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 Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2006 6:28 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 8:29 am
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 11:49 am
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 5:23 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 6:35 pm
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yalie5 Tokioka @yalie: Yup, that's me. sweatdrop My friend says I'm 'quirky'... in other words - plain disturbed. xd really? i just thought you were queer rofl |
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 6:47 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 6:58 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 7:02 pm
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Tokioka yalie5 Tokioka @yalie: Yup, that's me. sweatdrop My friend says I'm 'quirky'... in other words - plain disturbed. xd really? i just thought you were queer rofl What do you mean?
that your gay * holds down her laughter rofl but does nto elak it out laughs inside btu she does nto eman that he is trully gay she simply joked btu she didn't say so out loud* |
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 7:13 pm
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kyoslove74 Tokioka @B&B: I don't think I mind missing out on the relationship. I used to, but now I don't care about anything anymore so it doesn't seem to be something I can be bothered to work on. Although I didn't love my parents I used to love my brother, but that bond has also weakened over the years as I matured. Now I don't love him either and I find myself consciously pushing him further and further away from me. It's as if I actually want him to dislike or even hate me, which is just weird. toki maybe you need to be away from yuor brother for a while maybe you guyes shoudl talk over on what soemthigns that triggered your dirft as you matured its better to have your siblings treat you right and you treat them right if you die you would eb taking the kids you would ahve to eb nice tot hem not a mean as bioch
Well he's 11 and I'm soon to be 18, and to be honest, I can't be bothered to invest any time or effort in our relationship. The way I see it is I'm going to uni soon so I'll see a lot less of him anyways. So I'll just patch things up with him when we're older and he's caught up with me in terms of maturity. 3nodding |
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 7:14 pm
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kyoslove74 Tokioka yalie5 Tokioka @yalie: Yup, that's me. sweatdrop My friend says I'm 'quirky'... in other words - plain disturbed. xd really? i just thought you were queer rofl What do you mean? that your gay * holds down her laughter rofl but does nto elak it out laughs inside btu she does nto eman that he is trully gay she simply joked btu she didn't say so out loud* |
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 7:17 pm
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Tokioka kyoslove74 Tokioka @B&B: I don't think I mind missing out on the relationship. I used to, but now I don't care about anything anymore so it doesn't seem to be something I can be bothered to work on. Although I didn't love my parents I used to love my brother, but that bond has also weakened over the years as I matured. Now I don't love him either and I find myself consciously pushing him further and further away from me. It's as if I actually want him to dislike or even hate me, which is just weird. toki maybe you need to be away from yuor brother for a while maybe you guyes shoudl talk over on what soemthigns that triggered your dirft as you matured its better to have your siblings treat you right and you treat them right if you die you would eb taking the kids you would ahve to eb nice tot hem not a mean as bioch Hard to read... but I get what you mean. Sorta. wink Well he's 11 and I'm soon to be 18, and to be honest, I can't be bothered to invest any time or effort in our relationship. The way I see it is I'm going to uni soon so I'll see a lot less of him anyways. So I'll just patch things up with him when we're older and he's caught up with me in terms of maturity. 3nodding
smiels I'm glad that you understand but don't wait too long to patch things up |
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 9:20 pm
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BlacksandBlues Thankies guys. biggrin That makes me feel better... Well, not that there's anything I can do anymore about my relationship with my parents, but knowing you can say something is sweet. I have two great best friends (there are obviously the bad times with them, but they're good listeners), and I do usually tell them most of my personal issues, but I dunno, I feel that writing it is easier, and getting responses is even better... Especially when they're from people of my culture (this is not a racist commenty thingy...)... But yesh, thank you very much. @yalie: What your mum said is very... sad. I really feel for you. There are times when my mum goes on and on about how it'd be better off she she died and went to heaven. In her words in Chinese, "she doesn't have the eyes to see"... That's the exact translation, doesn't make any sense, lol. What hurts so much is that I DO have this good relationship with them, and I DO value them more than my friends, admittedly. I don't know what on earth I would do without them... or my brother. My brother's my rock, pretty much.
I keep most things from my parents and tell my friends. I've learned that my parents have different thoughts from mine; they'll respond differently than I would've wanted them to... My friends understand better. That's why. I tell my brother, Ken, too, but sometimes he's too young... sweatdrop If I ever tried (and I have) to tell my parents something, I always get the wrong response, always end up arguing. I gave up on trying to talk to them long ago... Well, we still argue, but I don't tell them everything.
I do argue with my parents a lot, usually started separately, but once I start an argument with one, he/she would tell the other and the other would have a go at me, then both of them. It's really... stressing, having to cope with that. I don't want to fight, I just want to say what I think. After all the arguing, every time I even "debate" with them, I get stressed, loud and argumentative (just... a reaction, habit, I fear), which makes my parents even more angry (they think I have an attitude problemo....). I'm only ever like that with my family (as in, moody, loud, argumentative, bitchy), and my parents keep going on how I respect teachers not them, how I value my friends more, etc. But I can't stop myself being "unrespectful". I can't. I find it hard not to answer back, because my dad especially, says the most... annoying things in the world. It's... infuriating, is all I can say! sweatdrop sad
But yesh, it's fine, yalie... I didn't expect you could help me, but knowing that you're there is great.... very comforting. biggrin @Toki: I would most definitely die for my parents. They're two of the most important people in my life. The other being my ickle brother. xd But the arguments make me sad, due to our great relationship. It only started going wrong when I started... well, growing up. My views changed, I wanted much more freedom.
It sounds terrible for you... Do you mind not having that relationship with your parents? For me, since I've grown up like this, it's difficult imagining myself not being looked after by my parents, so I need them, but at the same time despise having to argue with them and live with them sometimes. Gah, it's confusing! confused I will never end up cutting them out of my life, due to this fact... I'm too reliable on them... sad @Toki and yalie: I have been having dinner with my family for every day I am at home for the last ffiteen years of my life. sweatdrop When I'm angry with them I don't say anything. In a sense, I used to think I had the perfect family; totally unaware there were such things as family problems... Now I know very well.... My brother's starting to grow up too; that'll be a blast... He seems to be showing symptons of rebelliousness... *sigh* Like me. And that too is slightly blamed on yours truly. I'm a bad influence. sad Makes me feel like I'm not doing a good enough job; just makes me feel like I hate myself even more than I already do...@Niph: wow, you went to Bristol? eek Goodness... On foot?! I'm glad your parents loosened up a bit... biggrin
I agree with you about taking parents for granted and stuff. Ditto for the culture thing. I do take my parents for granted... I just do, and I admit it shamefully.... sad @JhonnyRaincloud: o.O;; WHY? Why did you scratch your cavity?? What in god's name provoked you to do such a strange thing?
Meh. I was only in 1st grade. Didn't know a thing about cavities and my mom was scary with the explanation with cavities. So, being the rocket scientist as I was six years ago, I scratched them. And broke a nail for the first time. Man it was annoying. It hurt everytime I tried to move it.Then, I got so scared I started to brush my teeth like 24/7 and the cavities went away. I'm like the only person who has clean, nice teeth now. =D smile <----Look at the nice teeth. |
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 9:22 pm
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Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2006 10:44 pm
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Tokioka kyoslove74 Tokioka @B&B: I don't think I mind missing out on the relationship. I used to, but now I don't care about anything anymore so it doesn't seem to be something I can be bothered to work on. Although I didn't love my parents I used to love my brother, but that bond has also weakened over the years as I matured. Now I don't love him either and I find myself consciously pushing him further and further away from me. It's as if I actually want him to dislike or even hate me, which is just weird. toki maybe you need to be away from yuor brother for a while maybe you guyes shoudl talk over on what soemthigns that triggered your dirft as you matured its better to have your siblings treat you right and you treat them right if you die you would eb taking the kids you would ahve to eb nice tot hem not a mean as bioch Hard to read... but I get what you mean. Sorta. wink Well he's 11 and I'm soon to be 18, and to be honest, I can't be bothered to invest any time or effort in our relationship. The way I see it is I'm going to uni soon so I'll see a lot less of him anyways. So I'll just patch things up with him when we're older and he's caught up with me in terms of maturity. 3nodding
@kyo: he's here and he's queer and your typos are making my eyes water... i think i'll go to sleep now... |
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Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2006 3:47 am
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kyoslove74 Tokioka kyoslove74 Tokioka @B&B: I don't think I mind missing out on the relationship. I used to, but now I don't care about anything anymore so it doesn't seem to be something I can be bothered to work on. Although I didn't love my parents I used to love my brother, but that bond has also weakened over the years as I matured. Now I don't love him either and I find myself consciously pushing him further and further away from me. It's as if I actually want him to dislike or even hate me, which is just weird. toki maybe you need to be away from yuor brother for a while maybe you guyes shoudl talk over on what soemthigns that triggered your dirft as you matured its better to have your siblings treat you right and you treat them right if you die you would eb taking the kids you would ahve to eb nice tot hem not a mean as bioch Hard to read... but I get what you mean. Sorta. wink Well he's 11 and I'm soon to be 18, and to be honest, I can't be bothered to invest any time or effort in our relationship. The way I see it is I'm going to uni soon so I'll see a lot less of him anyways. So I'll just patch things up with him when we're older and he's caught up with me in terms of maturity. 3nodding smiels I'm glad that you understand but don't wait too long to patch things up
Now that I see it, Toki, and only voicing my opinion here... If you think you would LIKE a relationship with your bro, then it's now or never... Plainly because when you're all older, he may blame you for not trying to be close to him when he was younger. Or he may not interested anymore cause you weren't when he was a child. At the age of 11, an older brother has some influence on his views on stuff... It's easier to bond at a younger age than as an adult. As a kid, there's more to get through with other's help, and if he does need any help, support, advice, now would be the time. Even if you're gonna move away soon... There's still half a year left, right? I know if there are bonds it's gonna be hard to detach yourself, but at least when you're older, it'll be easier to patch things up as you're already half way... It's eaiser to bond with kids than adults, as I said.
Oookay, that was long... Eheh, you may not agree with me, but yesh, whatever you do, I'll be behind you... Everyone has to make decisions, and I'm not here to change them.
Quote: Meh. I was only in 1st grade. Didn't know a thing about cavities and my mom was scary with the explanation with cavities. So, being the rocket scientist as I was six years ago, I scratched them. And broke a nail for the first time. Man it was annoying. It hurt everytime I tried to move it.Then, I got so scared I started to brush my teeth like 24/7 and the cavities went away. I'm like the only person who has clean, nice teeth now. =D <----Look at the nice teeth.
Aha, I had fixed braces for... three years, and the retainers. It hurt like hell sometimes, but now I have perfectly straight teeth! mrgreen Yay! But they're yellowy... God, I'm a terrible teeth-brusher. sweatdrop xd
Quote: @B&B - I live in Bristol.. @Everyone else in general - I have dinner with my parents when we're all at home. I'm mainly with B&B on most things.. but just that I hate conflict with people I love so to avoid it I tend to supress myself even when I feel I'm in the right just so I don't have to argue..
Ah, right, GOT IT! xd
Yeah, I'm pretty much always with my family, hence why we're close. One thing that does irk me though is I'm not allowed to ever close my bedroom's door unless I'm changing... Ya know, I don't think my parents get this whole "Teenage privacy" business... They don't like my loud music either, but there's nothing they can do to stop that, lol...
Quote: Quote: really? i just thought you were queer What do you mean?
AHAHAHA!!! *laughs maniacally*
Quote: lol why don't you shout all the things you just said to us to your parents along with "Would you like me to be your slave too?!?! Would like me to marry some old fat rich guy to give you face?! Do you like knowing that you're killing me?! Would you like me to die? If you want me to I'll kill myself right now!! Save you the trouble of paying for anymore expenses!" lol. sorry, but if i had your parents that's what I would say. anyway don't worry about what my mother said to me. When I was that little I cared and cried alot, but now that I'm older I know how to make it good for me, and how things like that can be beneficial for me and I wish sooo much that she'd say that again, and really stop being my mother. make things so much simpler... but then I wouldn't know what to call. just like that time... I don't think I called her anything. Of course I'd have to be respectful to my teachers. I have to see my teachers everyday, and they'll be writing my letters of recommendations, and my grades and transcripts too. If they didn't then I would've told them all to stfu and go jump in a river along time ago lol. anyways I don't care much about brining my family close together. It's been this way, with each of us being seperated for so long that now that my dad is starting to show intrest in my life is strange, unsettling, twilight-zone ish and a nuisance. As for my little brother... yeah I'm a bad influence on him. My mom says that I'm the only one he listens to. Too bad I don't really care much. And he is now currently self sufficient also. Basic neccesities such as food, clothing and a roof over our heads we need our parents for, but that's about it. I just need to get my license and we're pretty much taking care of ourselves and we like it that way. It gives us a taste of the real world and independance that I don't want to give up. And my little brother really is taking after me, except for the video games part. Maybe he'll grow up to be a nice little dictator after all. lol
I would love to yell all that.... I just don't. xd Even I can't go that far... But sometimes I just wanna pour my whole soul out.
Lol, my little bro is obsessed with gaming. He got a PSP last year in Hong Kong. Now he's just been given the DS plus three new games. xd It was his reward for passing an exam, etc. My parents still refuse to get things like the Playstation. I used to love gaming as well; still do. Just not obsessed with it as my brother. I prefer the net. mrgreen |
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