16-bit Jazzy
Transgender, right? I don't have a problem with TG people, I just don't really understand them.
Like, men and women are not THAT different. I look/dress like a woman, but if I randomly woke up tomorrow with a man's body then I could adjust to that, too. Like, whatever... it doesn't make that much of a difference aside from like that it affects who will date you, and (statistically) your job opportunities and health, and whether you can give birth. I probably don't have any problem just taking what I was born with and going with it either way.
Idk. I guess gender is just more important to other people?
I have a friend who just doesn't want to be a man or a woman and I'm just like, am I supposed to refer to you as "it"? You have a vag, just be "she". You don't have to even act look and act feminine but you could still admit that you were born a woman...
I feel so closed-minded and terrible for thinking like this.
It's more complex than that, though.
A big factor in transitioning for trans individuals is gender dysphoria. I can't really comment on what it's like, but have someone else's attempt:
[url=http://www.autostraddle.com/radical-self-care-25-ways-of-making-my-body-dysphoria-smaller-and-quieter-146649/]Autostraddle[/url]
If you’ve never had body dysphoria, let me explain a little bit about how it makes me feel and why I have it. Body dysphoria feels like the worst-fitting outfit you’ve ever put together, but you can never take it off. Or sometimes it’s more like a pebble in your shoe, or a belt that digs into your side, or a tiny thing that is just noticeable enough to throw your day off. Some days I wake up and it’s just there. Some days it’s because I tried to fit my not-so-masculine body into my masculine clothes, and the parts that didn’t fit made me want to scream and disappear and puke up all my guts at the same time. It can grow into a scary place where I don’t know if my body belongs to me, and I feel like I’ve been detached from something essential and am about to wash out to sea. Maybe a picture makes me hate and fear the body I don’t have because it’s not the body I wish I had. Maybe I think that the someone I desire won’t desire me because I don’t look like all the handsome cisgendered men they probably grew up loving. Maybe it doesn’t make sense why I feel these things, but I still feel them and they still hurt, darn it.
It's possible that you'd be okay and adjust if you were suddenly a man, and that's fine. You're probably not the only person in that position. I don't know if I'd be able to deal with it myself, though.
There are also societal factors. Someone is physically male but identifies as female and hasn't (or doesn't) transition. So every day people see them and assume that they're male and refer to them as he/him/man/etc., or by a name that is usually gendered. If they use the bathroom in a public space, that bathroom will probably be gendered. If they feel that they want to be more feminine, a lot of people won't respond well. It can potentially be an issue in friendships or romantic relationships. To say nothing of people who are aware of the person being trans and not really respecting it (I've seen a few trans people mention family and acquaintances continuing to use the wrong pronouns and buy the wrong gender clothing and whatnot despite being told about the person being trans). There are people who decide not to transition, but it's also pretty understandable why a person might want to transition when you look at the bigger picture.
Regarding pronouns, 'they' can be used as a singular gender-neutral pronoun and it doesn't have the connotations 'it' does. If your friend doesn't like being referred to as 'he' or 'she', I'd say use 'they'. That's what I use in essays when I'm writing about a hypothetical person.
Shipping:
You ship all of the inners, but not Uranus/Neptune? You are dead to me.Shipping doesn't seem to be restricted to non-canon pairings or being super obsessive about it, which means that anyone who wants the main couple to get together in a romance movie ships them. Most of the time I stick to this level with canon or really subtext-heavy pairings. I do tend to get really invested in pairings involving canon GLBT characters though, probably because they've been limited for so long and because people are quick to pull the THEY'RE JUST FRIENDS argument. And both of the big Madoka Magica pairings, although there's a fair amount of support for Madoka/Homura in the show.
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