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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2008 10:05 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 12:04 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 1:09 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 3:01 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 3:02 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 10, 2008 6:23 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 11:00 am
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 6:47 pm
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I'm grown and gone from the house, and I'm still afraid to tell my parents - though I've discussed it at length with my grandfather, who respects my ideas and my right not to believe. Well, honestly, it's really none of their business... it's unnecessary for them to know.
As for why I'm afraid to tell them straight up that I'm an atheist... my dad is one of those people who must be right. You must agree with him or he gets verbally belligerent. I refuse to talk about politics, religion, interracial dating, etc. in front of him; I learned my lesson about that back in high school when I told him I didn't think there was anything wrong with black people dating white people. I just don't care to find out what his overbearing opinion would be if he were to find out I'm no longer a member of the Christian faith, particularly a non-member who doesn't even believe in god.
My mother knows I'm not a Christian; I told her this a long time ago (just as I was beginning to realize I was an atheist, in fact). She knew that my boyfriend is an atheist, and she was all worried about my soul, and she said that she wanted to make sure that I "didn't have a problem with god" or something. Nearly every time I talk to her she goes off on a tangent about church, and I'm never sure if she does this to hint at me or if that's really all she ever thinks about. I'm inclined to think it's a bit of both. I can just imagine how much worse it would get if she knew about my atheism.
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Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 7:13 pm
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In an ideal world, every person could get out into the world once they Graduate from grade school, and be free to believe what they want without back-lash.
However, we don't live in an ideal world. It is becoming harder to get a job, housing prices (in some areas) are going up, and it's becoming more difficult to move out the moment one graduates.
Many people, get stuck staying with their parents until they are through with college, or at least until they work their way up into a good position, or manage to snag a good room-mate to share an apartment with.
When you live in a place where part of your bills, or your secondary schooling is funded by your parents, telling them you are "Atheist" when they are not, is potentially going to cause a lot of problems, and possible loss of funding for schooling, or being kicked to the curb if one refuses to "repent" and "believe".
For those who are still in grade school, this is always the real threat of severe back-lash for telling parents that they "Don t believe".
For those who move out, they still may never tell them because the stress caused would severely hurt the parents, or cause the parents to cut the child off from their lives completely (which can and does happen.)
That pretty much sums up why some people (or many) are afraid to reveal to their parents that they are atheist.
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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 7:25 pm
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I'm a whore to religion, quite frankly.
If getting up in a church and singing my heart out in front of 100 people, or teaching little kids in Sunday school is going to keep me out of trouble and money flowing in my direction, I will shout Hallelujah every freakin' morning.
Although I'm extremely smart, caring, sensitive, and reasonable, I'm still too young to have my own bank account in the state of Al; I have no job; I live off my parents/relatives' handouts and graces. Masquerading as a Christian is pretty much my livelihood.
I told my mother years ago that I was atheist, and she cried. It was bad, real bad, but she deals with nowadays. By deal, I mean she takes every opportunity to point out how "God is real" or God is good" and how I should return. Fat chance.
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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 10:34 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 15, 2008 3:18 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 1:31 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 3:02 pm
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I come from a religious family. Both my parents are religious: one is Christian and one is Jewish. Both go to services each week, and insisted that I receive the best religious education (Jewish). We constantly talked about God and morals, religious issues......
As soon as I started having doubts I went to my parents. I finally told them, and I must admit they think less of me for it. It's strange because our relationship has changed so much-- I have to be very careful about what I say, or else they get offended. My father especially has given me the cold shoulder.
My family STILL says grace, right in front of me, before dinner every day! They still have Friday night services at my grandparents, holidays like Thanksgiving and Passover are also fun fun fun.... I get glares from my father, and I have no idea how to participate. sad
So, sometimes I wonder, would things be different if I didn't tell them? confused But there's no way to unring that bell. My family has actually been pretty good about letting me express myself, but other families would be waaaaaay worse.
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