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I don't quite.....After two years you would think there would be a deeper.....emotianal....what a d**k.

I agree.

Amen

hmmm....well, I know what he is say, but he is making it seem like she gained 300 pounds. If he is not attracted to her anymore than that's kind of stupid for how much weight she gained. it's not that much, and attractiveness is a big part of a relationship, at least for a while, but it's not just about how much the person weighs.

I agree that the media is causing overweight people to be viewed in a bad light. I think people that are overweight should at least be trying to be healthy and such, I believe that if someone is overweight and they just sit around eating lots of food and don't care about their health then that's stupid and ignorant.

A lot of people are overweight because it's become easier over the years to be overweight than to be in shape. being overweight isn't bad until you get really overweight and it begins to threaten your health and your abilities, if someone becomes overweight and can no longer perform their jobs, no longer can support a family, or something like that then it's just sick.

there are people that actually have diseases or disorders but people make it seem like fat itself is a disease. some people become overweight because of stress and bad eating habits, some people have a disease or disorder, some people just don't care and it's easier just to be fat. the government is making it so health care companies will pay for people to be fat and will pay for peoples problems.

there is a complete lack of personal responsibility in our society for most people. people don';t want to take responsibility for their health or for their own actions. The media is not helping either. Media shoves an impossibly skinny view of the body down our throats. as well as advertising products to help people lose weight the easy way, but those never work and are unhealthy.

America has an extremely large diet and weight loss industry, one of the largest and fastest growing, and none of it works. it either doesn't work at all, or you lose weight and then just gain it back. Food is becoming more unhealthy and costing less. healthy foods are becoming a diet that only the middle class could afford, and even then it is difficult to afford a lot of healthy food.

but anyways, he is using a basic idea of what a relationship would be to the simplest form of human thought. if they don't look good then they aren't worth dating. but that is something that the media spoon feeds us in order to make us buy things and make us watch more media.

He does need to talk about with her if he has a problem with it, it's not just gonna resolve itself, and he shouldn't be so shallow. I also think confidence is attractive. and I think when people are Happy with themselves it are much funner to be around and much easier to get along with and to even date.

you know what? That girl doesn't need a guy like him. I hope he dumps her. She'll be better off without him.

My girlfriend's chubby, and I've never given a damn about it. I care more about who I see her as, not how she looks. She's asked me if she should lose weight kinda recently, and I told her she can, not should, as long as she doesn't go to the extreme and starve herself until she's completely skin and bones.

Not only would that end up as hideous as would someone who is morbidly obese, but I'd fear about health problems that just about anyone who tried this would have. One of my best friends was concerned about her weight back in middle school, and now what she did then left her messed up now. I'm still hella scared for her, since it went from 'remedy' to disorder. Apparently since America is living so well as opposed to all those other places like 'third-world' countries, barely anyone here cares about their own weights anymore. Over there, if they're skinny as hell, they can't help it. They don't have all the luxuries there that we take for granted here. I think we as Americans are just making it hard on ourselves, and mainstream stuff and whatever's in the media today isn't doing s**t except for making everything worse.

A girl doesn't have to be or become skinny for her man. If he doesn't like it, then it sucks for him, because she doesn't have to stay. At all.

And not all relationships have to be started from physical attractions. Mei's ex loved her because of her willingness to listen and comfort when he needed her. And another one of our friends admitted to me recently that he loved her too because of how she never seemed to change into a stereotypical high school b***h over the years he's known her.

And for anyone in a relationship where 1 wants 2 to change something about them just to make 1 happy, 2 could always have someone better.