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"I am at a loss. I am so damn antisocial, when I finally talk to someone I like, I come off as weird..."

Antisocial? The fact you sent a friend request and initiated a conversation - even if it's just on Facebook - is far from antisocial. With the conversations we've had, you are far from being considered shy.

Weird? Eh... well, the sudden interest in conversing with me and constantly liking everything I like does put off an odd vibe. Especially when even my Dad (who rarely goes onto Facebook) notices.

"There is someone, I just can't bring myself to tell her. I want to start small, slow, steady. Besides, she lives far away from me, though, in these modern times, distance is not an issue. At least, not as much.

I want to just say, "Hey you! I really think you're amazing." To bad I'm a bit of a coward when it comes to matters of the heart. I can open up to a complete stranger, but talking to someone I am actually romantically interested seems to be the most difficult thing..."

You can't directly tell me but have no problem making a bazillion posts commenting on how you feel about this "someone" at the very same time you start communicating with? Especially when those posts are seen by everyone - including me? Yeah... the day you do tell me (if you ever do), you won't get the shocked expression. I'll just be "I know" - and not in a romantic manner like Leia and Han Solo.

"Especially when she's someone interested in a lot of the same things I am. Thinks similarly to myself. Loves cats. Great smile."

Just because we have similar interests doesn't mean there will be an automatic romantic connection. There's more to love than that.

"I don't try to instigate conversations. I don't know what to say."

Really? You've had no problem starting conversations so far. In fact, you've been the only one starting the conversations.

"One day, perhaps, she'll see me in all the wonderous ways I see her."

Not everything is rainbows and butterflies, mate. And I'm afraid there's a storm coming you are being oblivious to, despite being right in front of you.

"Why do you think it won't work out with the woman you like? is it distance, age difference, a situation? Because all that can change. Just try to be her friend first, give her what she needs (and don't be afraid to ask something in return) and see where that road leads you."
"As with the woman...all of the above, pretty much. Not too big of an age gap. Distance is a thing, but in these modern times, that's not as big of an issue. I am bad at instigating anything. Like, I can't make the first move, for I fear I'm going over the line when in that situation. But I'm trying. I'm actually the one trying to instigate conversations which I find terrifying. 😂 I want to be myself, but I worry sometimes that my hopeless romantic nature might weird, or worse creep, her out, pushing her away. So I try to rein that in."
"It's really hard to make the first move, but if you handle it carefully and she reacts positively, I think it's worth the anxiety. It doesn't have to be obvious, just show some interest, but don't give her the feeling that you're stalking her or want to know everything she's doing. Most women like romantic guys, as long as it's not too much. Try to find a balance in that and I think you should be fine in finding out if the feelings are or could ever be mutual.
I know it doesn't feel like it, but you don't need any woman to succeed.
Try to find a way to let go of your worries, I know it's incredibly hard and feels impossible, but not worrying about it will probably increase your chances. You're good enough by yourself, and if you radiate that, others will see you as a good partner.
Everyone needs love, but you also need to be able to love yourself in order to be able to fully love and (more importantly) be loved."
" It certainly is tough. I have a rollercoaster of a self-image. Times I'll be like, "the people who get to know me think I'm awesome. So I must be awesome." Trying not to get a big head over it. But then things'll go, "but if I'm awesome, then how come I've been single my whole life?" Which then leads to a lot of doubt. Doubt is what makes me feel not good enough and such. Thinking of every probability to every potential situation, and then the probabilities to the hypothetical situation beyond that, also does me no favors. But that all stems from the same stuff I've mentioned earlier.

It's an unfortunate problem. I have to get out of my own head. Otherwise, I think I love myself alright. Like, I think I would make a great bf. I mean, hopeless romanticism aside, I put the toilet seat down."
"It's okay not to always feel good about yourself, just try to do it as much as you can. And try to let go of the feeling that you're not good enough because you haven't had a relationship, that doesn't define your worth at all. As I said earlier if you are enough on your own, others will pick up on that."

You seem to have no problem instigating you want to watch a movie or a TV show together through your Rabbit streaming channel or whatever. Of course most of the time you're trying to offer it, I'm either busy doing other stuff or what you're wanting to watch I can easily watch on my own time (or have already seen). Not that I'm against re-watching some of the stuff I enjoy but when I could use that time to catch up on other shows I'm behind on, obviously I'm going to choose the latter.

Glad the other person (in blue) recommended to not come off a stalkerish or creepy. Though it's a bit late for that with the amount of posts he's liked of mine.