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Posted: Sat Aug 02, 2008 6:21 pm
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 6:01 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 6:58 am
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I do agree with Lykoto's statement, but....
If you choose to not go through with the confirmation, and you come out, you may have to deal with rather cruel consequences. I say this as a warning because many a time a family has kicked a member to the curb, alienated them, or institutionalized them for coming out and admitting to not being religious or being atheist.
So you need to think about what is best for you by looking at your family, and looking at your current situation. Are you in High School? Are you going to go to College soon? Do you support yourself? Are you capable of supporting yourself soon? Does your family support you?
You have to be able to deal with the consequences if your family blows things out of proportion. So, if coming out and avoiding hurt right now by telling them what you are means damaging your future, by being kicked to the curb or having funding for college yanked from under your feet, that it is probably not a good idea. It would be a better idea to just go ahead with the Confirmation....and later on if you come out and they are hurt, you can tell them that you only went through with it because of the pressure you felt, and you didn't want to hurt them, and you were afraid of how they would react, or something similar.
Anyway, in my personal opinion Confirmations should be done away with. I don't like them, and your kind of situation is the reason why. You should try to get a good grasp on how your family might react to having an Atheist in the family before choosing what to do.
Tactically fishing for information might help if you are good that. I wish you the best of luck on what ever it is you choose to do.
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 7:33 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 8:29 am
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Posted: Sun Aug 03, 2008 12:13 pm
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Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 3:26 pm
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Faeletti ok guys listen up. i'm supposed to be making my confirmation in October. i don't think my parents know i'm an atheist, and my relatives definitely don't. my entire family, especially my extended family, is very religious and they will be looking forward to my confirmation. i know it means alot to everyone but i don't know what i should do.
Don't do it.
Standing up there in front of all those people. Lying to your family, your friends and allowing yourself to become a suppressed minority. Surely you respect your family enough to not lie to them even if they are too blinded by faith and delusions to see it, and surely you respect yourself enough to not allow yourself to become suppressed and indoctrinated just because its the expected norm.
Keep your dignity, keep your pride, don't be ashamed of showing that you are a rational person, even if other people are ashamed of you for it. They're simply too stupid to be worth your time if they are that bothered by it, and as heart-wrenching as it may be to look upon loved ones and say to yourself "You're self deluded idiots", you know that I'm right about this... trust me, I've looked at people I've sincerely loved and thought "You're quite literally insane", and it hurts, but you should be honest to yourself, or you'll loose any respect you have for yourself.
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Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 11:04 pm
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Posted: Tue Aug 05, 2008 10:12 am
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Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 5:39 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 6:45 pm
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