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 Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 3:41 am
So, what would you think about a wedding in a graveyard? Would you go? Would you have on there? Do you think it's disrespectful or not?
I saw this on T.V. and thought it would make a good debate.
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Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 7:49 am
I guess in my mind I see Weddings as a sign of birth, or new life, not death. I am iffy about using graveyards for celebrations... whether or not it is disrepectful to the dead entirely relies on your belief as to what happens to a person when they die.
..Personally.. to me it sounds stupid..and something that a bunch of goths would do.
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Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 11:06 am
it seems a bit depressing.....but when u really think about it does seem pretty.......yeah sure ur surrounded by tomb stones but ur also surrounded by a lot of flowers. also u can have ur wedding near a tombstone of someone u may have lost and u wanted their body at the funeral......i think that all of the flowers will really beautify the grave yard n e ways
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Posted: Sat Aug 11, 2007 1:47 pm
Well it depends on what type of cultural values you have. A lot of people think of death as a new beginning and would celebrate it just as they would a birth, so I suppose it would be okay and not disrepectful as long as they're not s**t-faced drunk and peeing all over the place. neutral If it's for shock value like, "Look at me I'm so goth and different, I'm getting married in a grave yard," then it's just stupid.
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 2:59 am
It celebrates the circle of life. Life and death. I just think it would be beautiful. I don't think it's disrespecting the dead either. If anything, I think it's respect, especially if a loved one is buried there. So I would definatly go to one there, and I could hold one there too.
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Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2007 10:37 am
I believe graveyards are to be respected and I am a highly fearful girl of wandering ghosts and God.
[Random: My friend wanted to do a MySpace photo shoot in a graveyard and I was in tears.]
People tread on graves as if it was nothing but I was brought up to honor those who are deceased and I walk in between or just not at all.
A wedding in a graveyard is too morose for me. I would not go, and if it was a close friend - try to talk him/her out of it. I think it is just me, but I can go into a mild shock in a graveyard... o_o;;
And, not to be picky or anything, but this seems to me what those on the darker side of culture would do. (Not bad side, but darker.)
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Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 7:23 pm
that wuld be so weird having a wedding in a graveyard
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Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 9:51 pm
Since graveyards in the United States are only marked by metal plates and headstones, it's highly viable that someone might step on someone else's grave during the procession. If the wedding was a small one, I guess it wouldn't be too bad, if someone wanted their deceased parents to "attend" the wedding.
In my case, I think I'd go just out of curiosity. But considering the fact that 90% of the graves in Korea are in the mountains, the bride and the groom will have to live with the magnificent clash between my clothes and my shoes. Yes, I'd rather be safe in my hiking boots than slip and break my neck in high heels.
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Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 12:13 pm
Noxness I guess in my mind I see Weddings as a sign of birth, or new life, not death. I am iffy about using graveyards for celebrations... whether or not it is disrepectful to the dead entirely relies on your belief as to what happens to a person when they die. ..Personally.. to me it sounds stupid..and something that a bunch of goths would do. I've actually always wanted to have my wedding at a graveyard, and not because of the fact that I'm a "goth." The wedding vows says "'til death do you part." Death is destruction. Without destruction, you can't have creation. You have to destroy your solitude, your inner walls, in order to marry. Is it really "goth" to want to open up and bring your adolescent mindset to rest? Another reason I've always wanted it, and this does tie in to the previous reason, is my philosophic beliefs. I believe in the Alchemic Principle; Not alchemy itself, per se, but in the lead-to-gold thesis in a spiritual sense. The earthly, lead spirit ascends to a golden, heavenly state. In alchemy, all things begin and end the same way. Marriage in a graveyard strongly represents a perfect circle. From death, life. I know I repeated myself, but that's my big thought.
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Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 10:17 am
Disrespectful, no, I could see someone who lost a parent and who wanted them to be at the wedding to have it near the parent's grave, but it does seem a bit.... out of place. I would go but it would end up being very awkward.
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Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 11:27 pm
.: my wounds cry for the grave [ g r a v e ] It doesn't seem like the right place to have a wedding. Usually graveyards are a place for despair and such. Whether its disrespectful or not depends on your own beliefs. I would go to the wedding, but most likely feel slightly awkward. my soul cries for [ d e l i v e r a n c e ] :.___
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 1:20 pm
MONSTERVOMIT .: my wounds cry for the grave [ g r a v e ] It doesn't seem like the right place to have a wedding. Usually graveyards are a place for despair and such. Whether its disrespectful or not depends on your own beliefs. I would go to the wedding, but most likely feel slightly awkward. my soul cries for [ d e l i v e r a n c e ] :.___ True, it isn't the most cheerful place to choose for a wedding but anywhere near the worst place.
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Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 9:32 pm
It all depends on who the people are.How they are and what not to me.I would never care where a wedding is.And it's not really disrespectful because the ghosts would get to see the wedding to.
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Posted: Thu Aug 07, 2008 6:26 pm
It shouldn't matter where the wedding takes place, even if the wedding was in a public bathroom. As long as the soon-to-be are happy with it, there should be no problem.
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 10:16 pm
As long as you have the priest (or whatever it is for you) it shouldn't be a problem. Plus, it's the couples decision, not anyone else. Except maybe the parents, who might be paying for it, unless they are in the grave. I know a couple who has had their wedding photos in the graveyard, but not the wedding.
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