So, how did it all start?

[MyBlueLacePanties]

Because I'm a curious little person, I'm intrigued to find out what set off your kinks smile
If you have any experiences you'd like to share please post heart

I can't say much, I learnt most of mine from Sicknote heart

 

[Kittyhawk Luvcat]

I don't know when it began, but I used to tie myself up in secret using sashes, ribbons, and necklaces. I thought I was a weirdo for liking it until I came to Gaia and learned what bondage is. I still have only sashes and plastic necklaces to work with, though...  

[darkmoonfox]

This is kind of personal;; But it's all cool;;
I had a boyfriend when I was 14 who was abusive.
And I hated being hit/beat
But one day while having sex, he slapped me and it turned me on hardcore.
And then once we broke up, I would cut and play with knives and it felt amazing; [[weird as it sounds]]
But once I got my first Girlfriend she taught me all about how to please females and had me experiment multiple things [[gags, bondage, etc and so on]] And it just grew from there..
I think that's why I went for abusive males/females
*shrugs*

But now I have a guy who doesn't try anything and it's uber saddening sad  

[MyBlueLacePanties]

I love that all these kinks are just found out! ^^
Not like, seen on porn or whatever then you lot think you'll try it.
Moonshine, it seems an unfortunate relationship benefitted you a lot smile
Though I do wanna hurt this boy rofl

 

[darkmoonfox]

I started watching porn at like age 16..
After I got abused the first time.
Still do ^_^
Luff it. hehe. But I have to watch it when the guy I'm with isn't home
Completely sucks
That's why I'm glad I was welcomed into this guild

 

[illixim]

Well...

a lot of my kinks started when I'd play with my best friend and we'd tie each other up or pretend to be slaves or pets, but my sadism is really linked to my anger, I think. I still have to talk to my mentor about a lot of this, haven't had a moment in private with him for awhile, but I was diagnosed with a mental illness that makes me irrationally angry. I've kept myself under control all of my life, incredibly strictly. I assumed everyone was as angry as I was and they all just hid it.

Being a Master gives me a chance to unleash myself a little. I'm still under control but I can blow off some steam.  

[Siegfried006]

It was a movie really that perked my interest. However, I didnt have anything or anyone to pratice with so it died down. I still dont, but Gaia helps with roleplaying.  

[Gregory Valentine]

I was dating a furry who was deep into bondage and s**t like that, so one day i gave it a shot and discovered that i love it when women bite me while im all chained up ^,..,^  

[Master Ashton Fox]

i will keep it short then.a friend on of mine and me went after the same girl about 7 years ago. i got the girl but she cheated on me with someone else (not my friend) and i walked in on her cheating on me. I started to look far ways to get revenge and i discovered bdsm. I never did anything with the girl and i found out that last year she was raped and now has herpes. Karma is a b***h.  

[Tiina Brown]

Memories:
Schoolyard with a spiderweb -shaped climbing net. After reading an old issue of Spiderman, with a villain caught in a huge web, i took times to sneak out and tie myself up in it .......

Another time, fitted both legs into one leg warmer, and wriggled my arms, while laying down on my back, into the other.

Read "The Blonde" (i think it's called ....)

.......... And so on .......  

[xXxXxXxXxXxXxsh1tz]

D/S related:
I've always had one best female friend and a whole bunch of guy friends.. My best friend would "force" me to do things like scratch, bite, and kick guys in the nuts.. I secretly loved it! This happened on two different occasions.. Once when I was in third grade and another time when I was in 6th grade..

Somnophilia/Sadism:
When I was a kid I always liked to make up games where the good guy would get hurt while trying to save the girl from a bad guy. Out of all the guys in school, I would crush after the ones that had broken bones.. After seeing a guy get hurt, he would become more attractive to me..I don't know where it came from since I was always the best behaved child otherwise.. I never actually sought to hurt guys [other than when the girls told me to do it] even though I immensely enjoyed pictures and fantasizing about it.. The first time I realized I was a sadist was when I found out a friend I was crushing on was a masochist. I had never even imagined that a person might WANT to get hurt and my life has become much happier ever since.. : )

BDSM is a heaven to me.. I have so many fetishes it isn't even funny.. x.n

 

[Shy Risktaker]

I've been in the BDSM lifestyle for two years now. My ex got me into it to begin with. Though, he was very abusive (both physically and mentally), he allowed to explore the BDSM world. There, I found it to be very intersting and something where, I felt like myself. I could express myself. It gave me true pleasure. I feel like it's where I can express myself without judgement. And, it's where you are able to take in alot of trust. As I state in my profile, BDSM requires SOOOO much trust. If you are controlling or the Master then listen; Your slave/pet/ect. is counting on you to care for them, help them in tough times, help with their education, care for their health... Er.. ANYWAYS!! Um.. I do love BDSM.. I love being controlled. Dominated. Being helpless. It fills me with awe. It is the possibly the second thing that brings a smile to my face. First is seeing a new born baby. They is soooo cute!!! ^^ Er.. O_O ... Anyways.. I'm done!!  

[CytheraSaDiablo]

Not to be judgmental, just concerned. It appears that some of you got into this world because of past abuse, which unfortunately gives those on the outside the wrong impression of who and what we are and why. BDSM should be about free and consensual sexual expression, trust and love, and it should come from a positive, healing place. And though it can be intense, it can be fun too wink . That's what I know and that's how most of those I have played with know as well. Call me old fashioned or old guard, but safewords are a rule I never break. Overall, I'm pretty fortunate that I had a rather normal geek childhood.

As for me, I blame reading the gay male classic, Mr. Benson, at a young age and Rob Halford (whom I suspected of being a leather daddy long before he came out lol). I was also curious about the BDSM world because of what people who knew nothing about it were saying. I started doing a lot of reading on the subject, especially the more academic and feminist works, as well as erotic classics like The Beauty trilogy. The submissive aspect didn't fascinate me as much as the Dominant side, but I studied both under a professional Dom before I was allowed to play. It was a great way to learn the rules and my place as a top. And yes, I knew I'd always been happily kinky.  

[Hominus Pyrrhos]

I began my bound life of kinkiness when I first began exploring all kinds of pornographic and sexual materials in the internet. Then as time went on, I began to take delight in the binding of helpless, horny and sometimes even defeated women. I would even practice minor and rather softcore "acts" upon myself. However it wasnt till I started cybering that this really blossomed into a full fledged fetish. Eventually I found a pet/slave of my own and it REALLY took flight hehe tada!  

[TheMerryQueenofHearts]

My...more kinky interests and submissive side came to light when I was dating my last boyfriend. It was a while ago. He had some (what I thought at the time were) bizarre fetishes. He was into force feeding, play cannibalism, big chicks, and stuff like that. He force fed me because I wasn't fat enough enough for him. He's tied me up, put me on a huge silver platter, shoved an apple in my mouth and a carrot in my a** and ******** me on the counter of his parent's kitchen. He has poured hot sauce in my eyes. I didn't enjoy the actual things he did but I enjoyed the humiliation, the pain, and the helplessness of it all. It inspired me to find out what I do like and that's how I got where I am tonight.

And by the way, I'm a super open person. I don't hide anything.