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 Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2023 1:55 am
Aye, glad they got the cat that can be trusted more as idk how I'd react as a great uncle then atm for I got my dark side being both a Millennial born in 1993 & a Slytherin whom was all "Well I did warn you one of the cats may not be as friendly as she's younger and spooked by people quite easily that's how I got my bed time only shirt."
But in truth I'm a kind one so I would most likely in reality go get them a band-aid to put on the scratch(es) made by my young fur baby, while saying the snarkiest comment of "So what did we babies learn about the young baby kitty just seconds ago?"
As for size of cats I'm not going to lie I do badly want the giant maine coon for they're fluffy & large I hope they'll magically scare people I don't want coming by our home away thinking we got a big overly hairy dog at times, but due to their size and my great nieces and nephews (going all wide family statement though so far in home only had my older niece's kids I'd baby sit so far here.) atm I worry to get a much larger cat as spooked those fur babies can rip chunks off an actual baby in my mind which I'd laugh see happening to some random jerky child that came around bugging me before I like a mature adult decided to go get the med-kit for them, but for blood family/friend's kids (if my friends with kids visited with their children.) I'm more "Nah I'm not that evil today, it's funny but they're babies of my family's/friend's bloodline which means we already got enough issues." (cause let's be honest I know I'm dark and I accepted it, and I know with my own family we aren't so connected all the time hence I why I had my worry with family moving moments. As for friends I remember all of us in high school still so i can tell stories of our mistakes/shenanigans be it unwanted by the parent that is my friend for days.)
My favorite weirdest fact about us Slytherins on books that holds ironically true for a load of us is we're like you in Ravenclaw but we're also emotionally driven too on our choices to read a book, so in reality our reading habits get wild.
Example during moments I'm happier in mood if I find a book (or really anything that interest me.) I can read most of it in a day, but on an off day I'll go either randomly read a thing I hate to read normally to torment myself suddenly or I'll read what I like less as much as I normally would.
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2023 2:07 am
The horribleness of myself is later today (as it is 3 am here...) is the fact that I got to babysit sometime my older niece's kids I mentioned, but here I am horribly not sleeping as idk what forces are stopping me from doing so... 
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2023 10:54 am
My godchildren already had cats at home, so I didn't have to worry much if my boys HAD swiped at them. (Their pa was literally like "Well, they'll learn eventually to avoid an angry cat after enough scratches." ) Hilariously, my cats were better with them than their cats at home; their cats would swipe at them for no reason (perhaps the cats thought the children were playthings?), and my boys adjusted quickly to "well, this is just life, if we're tired of tiny child hands, we move out of range of tiny child hands."
I really am the person that responds with "What did we learn?" when someone, child or otherwise, does something that ends poorly. >>; I will make sure they're okay first, but then I am sarcastic and/or snarky and will probably laugh at them if they were doing something whose results could be logically concluded.
My beau's 'rents had a Maine coon mix! His name was Logan, he was known as the "thousand dollar cat" because he was hit by a car and had to have a lot of reconstructive work done, but he survived the experience. He lost most of his tail, and with all the other damage they missed some comparably minor damage in one of his front legs, so it healed permanently bent at the elbow, but he was still the bane of chipmunks and got on perfectly well in life. He was enormous, but he was a giant, lovey baby, I think all of his violence was solely reserved for his crusade against chipmunks. He liked when I visited because I was willing to carry him with me everywhere.
I think the best way to ensure a cat like that would grow to be fine with kids, is to acclimate them when they're kittens. (Like therapy/support cats are taken out to all manner of public spaces with the people that raise them, and strangers that approach are encouraged to interact with them so they get used to those interactions.) Otherwise, the best solution would probably be to have a "cats only" space where the kids can't go.
Books are my "happy place" so I try to torment myself as little as possible where they're involved. (Which is easy for the most part, there isn't much I don't like to read, but I hate it when I'm reading a decent book and then a steamy scene comes up out of nowhere, blech.) If I'm far enough into an okay book and it suddenly starts to be... not great, though, I will still read to the end no matter how much I hate it. (It would feel like a huge waste to get that far and then just... give up. Mama didn't raise a quitter.)
I WILL willingly subject myself to things I hate when I have the right motivation. Like my local library does this "book bingo" thing, a reading challenge where you read books to fulfill certain requirements like "one word title" or "LAMBDA award winner" or "afrofuturism," and you get a chance at a reward when it's over if you fill lines of squares, and a chance at a bigger reward if you fill them all. I may not be interested in a square's theme, but I will absolutely put myself through literary hell to fill it.
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Posted: Sat Mar 11, 2023 11:58 am
Slytherins and Ravenclaws really seem to not too different with our books, minus some of us are stranger mannered with books. Mainly me with the weird "I'm going to torment myself with a disliked book on a bad day and none will stop me!" behavior, but in reality I rarely get that bad as I will start then be all "I want to feel good again..." and then read a book I love. (I can't begin to explain my own reading logic tbh.)
As for sassy/snarky remarks we all seem fair grounds with maybe possibly only me getting meaner sounding, but that can be due to my home life of living in a small town with small town people that sassed and snarked on their own I just picked it up, add in my grandpa on dad's side was fully Irish & moved to America which is basically saying he was 100% snarky sass man my dad got the same so I feel I'm basically following too. (Sarcasm is also high up there at times.)
Like say a kid is all "I'm going to shove this fork in the outlet." I'll be all "Aw yes do it for YOU'LL HAVE ALL THE SUPERPOWERS once you do & TOTALLY be fine from the electrical shocks." Honest we're a dangerous bunch here in town.
As for cat talk I assumed that'd be way I would do it if I got a large sized cat most, or any cat again really due to facts kitten only didn't get that training and exposures for the obvious reasons of Covid making most keep home alone unless had tenants/roommates. xp
Side note as still haven't gotten picked up to babysit yet my babysitting is either going to be hell, or angelic as 5/6 of my niece's children are grounded for having destroyed their bathroom.
So I'll either have to keep the five grounded ones in room by force with reminders of their mom will end them when she's back and hears they been trying to actively keep out of their rooms grounded, or they'll be good and stay in their rooms until dinner to eat then head back to their rooms with very little to no complaints at all. (And honest like most, I pray it's the behaved route for I may be their fun uncle atm, but push my buttons too much disobeying rules I'm going to do what was done to literally all of us elders to them kids for being disobedient to rules, and we all know how that goes.)
Thankfully shockingly to me when I do babysit them at their own place they've so far been good obeying all the rules, so as of late they're two out of three times obeyed rules with this being the third time babysitting at their place now.
So I'd love it to keep a perfect record of I didn't have to go adulting the adult I didn't want to adult until my own kids if I have any, and even if I had my own kids tbh I wouldn't want to adult that adult still for whom wants to do all that got to punish kids stuff unless they got to do it?! (and thankfully my buttons not been pushed to that by them kids, or those kids behaved fully.)
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Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2023 3:29 am
So plans of babysitting got wild as changes got made so my older niece had them here, things went okay minus I fear we lost our cat bed/tunnel as the zipper is jamming a lot & also in the middle of the place it's suppose to be to actually close up correctly. xp
Any ways we lived, nothing too horrid happened. But same time I died for hours and got up just now wide awake feeling but it's 4am here so idk what to do as I am all "I should keep asleep but here we are." too.
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Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2023 11:13 am
Maybe that's why I get on so well with Slytherins, then. Anyone that likes a good book is okay to me!
Oh wow, full Irish! The would, indeed, be a lot of sass and snark!
I know there's a lot of Irish ancestry in my family tree (I got the "never tan, only burn" Irish skin to prove it), but it's pretty far back, so I never knew any of them.
Hah, we'd have similar reactions to the outlet thing! Got to have my moment for that recently, actually, my cats were thinking very seriously about licking an outlet, and normal people would probably stop them, but I'm just sitting there like "No no, watch this, a very important lesson is about to be learned."
My long-haired cat learned a very important lesson about stove tops once. He set his tail on fair on a gas range by napping on it. The beau's 'rents were watching them at the time, and they freaked out a bit about how we'd react, but I just shrugged and asked if he had learned not to nap on the stove after that. (He did, but their whole house smelled like burnt hair for a week, I think they suffered more than my cat.)
Ope, yeah, covid peak times would make it very hard to socialize a pet.
I suppose I've mostly just been lucky, getting cats with good natures that don't seem to care much about kids or dogs or anything, because I've never really set out to socialize any of mine. (Not least of all because half of my cats I adopted already fully grown.) It's not like I get many visitors, anyway, so it's never been something I've worried much about.
Oh wow, with that many of them in on it, it had to have been the mother of all messes, I'd guess.
Glad things went fairly smoothly, though!
I've never had a good relationship with the zippers on the cat tunnels, they've always been really temperamental for me. =w=; And they're always the finnicky little plastic toothed ones, too, which makes them near impossible to fix. If only they were metal, I could probably fix them. cat_crying
My beau and I kind of had a whole "good cop, bad cop" thing going with the kids when we watched them. I don't LIKE to punish anyone, child or otherwise, and being too quick to punish isn't really good for children, anyway, so I do my best to try to explain and bargain instead. ("We need to pick up the toys so we don't accidentally step on them and break them, I'll help, and we can have a snack when we're done" works far better than getting angry.) But sometimes there have to be consequences, which is when the beau would come in with time out on the couch. (From the way the kid would cry about it, you'd think sitting on the couch with his hands under a pillow was the worst torture ever invented.) I am, luckily, an incredibly patient person, and the boys were usually good about following rules, especially if you explained the whys and treated them like functioning individuals who could make their own choices, so we didn't have more than just a few sobbing time out sessions.
Heyyy, I was up at about that time in my time zone, too!
I couldn't get my brain to shut up, so I wound up doing some puzzles for a few hours until I finally got tired again and could go back to sleep. Then I slept 'til almost noon. c':
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Posted: Sun Mar 12, 2023 3:48 pm
Lucky for us I can share that thankfully our cat tunnel is a metal zipper kind. As for getting it fixed up we're slowy but surely doing so. Being honest my closet two friends in my life I loved talking to most are a couple together and they're literally like you & your husband. My friend Andrew Lamb whom falls into being the nerdy & dark humored sort of Slytherin (which tbh is same for me which is why he's probably my go to hang out choice of friend even being all the way in Logan Utah.) & with him follows his being honest dorky Ravenclaw wife full of more dad jokes than a dad & always reading plenty of books & completing giant puzzles by herself while raising her senior aged fur baby Simon. So Ravenclaw & Slytherin are the nerd herd (with the Slytherin imo being the goth friend that's a nerd but wears more gothic attires idea. If that makes any sense what I'm trying to say here.) Which makes us always hang out doing a book club which we're probably suggesting darker themed things if not more "NSFW" in the regards of gore reads (like a murder mystery novel that had to explain for one murder how it looked as it gives away the clues to whom done it if you remember all the characters you read of before kind of books.) which isn't a imo "NSFW" book but our library in town & my old schools I attended as a child still labels them in that group today along with actual basically 50 shades of grey style books. As sometimes it's fun to read a dark book or enjoy dark things (which for a Slytherin is possibly why we hang with more in our house too, as we're a weird bunch whom love the dark things of gothic attire, aesthetics, some punk things & so on just "darkness lover" things.) Aye covid is the worse of times that I still feel we ain't done, and tbh idk if our world is saying we are are or aren't done, but seeing as I haven't seen news online about it I'm wildly guessing/assuming our world says we're done now. But my wallet on the other hand says we ain't as I'm still struggling in money and slowly getting better now in time again. Tbh I'm worried as heck though that we're going to see another in our time now great depression as I've heard news how not a lot of people are doing as hot like I am with their own wallets. (Wallets here standing for just cash in general as I loosely just say wallet for all of it as I hate idea of just bank accounts all the time.) But honestly I have heard a lot of news within my friends and family about how our bank accounts ain't all doing too well with my year older nephew sharing his party of eight people dropped to two for his Disney vacation plans so now it's just him and his friend which happened due to bank accounts of the other six struggling so they're watching their wallets, my nephew himself is being weary how he works his own wallet, my roommate/tenant Nathan is struggling here and there with his own money case but getting by in time payments for the rent here & all else he needs to pay so surviving but again struggling along, & my friend and his wife in Logan Utah I mentioned are also watching their spending as they too. For my family, Regina my older niece you overheard me sharing her case of 2019+ and all so she's watchful of her own, my older sisters Tina and Claudia are watching their own, my eldest brother Chris is watching his, and just making this all shorter everyone I know in my own family is watching their spending more & wishing they could all help out with my case as tbh I'm the worse off one. My dang town I live in wanted to charge a lot of money for living here when I didn't have it easily cause of bills doing the same for Covid, so I'm in the highly stressful & anxiety rising all the time negative numbers in my wallet for money (minus my rl wallet is holding $20 atm.) for my own self (which is why I try best not to go long about this sort of stuff as I will horribly not wanting to break out my teenage years me times and be the 50% regular words and 50% curses speaking if I go on.) But it's all bad as even online friends I talk to regularly have stated times are also tough on them. (And personal for me things again, in my town I seen prices go nuttier than the normal nuts I seen with one bag full of only six sticks of jerky rising from a good $7.50 to a whole extra $10 being now at $17.50 before taxed.) it's so bad I'm on the moment of I will order carry out and walk to Dominos now to walk back home later with my food & I got to sadly do two jay walkings to do so as my town sucks and wont listen to me on putting a much close to them cross walk on the road to walk across safely! (but that is another grump tale.) point is prices are bad, wallets of the world are bad, and I'm here all "we're in bad times I hope we don't hit great depression of the year 2023 or even 2024." as learning about it in History I'm scared to live it irl, mostly cause I'm one lucky last bits of the millennials born in 1993 to have gotten to owning my home paying it off with mostly the help of family being kind to give me the money for selling dad's old home I wanted to live in more as I was use to it most, & thus basically I was using "my own money" then to pay this mortgage all off by 2020 ironically. So I'm dreadfully tbh most fearful if we do fall into a rough great depressions times of this year or next losing my home like the few people did back in the great depression as I just got my home in my mind still. (and it's a great feeling for me as most my other older than me by just a couple years friends from back in school still are paying off their own mortgages, living with parents still now, or renting a place out even with having their own family now.) Any way moving on away from that all so I'm not there all this time. Babysitting was fun still to me as I do love my great nieces and nephew they're good kids even if you got to know they are kids (so you go recalling how awful you were as one and then get all "oh s**t I hope they wont." as you then go look to be extra sure.) then you have the fun add ons of being born in 1993 and your only younger than you groups you remember is the Gen Z bunch of "I'm eat this tide pod." & you think two things "what the hell you Gen Z child." than you look over at your Gen Alpha great nieces & go "don't you little shiz be them!" as your mind wildly runs dumb things of your own and the Gen Z group you seen/heard about group things they can all go doing. (man the more we chat the more we go both saying here it's gotten to we got to go make quote than our next or else pages will change to next one much faster. And even then cause of our longer shares we're already sending some to next page after maybe 5 to 7 post on one now it feels.)
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2023 11:55 am
Oh, yay, a metal zipper, all hope is not yet lost! It's a time consuming ordeal to put them to rights, but is usually within the realm of possibility, unlike the the ones with tiny plastic teeth. Not sure how well it actually works, but my ma swears by rubbing bar soap on a stuck metal zipper when it gets stuck. (I always just meticulously work the teeth and pull until I get it set to rights again. Slotted the whole length of zipper teeth back together once to save a bag after the zipper inexplicably parted. Took forever, but it was worth it to me.)
Ahh, they sound like people I'd get on with! I'm bad/dad joke royalty and have puns aplenty. I go through a lot of puzzles, too, which makes it a fantastic thing that my local library has puzzle swap shelf. Try to always get 750+ piece ones or I'll finish them in a day. >>;;
It's curious how Ravenclaws and Slytherins get on like a house on fire, and how many Slytherin and Ravenclaw pairs there are irl. Me and my beau, your friend and his wife, I know one of my beau's coworkers is a slytherin and his SO is a Ravenclaw (he was excited to meet another Slytherin Ravenclaw plair, and I made a Ravenclaw house scarf for the SO as a Christmas gift). It's like once we start looking, we're everywhere. c':
I'm pretty sure I AM the goth friend you're describing (though I'd happily wear crazy and bright things, too, and am FAR too nice (saying "no" is hard), which puts me firmly outside the Slytherin crowd), so what you said totally makes sense. You have honestly described my ideal book club, though. I love mystery, suspense, thriller, dark fantasy; basically the goth kid dream library, haha~
My elementary and middle schools were the same way about books! You had to have parent permission for so many books in the library (including, hilariously, Goosebumps and other R.L. Stine novels). Strangely, The Cat Who series didn't make the list, and after rereading the first of them recently, it... probably should have. >>; And they never limited access to classics like Frankenstein or Jane Eyre; if your reading comprehension level was high enough, they were fair game if you were the sort of weird child (me) that would read them.
Covid is still around and wreaking havoc where it can, but I think we've finally reached our new "normal" where it's basically just a worse strain of the flu at this point. (Which isn't to say that it's not terrible or dangerous, it definitely is, we've just... learned how to cope with its existence.)
I'm always stressed out about money. Have been since my teen years. Honestly, the beau and I were lucky to move when we did, we got in just before rent started skyrocketing. Our budget is still pretty tight, though, because I HAVE to have insurance, but the beau's workplace doesn't really offer it, and the "affordable" insurance marketplace... really isn't. Plus I require an expensive medication to keep living a normal life. (The in-laws had to pay for it for us for about half a year, we're still paying them back...) Thankfully we live in a very walkable place and don't have to put gas in the car very often; gasoline prices are insane. My ma has a REALLY tight budget; she's disabled and lives on a fixed income that is... well below the poverty line. She mows and babysits just to make ends meet. She lives on my uncle's property and doesn't have to pay rent, but buys most of the food for the household, and food isn't cheap. They're lucky enough to have the space for a garden and raising chickens, turkeys, and ducks, which helps offset the grocery bill a bit. (They had a cow for a while, too, but they butchered him last year, he was expensive to feed.)
I might be able to manage in a depression by growing a bunch of vegetables and stuff indoors, but boy I hope it doesn't come to that. I've not read our actual lease and don't know if we have rent rate protection here like at our previous place. (But our previous place was taken over by another company shortly after we moved and they may have taken the rate protection clause out. Either way, we moved out at the right time, because new company means brand new lease means they can hike rent rates because they're not legally bound by the previous contract.) We really can't afford for our rent to spike... (Especially not since we're still paying on my ER visit, I'm pretty sure, bleh.)
I don't have much experience with the newer generations (I'm an only child, and the beau's older sis won't be having kids, so I have no nieces or nephews of the human variety to experience), except through some cousins. But since they were all raised by someone the same generation as my ma, I don't think they really count... And my godchildren, but one of them is only just school age now, and I don't get to see them now that I've moved, so... (Although I know one of them caused an enormous plumbing bill by flushing toys down the toilet. My only thought was how he went unobserved long enough to individually flush so many toys; seemed like more of a parental oversight problem than a child problem to me.)
(Hehe, told ya I could write novel length replies with the best of them! ;p But yeah, the thread is moving along SUPER fast these days, I was a little startled when I realized we were on a new page already. Ah well, it's probably good for me to actually interact with another person, honestly (and not just hold conversations with my cats). ^^; Also, feel free to be as foul-mouthed as you want with me! I can curse a blue streak, enough to make a sailor or trucker blush, out in the real world, but I rein it in on the web since I can never know what sorts of people might be reading my replies.)
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2023 6:54 pm
Truth I say that not many seem to get, we goths are just the dark form of a nerds in that we are more cynical thinking people, we dress in mostly all black with some dark colors at times that mainly are purple or red, we will sport bats, skulls, skeletons, dragons, & other dark viewed things as accessories onto us if we find a ring/necklace/pendant that does so, & we are open to all being just themselves you could walk over in all black clothing one day say you love anime & other things most don't see goths liking much cause of our darkness but in reality we'd all be "Let's welcome our new baby bat into the group trying to earn some goth points for their new goth card today, as they want to join our subculture and see if it's what they enjoy." and you'll learn quickly we are magically a bunch of nice people cynical as ******** don't get me wrong as we will toss the weirdest darkest things to share magically into conversations like it's all good with stuff like "I was born July 21st 1993, on that day Angela Kennedy made a record for the 50 m butterfly stroke. But also in 1993 on July 21st did you know that we lost four people in the world? Like the producer of E.T. Robert J Glass died at 53, TV Producer Piet Wielinga died at 56, Richerd Tee a songwriter died from prostate cancer at 49, & the bureau chef associated with Press-WW II died at 88." (And that' only if we know or remember from another goth sharing the facts to us when we shared when we were born and they went telling us the weird facts themselves.) But overall Gothic subculture people is just full of nerdy beings whom want to express ourselves in a different kind of way from social normal to most people, we crave creativity, & people individualism, and we enjoy what we want to enjoy which includes all your gothic stuff & then our own stuff. (I can share now I know a lot of "weeb" goths I quote weeb as some will take offense to it so don't go being all "ah a fellow goth whom is a weeb too." as they just hate the word no explanations why just they do {most likely odds is they got bullied by some jerks calling them a weeb the term weeb is ruined to them.}, you'll find skater goths, gamer goths, full on nerdy goths {which is only how I learned my date of birth facts I shared here I used as a weird example how random we can be with our cynical side.} & more as every goth is a goth but also themselves, but one giant goth family. (not going to lie explaining goths to others I am still a baby bat at explaining it all, mostly cause I normally don't explain it to others much if at all.) Moving on though back to Hogwarts speak aye many houses get along well the deeper they all look at one another, just in movies and books for flair Rowling written them all up like typical high schoolers case of teens will be teens & we all know those dreadful world times. (with some being teens around here now that is living them which we adults all can only say "Yeah it's rough buddy we know, but you'll make it out alive." To any teens living the goth side of that world as a baby bat or just been so for a while you got plenty of goth points collected, I'm sorry you deal with things you do probably down in school but know we all have, also it wont be any better as adults specially if you love our more eye catching attires ykw kinds that just love to get people staring as human kind is that way sadly always. But you bats got all of us bats so ykw who cares what they all think and say we'll live and love what we will.) now fully moving away from goth talk if I can now (I been looking up some things for myself to get in future when better off I got goth on mind thoughts most complaints about how I wish nobody would be so judgy on our choices of life at times & just let us be comfortable in our caves.) But I also get we're a funny bunch as we're always growing so meh... All same now official moved on!! We got the cat tunnel fixed up & my kitten loves it to death like normal, demanded when she saw it being together as it was again she be fed in the tunnel, as for stuff of normal again not much I can say as focus on current moments where not much exciting bits occurred yet in my life other than watching an army of children, other than me saying I wonder if one is going to become a baby bat soon one day as she was here looking at my female elder bat friend's clothing and said she wants to one day wear that kind of outfit when she's older. Which is how my baby bat tale began as I looked at my elder bat Hatter in his clothing around her age myself and I was all "I want to wear that kind of stuff more myself." so whom knows I may have a baby bat around here soon for my great niece & much help I can give her is sharing like my elder bat told me "you don't need to be fancy dressed like you saw in the fashion you can just have self made, some thrift store, and even hand me downs of black or other dark color clothes and still be a goth in the subculture of goths if you want to be a goth." then introduce to her some of the subculture music & explain she doesn't have to only listen to it for we are human so on so fourth. (I said I was going to leave the goth talking alone for wanted to not focus fully on it, but ngl I'm excited if I got a baby bat for I never got to raise up & help my own baby bat I only been a baby bat a while ago in my life it feels. *I mean it's been ages, but I'm still atm 29 when I was a baby bat around 12 - 13 years old so to me it's not too long ago feeling still!!!* even if in truth it has been much to my un-wanting it to be so. emotion_skull I'm not feeling ready for 30, I been the little brother & second of the most youngest member of my friends circle for ages in life, I still feel a baby. But then I look at my birth year & got omfg it's been 30 years ago since it was 1993. Then my cynical thoughts go wild with I'm near 30 and at most with humans we live a minimum of 82 so in about 52 more years I had the chance of being passed away myself if unlucky for living longer in life, and that's only if I doge other chaos that can end it faster before minimum and if I will go passing at the minimum time elderly pass away. As my dad was around 82 or 83 for himself but my aunt his eldest older sister was 89 nearly 90 when she passed away.) Any way cutting off myself I'm not excited much that in July I'll hit 30 years old I'm super excited to see if my 13 year old great niece is going to become a baby bat by being interested in actual goth culture, or if she is more just into the clothing itself as it was an interesting set of clothing for a child to see especially in her case as even though I'm a male I got nothing all that fancy for my clothing minus my actual bright a** clothes I barely touch tbh but will wear to a family place if they don't want me dressing so dark if not in all black I kill their moods & it's all just normal clothes nothing fancy or crazy like a black leather trench coat Victorian age gothic vest & shirt combo & black cargos with chains that got some skull pendants and crosses on it wild fashions in eyes of children. And her mother & literally all females in my family my great niece sees normally is normal clothing for female clothing nothing wild gothic or even gothic punk you could say. (like the only wild item I got they seen in their eyes is my black medieval warrior cloak.) So honestly I feel my niece may have just liked seeing my elder bat friend in her gothic era gown mainly for she didn't see much of an actual dress before minus wedding dress of her mother & any old pictures my family has. All same I babbled along a lot mostly with goth things it feels this round, so I should go before I scare us both with a new page coming. (As they shock me too when I notice we're suddenly on a new page.)
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2023 12:14 pm
Hehe, yeah, I was (and still am) decidedly in the goth culture. I even have some of the nice, fancy goth clothes that I can finally get with my own adult money. (Though I'm mostly a thrifted/handmade goth, and all of the Tripp pieces I currently own are hand-me-downs from friends.) But I also fall a bit into the... I guess you could call it "bright goth" side, with crazy neon colors and pops of bright to accent dark colors (I miss my neon green skirt from high school, it got lost in one of my moves). Perhaps the best way to explain it would be: "Picture Luna Lovegood. Now shove her in some goth clothes on a regular basis and dye her hair with Manic Panic, and put some fandom and cosplay pieces in her closet." Yeah, that's basically me. ^^;
Honestly not sure how I'd have made it through school, or even the two years of uni I managed, though, if my dorky, nerdy goth friends hadn't taken me in. None of us were offended by the term "weeb," though; it has a lot less power to bullies when you embrace it instead of hating it, and since every single one of us was into anime, manga, and/or gaming and perfectly willing to admit and display it (I literally carried Shonen Jump issues and manga volumes around with me every day in plain sight), we just accepted and relished in our lot in life.
I think Rowling really went too hard on the house divides, honestly. Because I was thinking last night about the adult characters in the books, especially the married ones, and none of them really associate with other adults outside of the houses they were sorted into. And then the older students who are of an age to be dating never really even consider the other houses as part of their dating pool, which was DEFINITELY not the way kids at my school worked, even when they were deep into any specific clique. I dunno, maybe it's only weird to me, but it's something that has always bugged me.
Awww, fur baby loves her tunnel~ That's so friggin' cute. cat_whee My boys are picky about where their food and water is, they're very set in their ways, so if I forget to put their water bowl back in the bathtub after a shower (they play in their water, and have a bad habit of putting kibble in the water bowl when both bowls are on the floor, they also used to spill it and leave huge, puddled messes until I finally invested in a ceramic bowl that they can't tip), they will yell at me until I 'fix' it.
Oh, I'd have loved to have had a younger cousin to initiate into gothdom like that! My family is really weird about anyone that's "outside the mold," though, so having even two nerdy goth kids in the family (me and my favorite cousin who is the same age as I am, and is pretty much the only reason I ever went to family holiday gatherings) is practically a grave offense to them. I refuse to tone myself down for my blood relations, though. If they can't handle one strange, small person in black and lace and a cape with cat ears (sometimes with a cat ear headband, because screw society's accepted norms), they have bigger problems in life than my mere existence.
Bah, age is just a number. My birth date may imply "adult," but my entire being still screams "child." Sure, I'm dark and salty and bitter, but I've been that way since I was, like, ten. There is likely no force on earth that will ever succeed in stopping me from laughing at immature jokes, or making stupidly childish puns. There is also no person alive that will keep me from enjoying any exhibit "intended" for children in any sort of museum, or from riding all the "kiddie" rides at amusement parks. (Thankfully, my beau is happy to indulge my whims; if it makes me happy, he'll be there with bells on. He's really too good for me. ;w; )
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2023 9:05 pm
*excitedly observes conversation* Oh don't mind me. I'm just another weirdo xD
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Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2023 9:06 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2023 4:56 am
Honest I'm nervous to show to my family members openly I'm goth due to the past with how most of them were so over religious it was painful just wearing black alone itself all the time without going more goth with adding in the attires they would probably have seen more around for a goth, and also cause of them in past I never once before dyed my hair cause of their horrid stuck up religious views on hair dye ruining what God gave people. So the most they got of me being goth until now where I'm all "I'm going to show them all." is just me in all black with a casual tee-shirt, cargo pants, normal day shoes, maybe wearing a black hoodie & wearing a fairly big chain necklace which I'm searching a perfect pendant for along with black eyeliner. So I'm going to either have 'fun" or an actual decent time showing them the real goth me I want to be around them all when I get to doing so as idk if we're all grown past their old views of a goth or if they're going to be the old views they had that had me only visiting my goth friends when we had me as a teenager going to see them all and hang out. (unless they were also casual clothing kind & not all Voltaire, Edward Scissorhands, & Crow types of goth as my family back then was horrible seeing those types as Satanist I never dared go dressing like any of those kinds, and Voltaire goth as you can guess from my talking about it all is the closest kind I wanted to dress as.) The one downside of Calicos when goth is the fur of calicos (had to randomly say it now talking goth.) but I love my calico baby and Nathan's calico, I'm honest just an animal lover in all no care how they look, but my kitten is all loved all the time no matter what she do (unless she misbehaving so badly I want to yeet her into a time out kennal.) but my cellphone will tell anything else she is over loved as there is from July 18th,2020 when I first got her to now her growing up pictures along with special events pictures like her first nap beside another cat, her being cute, etc. (So in other words my cell is blown up with calico cat pictures.) Turning 30 honestly only shocks me as I don't feel it at all with how the past years been as we have dealt with a lot since 2020 (and for me 2019.) that my pessimistic levels only got worse with it all that time has died somewhere it's all "When did we hit 2023?!" for me. xp
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2023 11:23 am
Oof, I understand the pain of religious zealotry all too well. I was raised as a "good little Christian girl" and some of my family are the sort that believed the "tabletop games = devil worship" propaganda. (It was a real shock to most of them when I came out as queer and refused to be ashamed of being who I am. These days they can all pretend I'm straight since I'm with a guy, but I'm happily on the rainbow and very open about that fact.) Thankfully I am lucky enough to have a very open-minded ma despite the rest of my blood relatives, so once it was just me and her I was free to be whatever I wanted and dress however I wanted. (Though she was still a little weird about tabletop gaming, but I attribute that to all the bs stories she heard about people who "got stuck in their characters" and couldn't "distinguish real life from the game." ) Still wasn't allowed to dye my hair anything more unnatural than bleached light blonde (which, looking back, looked awful on me, and always turned brassy because I have a lot of red undertones in my hair) until after I graduated high school; it... wouldn't have been a good look for the valedictorian of a small, rural school to have blue hair when she walked. >>;
If being full goth around the blood fam goes sideways, though, just remember that family can be a choice, and I'll be over here cheering you on regardless. c:
Haha, yesss, everyone knows I have cats after just one glance at me. I have what they call "apricot tabbies," which are an orange dilute, their mother was a dilute calico. I swear they just look at a piece of clothing and it gets covered in fur, and it is basically impossible to get their fur off fabrics, especially the long-haired one's fur, it weaves its way into fabric and not even the most vigorous washing and drying will get it out. It even defies most lint rollers.
At least I don't have the cat my in-laws have, a silver Persian (the sort with the smooshed-in face). Her fur would be hell in a household with wardrobes of mostly dark clothing.
Heh, sounds like the photo gallery on your phone is like mine. I have more pictures of my cats than I have of anything else (though I don't have their kitten pictures, they didn't get to live with us until they were one and half, two years old or so). They're basically our children, though, so in that light, I think it's normal to have all these cat pictures. (Fun fact about my cats: they respond to the name "********." Like, wth guys, normal cats don't respond to a name at all, not even their own, but you choose THAT ONE to respond to? They're so weird.)
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Posted: Thu Mar 16, 2023 11:28 am
I see you there, fellow cat fancier.
Come to observe our rousing conversations about cats and sundry other topics, no doubt. ;p
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