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Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 9:40 am
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No, don't talk of diseased children. Start your own thread for that. xD
This thread is about children though, but in general. They don't have to be diseased. More specifically, children and raising them (especially in regards to religion and morality). Whether or not you plan to spawn, or even without taking your own beliefs into question, I'm curious about what some opinions are on the subject. Some questions I was thinking of- What would you tell them? Do you wait until they ask about so and so going to 'church'? What'd your parents do with you? Any stories in general? And so on.
One of my highschool teachers, the same teacher who felt religion was pretty much needed in order to have good morals, talked a bit about his kids at times. He and his wife kept them away from anything remotely violent or 'bad' on tv. Another teacher was also very sheltered herself, and absolutely spoiled the hell out of her kids who were complete and utter brats. And kind of ironically, they were sheltered kids who threw a lot of violent fits to get their way.
I have two friends who were quite sheltered and in religious families. One is out on her own and doing well in college. The one who had more controlling parents is now living with her boyfriend, dropping out of college, growing/selling shrooms, and using various other drugs. Yet, another friend who has a very religious mother, alot of really bad family issues, but wasn't sheltered, ended up a little more stable. Granted, she does some pot and other things on occasion but she has a job and is thinking about at least community college or something else.
I don't know how trying to actively control how people 'turn out' works at all, or why people really expect it to. So many different factors come into play that I don't see how you can just be strict, or whatever solution you think of, and make everything end up perfect. o.x
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Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 10:58 am
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Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 12:14 pm
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I plan to let my children decide on what path they would like to take in life. Yes, I am an atheist... but if my children want to be christian, so be it.
I was raised in a home where Christianity was forced upon me like you would not imagine. I was sent to conferences, forced to go to church, and so on. I am still here, and I do not like what I am being treated as here. I am atheist, not some diseased person.
I will not force religion on my children. Religion is a thing of choice that YOU decide, not something someone else says for you. If they ask me, I will tell them. If they go to church, I will let them. But, you will not see me going; but I will not discourage them in anyway.
Yes, I know that they can tell people at the church that their mother is an athist and such, and the church can contact me all they would like... you will not see me there.
All it boils down to is how you want to raise children. Would you like to try and make them like you and follow in your footsteps? Or will you give them freedom?
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Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 12:38 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 1:00 pm
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Posted: Fri Mar 24, 2006 2:00 pm
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Posted: Sat Mar 25, 2006 10:45 pm
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 1:10 am
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I'm curious what my sister's going to do with her children. Her first child is due in 8 days. She's Christian, and her husband is agnostic. I don't suppose he'll mind his child(ren) being raised Christian, but the topic of his faith will come up fairly quickly, as I doubt he'll accompany them to Church.
Honestly, I'll try to raise my children in a similar way to how my parents raised me. Certainly, there was Christianity, but my parents have never been big fans of organized religion. Church-going came and went, and was rarely a big part of my life. 2 of their 3 children have ended up agnostic (with atheist leanings in my case or fairly deist, in my brother's case), so religion wasn't exactly force-fed to us. I'll just cut out the church-going, unless I marry a Christian, or man of some faith, and he can take them to worship if he so desires. I would not marry a man with problems with my lack of faith, so our children would hopefully end up open-minded as well.
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 6:34 pm
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 7:05 pm
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