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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 2:17 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 3:28 pm
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You shouldn't have to put up with any of that, nd if they're going to treat you so bad, use their own rules against them. Just walk by and say "huh, you know, I bet "Jesus (or god or whatever)" would look down upon parents who would just stop loving their child". If that doesn't work then you should fight fire with fire, ignore them, you don't need their approval. You can call your freinds from home after public school is over, and your parents aren't so evil that they'd send you to a shitty public school. WHEN they put you in a DECENT public school, trust me, it's not bad. I only spent one year in private school and that was when I was 4, I ******** HATED IT. The teacher always critisized me for everything, as well as peers. I had no freinds and no one to talk to.
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 4:26 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 4:44 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:23 pm
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tearingXheavenXdown This could get kinda long, so prepare yourselves... So I've been working on gradually emerging from my cocoon in little steps. I started with my sister because I have the closest relationship to her in my family, and I knew she'd understand. We had a few discussions, and neither of us hated the other because of our different beliefs. Next came my brother. He didn't take it so well. He sort of stared at me for a moment, then shook his head. "You're just confused," he said. Which, of course, hurt me deeply. I didn't become an atheist needlessly! It wasn't meant to be simply a rebellious action. But unfortunately, I didn't get as much time as I would have liked for telling my parents. They're still a little sore over my oldest brother turning out atheist. One day my sister let it slip, forgetting my mother was in the room. I'll never forget the look on her face. It was horror and dislike and betrayal. "That's a nasty surprise," she eventually stated. I tried to talk to her more about what exactly it was that scared her about atheism. She didn't give me a chance. I avoided her for a couple of days. Then finally my parents sat me down and told me straight out that I was stupid and ignorant for not believing in a god, and if I refused to pray with them I wouldn't get any dinner until I did. They forbade me from using the word "atheist" or even "agnostic" in the house ever again, because, they said, they would send me to public school immediately. To them, the only reason private education is better than public school education is the inclusion of "God" into the curriculum. Why, they thought, should they waste their money if their little daughter was a rotten little disrespectful atheist? I had so much to lose by expressing myself freely. So now I've been shutting myself up and paying lip service to their Catholicism, (and though I don't like to admit it) secretly hating them. I plan to get a job as soon as I can, save my money, and strike out on my own after college. If they don't want to keep the peace with me, why bother keeping the peace with them? Any advice from you guys? Anyone gone through a similar experience? You should shut them up by challenging their own beliefs. In the bible, it says that people CAN NOT force others to believe or else it is a sin. I studied other religions from time to time as of being an Atheist. :3
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:44 pm
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Captain_Shinzo tearingXheavenXdown This could get kinda long, so prepare yourselves... So I've been working on gradually emerging from my cocoon in little steps. I started with my sister because I have the closest relationship to her in my family, and I knew she'd understand. We had a few discussions, and neither of us hated the other because of our different beliefs. Next came my brother. He didn't take it so well. He sort of stared at me for a moment, then shook his head. "You're just confused," he said. Which, of course, hurt me deeply. I didn't become an atheist needlessly! It wasn't meant to be simply a rebellious action. But unfortunately, I didn't get as much time as I would have liked for telling my parents. They're still a little sore over my oldest brother turning out atheist. One day my sister let it slip, forgetting my mother was in the room. I'll never forget the look on her face. It was horror and dislike and betrayal. "That's a nasty surprise," she eventually stated. I tried to talk to her more about what exactly it was that scared her about atheism. She didn't give me a chance. I avoided her for a couple of days. Then finally my parents sat me down and told me straight out that I was stupid and ignorant for not believing in a god, and if I refused to pray with them I wouldn't get any dinner until I did. They forbade me from using the word "atheist" or even "agnostic" in the house ever again, because, they said, they would send me to public school immediately. To them, the only reason private education is better than public school education is the inclusion of "God" into the curriculum. Why, they thought, should they waste their money if their little daughter was a rotten little disrespectful atheist? I had so much to lose by expressing myself freely. So now I've been shutting myself up and paying lip service to their Catholicism, (and though I don't like to admit it) secretly hating them. I plan to get a job as soon as I can, save my money, and strike out on my own after college. If they don't want to keep the peace with me, why bother keeping the peace with them? Any advice from you guys? Anyone gone through a similar experience? You should shut them up by challenging their own beliefs. In the bible, it says that people CAN NOT force others to believe or else it is a sin. I studied other religions from time to time as of being an Atheist. :3 They claim to do it out of concern for my immortal soul. And they seem really bitter about it. But... cool. smile
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:45 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 21, 2009 5:54 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 7:07 am
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tearingXheavenXdown Raticiel Oh my, it's always darkest under the lantern. Of course I know a similar story. My brother, 10 years ago he got married but it was a civil wedding, no church involved (they didn't have that much of money to make such a fest). Half of family hated him for that, even now when they just "fixed" that problem they're still hated. And what's more: after the 2nd wedding they started breaking up a little. A bad omen? Perhaps all the strife related to their relationship strained it. If it was tenuous to begin with, though, maybe it couldn't be helped. I hate how much the church claims not to be secular, yet it still begs and wheedles for your money even more pathetically than an infomercial. So true, for example I can't stand the moment when my father gives an envelope filled with some pretty green to our wonderful priest in order to perform the mass for dead relatives. Maybe that's just a custom but still I find this... disgusting.
And yeah, they had more problems than that, and the biggest one is, of course, money... It's hard to make start your own family and stories like this make me afraid of getting married ever xd
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 7:22 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 9:01 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 1:54 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 3:49 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 4:03 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2009 5:37 pm
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