Parents Dont Accept Me

[HunterXHeartless]

It really makes me sad cause my parents are the ones that are supposed to support.Am i right.I have two families and neither of them like me.At my dad's side i get blamed for everything,like if my brother cusses,"oh hunter taught him that"...it makes me not wanna go over there anymore at all,but i still love them.I guess its like Three Days Grace-I Hate Everything About You...and on my mom's side they are too protective.They are scared to let me go to local concerts like Darkslide...anyone else have these problems?  

[Hikaru Akumu]

Yeah, I think everyone who has parents has these problems, babe. I haven't been on here in awhile, so Your my first little one since my little return.

Anyways, I've had these problems. But my parents are together. You kind of have to deal with it over time. I get blamed for what my older sister does. even what the dog freaking does. But you know what? Being passive makes things easier, or at least for me.

I don't usually want to confront my parents about anything, but you know what? You need to actually compromise with your parents. If they don't listen, try to work around it.

For me, I like to not go home a lot so I tend to stay after school with a bunch of friends during Theatre. Won't be able to do that much next semester, but I'm sure I can find something.

All in All, You should just talk to them. Figure it out what's best for both sides. ask them why they are too protective. Ask them why are they pinning it on you. If they turn up good evidence, admit to it and take it like an adult, not an adolescent.

<33 Hope things go for the better HunterxHeartless.  

[HunterXHeartless]

I have tried but it's hard to tell my parents what i think and how i am.It might limit me to going places,hanging out with my friends,and that kinda stuff.I guess im a little scared of what their reaction would be.

My dad wouldn't listen and doesn't listen cause i have told him before.I've even started feeling hatred toward him but i can control that thankfully.I love both of my families...but sometimes it's just hard.

Thank you for your advice...oh and i do take stuff like an adult it just seems they nag it on until i get to a breaking point.Do they do that for a reason or do they not know.  

[Eri Luvs You]

I kind of understand what you mean.
My parents are still together but all my life my parents have tried to keep me in a sheltered life.
I didnt have much of a childhood and now that Im in college Im starting to experience these things I never really was able to do.
In high school I wasnt able to really do anything and I hated my parents for never lettign me do what I want.
Even today they still hold me with an iron fist. (I live at home cuz we cant afford a dorm).
They dont like that I dont enjoy math or school and that I like playing music and arts more.
They want me to be a business woman and make lots of money but thats not who I am.
Sooo...all I want to say really is that you arent really alone. Just done let your frustration lead to drugs and other bad things because it never did me any good except feeling guilty in college.
...drinking is ok to an extent though...just not drugs.
Haha.
Hang in tight, things will look up around college time. I can almost promise that.  

[Hikaru Akumu]

Hee, sounds like what my parents did to me just last year when I was a total 'emo' kid. How amusing.

They nag because they care. As much as you hate hearing it, it's the truth. They want you to know. They want it to be drilled into your head like a Hitatchi x drill screwing a drywall two inch length screw into a piece of 2x4 wood.

Sorry, tech theatre talk.

They may not know your limits. But here's what I say you do.

Keep talking to them. Pull them aside even if they are in a conversation.
Tell them if they really do care about you they'd listen to you talk.
Or whenever your dad isn't really doing anything and just watching the tele, turn off the thing and tell him you really need to talk to him. When he finishes nagging at you at something, simmer down before he leaves and ask him why he keeps telling you that.

Just try not to act like a smartass. That never gets anywhere, especially in my family since we are all stubborn and a bunch of smartasses.

Anyways, Yeah, compromising with your parents are going to limit you going to places, hanging out with your friends and all that stuff, but you have to do it. Babe, I only get out of the house like..Once a week. Otherwise, I'm up at the school five days a week, staying until seven working on homework and just doing tech work for our theatre shows.

You have to make do with what you have. And then when you move out, go crazy like a motherfreaking b***h! <33  

[HunterXHeartless]

My dad would probably hit my if i turned off the tv...lol.I'll give some of the things both of yall said a shot.I want to just break out and confess everything.That im bi,i have thought about suicide,all kinds of stuff...but they'd probably throw me in a crazy house or living hope....ugh.
Well,anymore advice is still welcome.  

[XXX Zombie Porn]

Well you are only 13.
I'd be a bit iffy about letting my 13 year old son to concerts.  

[Hikaru Akumu]

HunterXHeartless

My dad would probably hit my if i turned off the tv...lol.I'll give some of the things both of yall said a shot.I want to just break out and confess everything.That im bi,i have thought about suicide,all kinds of stuff...but they'd probably throw me in a crazy house or living hope....ugh.
Well,anymore advice is still welcome.

It was just an example silly. And try not to get everything out all at one moment and time. Take it in stride. Tell them what you know you have to tell them. and it's really unlikely they will throw you in an asylum if they really are your parents..  

[HunterXHeartless]

it's not a band like hawthorne heights or from first to last
it's local bands  

[Eri Luvs You]

My mom didnt let me to go shows either.
My first real show was when I was a junior in high school...and I had to lie to get there.
I didnt tell them I was going to one until I was in college.
Most of the venues where I am are bars or clubs so...
She thought I would get raped, which is unlikely if I am with lots of friends but I appreciate her concern.  

[The Dadalorian]

XXX Zombie Porn

Well you are only 13.
I'd be a bit iffy about letting my 13 year old son to concerts.

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and if you're the oldest of course you'll get blamed, that's just how life is for everyone.
that doesn't mean they don't accept you.  

[HunterXHeartless]

Thanks everyone!
xD  

[XLeoxLady07X]

Well hun, i for one simpathize with you. [Bad spelling, i know...sorry] My father skipped out on me, but i bet he wouldnt like my person either. My mother is a disaplinarian [sorry] and shes ALWAYS negitive...even when i try so hard to be positive... stare Im bi, and ive thought about offing myself too....my gfs' the only thing keeping me here.

But yeah, i get it too. Im also blamed for numerous things my lil bro does.....it bites stare But i get you hun!! heart *hugs*  

[Sakiika]

Mine is a bit 50/50.

My parents love me. I know that.
But they also don't understand me.. I suppose because I'm complicated.
They think they know me.. but they don't. They think I'm happy.. but I'm not.
When I get angry and upset for no apparent reason, they get angry at me, instead of ponder what a possible reason for my actions should be.

They often say I'm spoilt.. which I completely disagree with and don't understand how they can say that, as I was molestered for 7 years and only recently broke down and told my parents.. I've been a loner for the past three years and I was stalked for two years... I don't understand how they can say I'm spoilt =[

They also say I'm worse than all the other daughters, and say I don't give a damn about them. But if they had to live with the other girls in my class, they would understand.. the other girls in my class (13 year old) swear, don't talk to their parents, drink alcohol, smoke... I don't do any of that!

Well, I could rant on forever, but that would be selfish of me, there are others who have parents who beat them to death... so mine aren't bad at all, they're just not capable of seeing how I'm feeling, which is understandable.  

[Rellik San]

Please tell me that 3DG - I hate Everything About You, isn't a cover of the Ugly Kid Joe song.... if so then I need to get myself a hunting rifle.

Anyway, the key point is, your the older brother, your meant to set an example to your little brother, so your going to get blamed by the parents if he does anything wrong.