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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 6:51 am
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 7:09 pm
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Posted: Wed Feb 20, 2008 10:14 am
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2008 1:15 am
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Posted: Wed Mar 05, 2008 4:50 pm
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Posted: Thu May 01, 2008 6:02 am
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[K]urom3 What do you think about interracial dating/couples?
I don't personally have a problem with the idea. But I can understand when people say that there may be problems with cultural identity and upbringing.
[K]urom3 Would you ever date someone ourside of your race?
Yes.
Personally, I don't have too much of an issue with interracial dating/couples. Where I take issue is when it comes to the motives behind relationships which arise from stereotypes based on ethnicity.
For example, take these combinations:
Western male + Asian female. Asian male + Western female.
What were your initial reactions to these, if any? And more importantly, where did they come from?
It seems to me that the former seems to be commonly accepted and on an increasing trend, while the latter still seems to be comparatively rare and considered taboo. Perhaps I am speaking rubbish? Or maybe other people have noticed/felt this?
I wondered why the former combination was apparently so popular, while the latter was so 'undesirable' if people really didn't have any issue with race. It should be able to work both ways, right?
Now on to the not so pleasant stuff:
WARNING: May be politically incorrect. I don't mean to offend anyone, but there's no other way to say it other than not to say it.
I have a problem with the attitude that some Western men may have who seek Asian women because they (the Asian women) are 'traditionally' reserved, submissive, and more family oriented.
In contrast, I have a problem with the attitude that some Asian women may have who seek Western men because they (the Asian women) have ulterior motives like this for example:
Darkaznstargoddess Now now we mustn't forget. If Foreigner has no money then use them to get citizenship in their country. wink
Yes, I know both of these are focused on the qualities of the Asian woman, but I am not picking on Asian women in both examples. Please ask if you need further clarification.
Sorry, but I can't see a healthy relationship forming on the basis of those motives. It just seems like people are using each other while not really caring about them, rather than choosing to be with someone because of who that person is. I know this is purely a moral decision based on my set of beliefs, and that people may not agree with them. I think it's sad that couples can be formed on these principles. But if that's what makes both people in the relationship happy and that's all they want out of the relationship, then who am I to tell them what to do?
I have also read something along the lines of Asian women choosing Western men over men of 'their own' race because they see Westerners as being 'superior' in some respects. I don't know how true or widespread that attitude is, but I think it would be an interesting topic of discussion if anyone here has heard about it or even holds that mentality.
I've never been pressured to keep to people of my own race. Though I'm sure my mother would be happier if I married a Chinese/Asian girl.
Here's an old article I found which is somewhat related to this topic. I know it's a long read, so for those that don't have the time or patience, I'll quote the relevant part(s).
Quote: Mitsuko: Yeah, it's really sad. I've met and corresponded with a variety of white men in Japan, but I think they're really making fun of me. They don't respect me. They just want someone to sleep with. They assume that I'm going to go along with them. For example, even if its only the first time we've met, they assume that I'm going to go to bed with them. # There was one interesting guy: forty-five, divorced, with an eight year old daughter. He said he was searching for a Japanese wife. I said, why Japanese? He says, 'I don't have much money, I'm divorced, and I have a kid, so a white woman wouldn't marry me. But a Japanese woman would accept it all without complaint ...' # Japanese women do work hard for the man they love. But it's like that side of us is being exploited by white men. I told him he had a bad attitude. He looked a little offended at that. He likes Japanese women because they don't say things like that! But that's like they're not respecting Japanese women's personhood. So I said, 'No thank you' [English]. (Laugh.)
There's another article I have with statistics, but they're for Japan, and not China (ask if you want the link). If anyone has any articles which have Chinese viewpoints in them, I'd be interested in reading them.
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 11:46 am
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Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 1:23 pm
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Posted: Thu Jul 03, 2008 8:14 pm
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Well, my goal is to marry a Chinese woman and have a Traditional Chinese Wedding over in China. Though, I myself, am predominately English.
Many of the girls that I've had intense feelings for instead of just "Infatuations"(sp?) have been with Asian girls. The first time I've ever had strong feelings for a girl, she was English. The second was Asian and we had an intense friendship that lasted for a very long time. She was Korean. The next girl for me to have strong feelings for was a very Korean-bloodaligned girl, which is the current interest. But, alas, none of them are in my Faith.
A main goal for me when going to China is to meet girls over there. That may sound like something shallow, but its not what many think. All the girls in my Faith around here aren't "quality", so to speak. So, my Aunt said she is going to introduce me to a "Nice Chinese girl" when we go. I gave her the parameters and she went and called up some of her friends and family from China xd xd xd xd .
So... yeah cool ...
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