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 Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2007 11:06 pm
I realize that this topic may be a bit far off for some of you MADG'ers.. but omg. I am going insane.
I got engaged just before I left for Japan, which I ended up returning home early from.. and has consequently set family in high gear for planning our wedding (which is still ages away).
Anyway.. I want to kill his mother. I want to stab her. I knew this would be difficult.. because she is a pushy woman... and she is also the guilt QUEEN of the world. One of those people that say things like, "now I don't want to offend you but.." we all know nothing good comes of those statements.
There is argument right now about whether or not my fiance will wear a kilt (I'm scottish and hes ukranian). And I was floored by her outright response of "it has nothing to do with him, why the hell would he do that for you". /glare.. Orly. Well I have to stand on his rug thing.. ugh.
I know I am probably over-reacting.. but UGH. THey think I should have a budget wedding of 1000 dollars.. scuse me? My dress cost that much.. and my mother said that was a deal. Did I forget to mention that my future in-laws are the cheapest people in the world? My birthday gift was from dollarama. I know that its the thought that counts.. but really.. smelly bath-soap from the dollarama?? neutral
They are telling me I shouldnt ask for wedding gifts, and that to save the cost on wedding stuff I should ask for favours from the people invited....
My family isn't rich. But I have a sister, and my parents knew that one day we would be getting married and put aside money for the affair. We arent lavish extravagant people.. but really..
OH and did I mention the part where she told me I would meet another guy and leave ym fiance while in Japan...? Yeah shes ******** special. (She's still in love with his ex-gf who has been married for 6 years, and is with child, shes got her on facebook.)
/end rant
So.. tell me your horrible experiences about parents of the significant other.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 11:05 am
Whoa… sorry to hear all that.
Looks like Nor's gotta make sure nothing like that happens to his sweet, little lady.
Hopefully nothing like that won't happen anyway, but wow!
Bar of soap, low budget on your wedding, no kilt (I'd wear a kilt if needed, but I don't think Bella would ask me to do so), other guy and her liking that other girl?
I'm really hoping to make the best with my in-laws once I get 'em.
Just hang in there! The only stories I know of are my parents' stories.
Each side HATES the respective other, but lately they seem to have been letting go of those feelings… (after 20 some odd years.)
Hopefully it won't be too bad for you.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 11:27 am
Jesus Christ, wedding gifts are supposed to happen, at least at the first one! That`s how you end up with all the stuff you need for a house!
Y`know, people buy you blenders and s**t!
I feel lucky with Alan`s parents. Jeez, the only thing they requested was grandchildren.
They were the one`s that wanted Alan to where a kilt, and I`m not even Scottish. Or Irish for that matter, I just happened to have been raised in Ireland.
Now my parents, they were hell. More specifically, my mother was. She sounds like your fiance`s mother. My father was pretty good for me being the only girl and the first one to get married out of the kids. He just told Alan that`d he`d kill him if he hurt me.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 2:35 pm
Haha whomever voted c**t made my day <3
Thanks for the kind words. It helps knowing that its not totally unnormal to deal with such a pain in the arse.
I talked to my fiance last night, and told him that we need to sit down and make our own decisions and then let them know that we aren't swaying.
Regardless.. I hope you get along well with Bella's parents Nor.
And Poet, kudos to your hubby for wearing a kilt. I admire that.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 3:48 pm
Ah, well thank you. Even though that's quite a ways away from now, I'm very thankful for you kind wish.
And yes! Very good going there with your fiancé.
Oh, and when it is that you two are getting married?
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 4:08 pm
Noxness Haha whomever voted c**t made my day <3 Thanks for the kind words. It helps knowing that its not totally unnormal to deal with such a pain in the arse. I talked to my fiance last night, and told him that we need to sit down and make our own decisions and then let them know that we aren't swaying. Regardless.. I hope you get along well with Bella's parents Nor. And Poet, kudos to your hubby for wearing a kilt. I admire that. He didn`t actually wear one, he just really wanted to. Really wanted to.
Like, he begged.
I bought him one for Christmas.
s**t. I just burned my mouth. D:<
Damn cheese sticks.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 6:05 pm
@ Nor: sometime in 2009 gonk
@ Poet: aww thats so thoughtful. I love kilts. I used to be a Scottish dancer when I was a child.
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 7:05 pm
Yeeeeesh.
Honestly, I'm terrified of what my fiance's mother will do with the wedding planning.... and when she finds out we're engaged. She is one of those people that isn't happy unless she's yelling about something, and she honestly just creates her own problems. His stepdad will probably have nothing to do with it, which is fine with me.
Eep. I wish you luck. I know how psycho mothers can be. :<
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 7:14 pm
And this would be a situation I would pull out my trusty bottle o' trazodone for... Bwahaha! >D I hate that stuff like whoa. ...Want some? ninja
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 7:34 pm
@ Tah: Same situation only his mother doesn't yell as much, and the step-dad will just disappear until its time to eat. haha.. Good luck to you though, when you do decide to break the news.
@ Sugrie: heart
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 8:52 pm
There may be many worlds,
But they all share the same sky!
Now I'm not married (in fact, it's illegal for me to be married) but that sounds like my ex-bf's father. I seriously hated going over there. He would never get off the fact that his son was going out with a guy! Drove me insane!
One sky...
One destiny...
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 9:02 pm
My mom and my girlfriend( who I've been with for years now) used to get along but have drifted apart. my guess is because mom doesn't want me to be"taken away from her"... it's annoying as hell!
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Posted: Thu Dec 20, 2007 10:22 pm
ZOMGAsa mom doesn't want me to be"taken away from her" Yus! I know what you mean, and it's not only annoying, but extremely agitating. My mom actually stopped feeding me when I was around because of that. Good thing I had a job at the time. Nox: 2 years is too much of a wait! I'm waiting for '09 as well, and it's not coming any quicker for me. Well actually. Since July, when I made my '09 decision, these 6 months have gone by fairly quickly. Still. I want '09 to be here already.
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 7:53 am
Magadei There may be many worlds,
But they all share the same sky!
Now I'm not married (in fact, it's illegal for me to be married) but that sounds like my ex-bf's father. I seriously hated going over there. He would never get off the fact that his son was going out with a guy! Drove me insane!
One sky...
One destiny... Come to Canada, it's legal here smile . @ Nor: It is and it isnt. I just want to be married, but when you sit down and consider how much planning needs to be done.. a year is sometimes not enough gonk
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Posted: Fri Dec 21, 2007 8:23 am
True. True.
Guess that aspect of it kinda works out.
Keep us updated on the entire situation though. I want to see you have that wedding that you want instead of what your in-law says you should have.
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