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 Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 12:57 pm
I'm not sure what I want pay my boyfriend back with anymore because I can't even compare to the things that he gives me. The only things that I can come up with are sour candy, 360 stuff, and white chocolate whereas he's giving me music, flowers, paying for things. We went to see Star Wars the other night and he paid for our tickets and I literally had to shove a ten dollar bill in his pocket because he wouldn't take it. Another time we went to go get ice cream at my friend's birthday party and this is after I gave him a card saying that I loved him and thank you for a rose that he had given me. What does he do? Take my money and shove it in his pocket, not giving me the chance to pay for my own ice cream. Once again I felt horrible! Then yesterday we went to my school's dance and he shows up with a boque of roses (they were really pretty!! : DD) and a box of Fannie May chocolates (yuummmmmm!!!!!). Then he proceded to buy me dinner after the dance. I don't know what I should do for him! He says that he likes doing these things for me but I feel like I should do more.... ughh....he's so frustrating sometimes....
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Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 2:49 pm
The problem here is that you shouldn't feel like you have to pay him back. If he doesn't want anything from you, forcing it on him might just make him uncomfortable. It really isn't about how much stuff you get for each other, it really doesn't matter. If he wants to get you these things, then that's fine. That's his decision, but you don't have to feel like you need to give him just as much or more. In the end, you can't make someone take anything from you. Doesn't mean you can't always ask if you can buy him something, but yeah.
Though for things like buying your own food and stuff like that, you should probably sit down and talk to him about it. Gifts and stuff aren't a big deal, but I understand you not wanting to him to buy you everything you want/need. He'll probably understand better if you sit down and talk to him calmly about how you feel, and how you'd like to at least pay for your own things since it shouldn't be his responsibility. Tell him it makes you feel bad and he needs to stop.
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 6:32 pm
Yokies The problem here is that you shouldn't feel like you have to pay him back. If he doesn't want anything from you, forcing it on him might just make him uncomfortable. It really isn't about how much stuff you get for each other, it really doesn't matter. If he wants to get you these things, then that's fine. That's his decision, but you don't have to feel like you need to give him just as much or more. In the end, you can't make someone take anything from you. Doesn't mean you can't always ask if you can buy him something, but yeah.
Though for things like buying your own food and stuff like that, you should probably sit down and talk to him about it. Gifts and stuff aren't a big deal, but I understand you not wanting to him to buy you everything you want/need. He'll probably understand better if you sit down and talk to him calmly about how you feel, and how you'd like to at least pay for your own things since it shouldn't be his responsibility. Tell him it makes you feel bad and he needs to stop. I've told him that I feel horrible but he comes back with "Can't I spoil the person I care for?" ugh....he's so stubborn... XD
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 9:03 pm
Then you probably need to be more stubborn yourself. cat_neutral
If he can, so can you. If you don't like it then he needs to slow down. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 10:55 pm
Lol so buy you guys stuff before he has a chance twisted
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