Let's have a rant thread! ~*Stress Relief*~

[soumakisa]

× i know most pple lose their virginity at the age of 16/17 and above..
to me.. im different.. i think i prefer not to lose that virginity, hopefully until marriage...
becoz most guys will take advantage of a girl when they can.. but in the end, they kinda mind if the girl is not intact... maybe they can close one eye, accept it.. but i think somewhere, it is still in the back of their minds...
well, at least the guys i know feel that way..
base on my strict upbringing from parents and the asian environment i was surrounded... i think 17 is still too young...

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

same here. i dont want to lose my virginity until marriage.. -__-  

[xoCrow]

Honestly, I have to say I was on that note as well to. At least, that was until I've found someone who has complete changed everything for me. I know I'll probably be criticized for this, probably mainly revolving around religion and the fact that they can't remain faithful after doing so if it happens before marriage. But saving it for after also doesn't gurantee the expected outcomes. I honestly believe that it should belong to someone who you think deserves it, whether or not they will be your partner in the future and regardless of what the time really is to an extent.

This is a story I have to share, from my mother: Sometime in the last year of her college, she met a Japanese man. They had both build a steady relationship and have fallen in love. When she asked for her parent's consent her boyfriend was rejected, especially since there is a person her parents wanted her to be with(my father) and thought he was much better suited for her than my mother's boyfriend at the time. They both refused to separate from each other, so the relationship progressed secretly, knowing they couldn't be "together" and marry as they hoped. This continued until the boyfriend died in a car accident. Afterwards, my mother was basically forced to be with my father years later.[In case you're wondering, the children of the family are only from my father]
Sometimes I think with my conditions, my body'll someday suddenly fail, preventing me from doing what I've wanted to.
I'd like to think of it as a spiritual bonding as well. I'm not saying it should be a rushed thing, but when the time right, it's fine.

 

[Tokioka]

@Crow: Maybe you could slip the condom in your neighbour's mailbox or something? Wouldn't go to waste that way. =)

I suppose most guys do lose their virginity around 16-17, so 19 is a little old. However I've been in all boys schools since I was 11, so getting the chance to mingle with girls was rare anyways. I think because of that, I only really developed an interest in the opposite sex when I was around 17, which was also when I started dating. I knew girls before that but they were either friends or not the sort I'd go for, aka sluts. A lot of my friends were doing it pretty early on and it was interesting to hear their stories, but I was never desperate to do anything about it.
I guess in the end I'm not really that bothered. It's sort of like your first kiss or when you first got to 2nd, 3rd base etc. Afterwards I'd just think, "What was all the fuss about?"
I reckon that'll probably be my reaction after sex too. "Well that was nice. Yeh. See you tomorrow then." xd

Your mother's story is quite tragic and the death of the japanese man was a terrible coincidence. I just have one question ~ Did your mother fall in love with your father after they married?

@Souma-chan: That's a very traditional view on virginity and I suppose being in an asian country reinforces that. Do you think you'd be more open minded if you were living in a western country?  

[xoCrow]

When I told my friend, he actually went "NO NO GIVE IT TO ME SO WE CAN PRACTICE WITH IT. ;D" in of course, a jokingly way. It expires in a year, apparently. PX

As for your question, I suppose it's more of a responsibility and friendship deal. They were fighting a lot the first couple years though.. quite an ugly sight.

The majority of the guys that I seem to know often seem more interested in *ahem* getting ahead in the game rather than actually building a relationship. That I think, is what leads to their early-ish loss of virginity. For that reason, I've never been that interested in the "popular" and "hot" guys, as they seem to be more of the player type. I'm much more satisfied with a sweet, shy type of guy. (:
Since I'm in a bit of a long-distance relationship, we haven't really "progressed" as say other couples who can readily see each other can. So we still haven't did certain things, but I feel we are a lot more mature in some ways. With that, I gotta admit that certain topics are getting easy to bring up. I can understand that view, where at first you get really excited about that first time. Then after that, it just seems to go with the flow. Just another part of life and not so much the big thing it once was, ya'know?

 

[soumakisa]

× @toki: not sure.. xD (well, i DID live in a westernized country, Australia.. but i went to an international schools so i mixed with Asians.. etto.. so im not too sure how to answer ur question.. ) :3 perhaps maybe yes.. or probably half-half...coz at times in a r/ship u do let nature takes its course and at the same time my parents have strict teachings..

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

my gawd!! i forgot about the condom thing.... burning_eyes
who would put a condom in a mailbox... -___-
what if your parents found and not you. xDD  

[xoCrow]

My mailman is stupid. He NEVER puts things in the right box. So if what I ordered from Amazon doesn't go in my box, I'm kicking his a**.

But actually, on the package it said my neighbor's name, and not mine. 'Guess they'd just tell me to give it to him, but if it just said something like "Current resident" my parents would soooo kill me. Lmfao, I hid it in my drawer for now. But if they found it THEN, then I'm screwed. DD:

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

dont let them find it and give it to ur neighbor ASAP. xDD
then they surely wont find it.  

[Minielf]

I'm similar to Toki in how both of us missed out on interacting with girls until we became adults. In my case I've had even less contact with girls than he did and I sort of started dating at a much later date. I was in an all-boy's school for the entire high school period, and even after entering uni I haven't had much chance to mingle or flirt with girls since my study hours are so scarce. If I was living on campus or near the uni like Toki does I'd certainly be able to go out on dates, but having to travel an hour to get to school plus work commitments keep me from having much of an active social life.

In any case, I don't really care if I don't date girls at the moment. I too share the view of wanting to keep my virgnity until marriage, although I guess that's way harder for guys to do that than girls. xd It's probably not going to happen like that, since I don't expect to be married at all until my mid 20s, but still it is unlikely I'll be able to find a girl that truly touches my heart for some time. Perhaps my upcoming trip to China will change things, or maybe they won't.  

[t o x i c l i p s t i c k]

Hrm.....my rant is a bit off from everyone's, but here goes:

I've been living in Indiana and it really sucks. It's been a full year and I hate it here since the beginning. The family here sucks the biggest eggs ever, I'm completely homesick, I miss my friends and home, everyday I wake up knowing that it's just going to be another boring day, and every now and then depression hits me. No, I mean depression like......crying so much that I think about suicide. I'm slowly recovering from depression {agian} but I never FULLY recover. It sucks. x[[
I haven't made a lot of friends here, but I try not to b/c people here are overrated and annoying. So the main person I hang out with is my guy friend. He's the greatest and he's pretty decent. Surprisingly, I trust him enough to tell him things I wouldn't normally tell a guy. Yep, yep. And he's helped me with a lot of my depression and I'm learning a lot from him! Stuff like......learning how to not be so protective about what people say about me. So now I'm a bit more care-free and I dont really care about what people say about me. The only problem I have left is.......my broken little heart and the fact that I hate boys so much. That's why I haven't been able to be in a relationship in 3 years. I tend to avoid being hurt again. =[[  

[Niphz]

@Coco - Why are you living in Indiana? Where do you come from originally?

Stick with it, it'll get better eventually. (:


Hm, thanks guys for all the opinions on sex. xD I was just curious to see what people thought. As for myself, I think it should be fine as long as you can be sure to trust the other person totally and know they're not using you.. it's just my mother had a looooong talk with me [followed by a loooooong talk from my dad the next day] after I told her about Simon.. telling me to control myself and to be ultra-careful and stuff. It's probably sensible.. but I dunno, I guess times have changed since they were young.. and we're not living in communist China, either..

 

[t o x i c l i p s t i c k]

@ Niphz: My dad didn't like living in Florida. xP
But the rest of the family wanted to stay in Florida.  

[xoCrow]

Moving sucks. Especially in a place where people aren't willing to adjust to you, even if you're willing to adjust to them+the area. rolleyes

Maybe after it expires. Gotta see if I'm ever gonna get around to use it so no money would need to be spent. LOL, highly doubt I will though. XD

 

[[.Mihiko-chan.]]

moving does suck if you move to a NEW place
and you dont know anyone there.