
I didn't lose my cool though, as I'd resolved to be the mature person. Turns out he never read any of my emails and didn't realise how urgent the situation was. The letting agent had phoned me saying that it'd been almost 3 months since we first viewed the house and we still hadn't sorted everything out, so she said that they may have to re-let it if we didn't send our stuff soon. Myself and Jon had sent our forms off at easter, leaving Joe and Ryco (Joe sent his last week). This is why I can't believe that Ryco would do this, leaving it to the utmost last minute. He hasn't even paid the holding fee yet, which guarantees his place in the house. It's not like I enjoy moaning at him, his lazy behaviour just means I have to. It's as if I'm a parent trying to get his lazy son to finish his homework. A homework that's lasted 3 months. Unbelievable. rolleyes
This is how the convo went~

Ryco: "Oh I didn't know about that... well can you print out a copy of the forms for me, I've already packed my printer away."
Me: "I've already packed mine away as well. The letting agents isn't open today anyways as it's sunday."
Ryco: "Kay, well I've gotta catch a plane tonight for Milan so could I fill them in and have you hand them in tomorrow for me?"
Me: "I'm going home today." ¬__¬ *getting pissed*
Ryco: "Umm, could you stay in Bath for another day?"
Me: "Why don't you fill in the forms and send them in the post?"
Ryco: *acts all cocky* "How can I send them? The post office is closed on the weekends."
Me: "There are a couple of red post boxes on campus..." ¬__¬'
Ryco: "Uhh, well I don't have an envelope or a stamp."
Me: "Look, you just get the forms and cheques filled in, I'll prepare an addressed and stamped envelope for you, okay? (Your freakin majesty)" D<

So that's how the convo went. I can't believe I prepared a stamped, addressed envelope for him. It's like something you'd ask your mum to do as a kid cos you were scared you'd put the stamp in the wrong place. What. a. c**k. >__>
I can't believe he even had the nerve to ask so much from me when he's dug himself so deep in a hole. This is exactly like what happened before xmas. He had a flight booked to HK from Heathrow and left the Uni very late. Did he miss his flight? Ho yes. Cue Ryco literally shitting himself and whining to me about how much trouble he's gonna be in when his mum finds out about it. Cue Toki having to stay on the phone with him all night comparing airline prices to find the cheapest ones to HK in short notice. Cue Toki basically saving Ryco's a** by getting him a half price flight with his current airline. Cue Toki's non-existent praise. Anything for a friend, eh? -___-''

Okay, so we've gotten past that little segment, this is when my dad arrives. We pack up all my stuff into the car which nearly fills all the space, then Ryco phones and asks us to drive to the outside elevator under his hall of residence. I don't really mind this as it's pouring with rain and he probably has a lot to carry. Reasonable.
So we drive under this section of the uni called the Parade (a raised section, like in a car park, kinda), and stop inside as I can't see the elevator he's told me about. He calls me and asks us to reverse back the way we came, which was a one way road, and pull into some alley (god knows what he meant). I tell my dad at which point he gets real pissed off that this little punk is making such demands when we're the ones offering him a free service. He grabs my phone and tells Ryco to come down and give directions. He finally comes down and asks us to move the car 10 metres to this loading bay area where he and this other chinese guy start loading stuff in. It's a tight fit but we get it all in, at which point I remember my mum lent him £30 shopping money at easter, so I ask him to repay it, which isn't really asking much as I won't see him til october and by then I would've forgotten about the whole thing. So he says to me while shrugging his shoulders, "I don't have it." I explain the whole thing about me forgetting and he says, "It's only £30, if you forget then you forget." This is followed by him and his friend laughing. The whole time my expression is frozen in a fake half smile at his 'joke' as I try to hide both my annoyance and anger. This, coming from a guy who's so stingy that he doesn't even use the campus pay washing machines and instead washes his clothes by hand in his room? How is £30 not a lot of money? I could easily buy 2-3 weeks worth of groceries with that. I just couldn't believe it. The guy who I'd admired and cherished as a friend had become a complete and utter t**t. *sighs* Anyways my dad said it was alright, that he didn't have to pay my mum back and we went on our way. v__v

Although that huge rant I made 2 days ago put things into perspective and made me feel bad about how I'd acted, I can see now that he's definitely more to blame for his lack of contribution towards this friendship. Yesterday, the way he behaved towards both myself and my dad was disrespectful, arrogant and most of all, it wasn't like him. It was as if his HK mates had coaxed out that nasty side of him that I'd never seen before. After all my family had done for him, all the times he stayed round (nearly every single time I went home), all the food he ate, just the kind hospitality we offered him. It felt like he'd thrown everything back in our faces. A ******** disgrace.

Note: Sorry about the swearing. I don't usually swear much in my posts as I find it vulgar, but I deemed it necessary this one time. Well, wouldn't you? =P  

[Minielf]

Wow, I'm just astounded by the two super-long rants you posted. It would be more convenient if you just wrote it in your jorunal and placed a link to it here, because it's bloody hard to read. xp

Even so I read it all and I agree with the Niph and the others. This Ryco guy definitely seems like an arsehole who's betrayed your trust simple and acted like he's superior to you just because he's 2 years older. Also, you mentioned he only speaks in canto which for me is not a good sign, as Cantonese people are notorious for being obnoxiou and full of themselves. Just a week ago my mum and dad kicked out this 80 year old Cantonese lady from our nursing home because she was causing a ruckus and complained too much about the food.  

[Tokioka]

I'm awfully sorry that you were forced to click on the page 173 link to view the first part of my rant. All that physical exertion, it must have been horrible. I shall remember to tailor my next spur of the moment rant to your liking, my lord. cool *remember to kill elf after the revolution*

And I'm glad someone now agrees that he's an arsehole and it wasn't just me being paranoid. Granted, the others haven't read my second post yet but we'll see how the tide turns.

*sighs* These cantonese fellas... I think the crowded living in HK really has gone to their heads. =.=  

[Niphz]

xD @ Toki's sarkiness.

I totally agree. Arsehole. Utterly.

He just needs to get off his high horse. It is a bit of a canto thing, but I mean.. obviously one cannot generalise so blanketly.

I think you should blank him for a bit. Tell him you've had enough of his attitude, demand that he pays you back, and then ignore him until he realises what a t**t he's been and comes grovelling back to apologise. Because.. that kind of person, the only real friends they have are people like you, do you think his HKnese friends would go so far for him? I don't think so. He just doesn't appreciate your kindness as you've made it so easy for him to take you for granted. Just make him realise that you're not always there to unconditionally be his slave. rolleyes

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

wow. you really have a long thing to say!! O.O
you can turn an essay with all that. xd




uhh sorry. .. did i just make you feel worse?  

[Tokioka]

@Niph: Your advice is just the sort of thing I needed to hear right about now. Ta. smile

It's the sort of action I was gonna take anyways, just get the money back and then give him the cold shoulder for a while. Then the next time he ******** up I won't lift a finger.
Yep, I was a fool to let him treat me like a human doormat, come october things should be different. I'll give an update on the situation then. 3nodding

@Mihiko: No you didn't make me feel worse. I feel... indifferent. =/  

[kt_jingle]

ok, the friend thing i said; i taKe it back.
uhh...
he's like using you, sorry to say that.
(why'd you help him?)
he needs to learn to learn to be independent.
oh man, try talking sense to him?
ok maybe that wouldn't help.
but then again, good luck.
(:

(sorry if the above things are, uh mean.)  

[Niphz]

@Tokes - That's the spirit! 3nodding Show him that he needs you, not the other way around. Then if he comes back it's all well and good and if he doesn't, well, you'll be rid of an annoying guy who wasn't worth it in the first place. -nodnod-

I still feel like I'm giving advice to a girl about a guy.. XDD

Talk on MSN later Toki?

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

@ Toki : ok. so that's good right??  

[hip2b^2]

@Tokioka-Ahh nah it's fine! I've bothered too many people in this thread with my complaining; I'm going to give them a rest sweatdrop

Wow, what a p***k! (I actually don't fully know what that means redface ) I'm sorry to say that, but, ur friend sounds like one. I would want to cut all ties with a guy like that. I usually don't think like that, b/c I really value friendship, and I'm only saying to cut him loose b/c I really want to do that to my "Friends" I "have" right now (highschool-new place-new people-they do it to me-makes me see what they are like-makes me want to just forget them wink ) But that's only me right at this present moment idea He's gone right now though right?

 

[Tokioka]

@kt_jingle: I helped him because I'm generally a nice guy? <=)
And I didn't think I was being naive, cos if any of my friends really needed my help then I'd help them. I mean I'm no saint or anything, I just look after the people I care about. Something like that. :XP:
And your comment wasn't mean at all, it was very worthwhile. :3

@Niph: Lawl.
Shush you. razz
I've already had enough of people saying I'm too sensitive and stuff. My best friend was saying, "You're so gay!" xd and I was all like crying .
And I'm on msn right now (3am), where are ya? xP

@Mihiko: Uhh, it's neither good nor bad. It's neutral... =/ *slowly walks away*

@hip: What is up with that name!? xD
And a 'p***k' is just an annoying person, or the other slang meaning would be an erect p***s, but I don't think that's the one you're after. sweatdrop
It feels like I wanna just cut him off completely right now, but I have to live with him next year so I reckon I'll give him another chance if he can change.
Yep, he's gone for now and I won't have to see him for 4 months hehe. =D
Enough about me though, what's going on with your friends?  

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

ok.... ???? O.o  

[Niphz]

Hey, I wasn't saying it in a negative way, you know how shounen-ai is always appreciated in this guild.. whee

Jokes jokes. But still, being sensitive isn't a bad thing at all. 3nodding



"St. Toki".. how weird would that be?! xD

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

shounen-ai. i like it.
i mean reading it.... xD