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I liked Misty a lot more after she was gone. Ash definitely is an annoying character, just other characters annoyed me more/interested me less. It definitely took some time for him to grow on me though.

Lol, it's ok. I downloaded the uploads of We're Yugioh and Stronger and I've been listening to them constantly over the last few days. They are ingrained in my brain!! I seriously enjoyed the musical collection for BBT Abridged, that aspect was some of the best abridged work in awhile.

Haha, yes, yes you should know that now! *palm forehead* razz And yea Stronger was the song used in the credits, We're Yugioh was the final battle song. I've watched part 3 several times just because I absolutely adored those two songs. Now that I have them I can just listen. My boyfriend has never watched Yugioh but he was amused by the abridged movie and might possibly get to spam him with more than that. Muwhaha! razz

Sorry I've been poof, I've been in London with some visiting Californians as well as desperately trying to finish my phD app. Which annoyingly got deleted because they changed the application form, and if you didn't submit before that date they just deleted and you had to start over. It would have been nice if some sort of, oh I dunno, email had been sent to let us know that in spite of it reading "you have 6 months to complete" in reality it was "we shall make new programme and old programme shall go poof muwhahaha" or something. But no, anyhow mostly done with the application (again), just trying to finish off the personal statement. Originally I was turning that in by hand but there is a section for it on the new application so might as well put it there. One less thing to print. So yea, shall hopefully get back to the roleplay Sunday or something. I am so exhausted. ~_~

"We're Yugioh and Stronger" would be a nifty song title, but yea it's two songs. Two awesome parody songs. I'm not sure if Stronger is original in music or not (granted it is of a generic kinda rap-ish/hip hop type), We're Yugioh is a YGO parody of Tenacious D though (We Are the D from Pick of Destiny). I think it's way more fun than the original I've got to say though, and I rather liked the original.

It did suck, but I got it in. Now to wait nervously. It's fine if you're busy, I might go poof myself. I have about 3 weeks left in England, and while I'm hoping to get back here sometime next year, I'm nervous about getting funding for my programme even if I get in. I've never done loans, I don't know how hard they are to secure or how long it takes. I also am unsure of how wanting to start mid-year (I want to start in March so that's even more of an unusual start point, especially in the US where straight research courses don't exist and so you have to line up start points with taught classes) would effect that process. So yea, I dunno what I'm going to do if I actually get stuck in CA longer than planned, much less if I get stuck there permanently, but I'm going to try to make the most of my last 3 weeks and worry about the future after. Hope you feel better soon though, good luck with finals/final projects.

Well I don't think I qualify for financial aid, I do have friends who took out like 20-25 grand loans a year to pay for tuition, that was a few years ago. It was fairly easy for her, I just worry that things have maybe changed. A friend who I think did them recently said they were easy enough though so hopefully it'll be fine. My other big worry is how long it'd take to get them to go through. Going to try to put off worrying about it until next week though. Need to figure out what I want to do about moving/keeping my place this week.

Nope, I'm apparently the one person in the world Sara couldn't give less of a damn about. Everyone else she either chases to the ends of the earth or at least continually battles with. Me she acts as if I never existed, she hasn't contacted me once in over a year (apparently told mutual friends she wanted to last Christmas but then never did, and when I did bump into her over summer while she didn't address me she was so awful I have a hard time believing she would have wanted to do anything more than antagonize me in winter), so whatever. Guess still slightly bitter about it, that she was just totally fine with never talking to me again even though she never lets go of things that easily with everyone else, but whatever, trying to move on. However, she had started showing up at my friend Joyce's work lately. Her and Joyce haven't been friends for awhile, since before she and I fell apart. Joyce works at a small cafe where she is the only waitress on duty (there is another waitress the one or two days she doesn't work) and then there is the cook who owns the place. And Sara knows she worked there, she had her bring her food from there when they were still friends. However she didn't come in and be nice she was apparently rude, but indirectly rude. Joyce just tried to brush it off but I did get mad about that. But yea sorry to rant on, just while she has never tried to talk to me that is one instance I know of her approaching someone she is no longer friends with, however that was not in a friendly manner. Apparently she was also hungover one of the times she showed up, so I dunno if she's still drinking heavily. Honestly, I have no idea who she is now. However unlike Joyce or Meg or I who "offended" her, she was never mad at you. She was perfectly content blaming and hating a person she never met, so chances are she probably just misses you and is trying to see if you'll talk to her once again. She did burn a lot of bridges in the last couple of years. You'd be one of the few where she's not deciding just to blame the other person (though of course she still probably takes no accountability for her own actions, because she can do no wrong you know ^_~).

I did unblock her everywhere about a month ago, which not sure if I said. Had no intention of talking to her. It's just I originally blocked her because I was upset she wouldn't talk to me and was hiding because watching her ignore me hurt. I no longer consider her my friend, and while I don't want to go out of my way to talk to her, I no longer want to hide. My personal reasons for having a block no longer stood, so felt weird having it. Honestly we do still have a few mutual friends, so while I can't really imagine friendship after everything, civility would be for the best I suppose. I hedged on it for awhile because I didn't want her to assume that was some sort of sign of my wanting to apologize to her (she did that when another friend she was strained with contacted her just wanting civility, assumed she was being apologized to - they are once again not friends either), but finally just decided I don't care what she thinks. She hasn't contacted me though, and as far as I know hasn't read into it, at least to any mutual friends who've informed me of such. So yea, very round about "nope, not sure what's going on." If I hear anything specific I'll let you know, but doubt I will.

That reminds me I keep meaning to message my friend who went to school in Italy. Not about financial things because she got funded, but I do have visa questions for her since she was on a programme longer than a year. So thanks. razz I hope I'll get it sorted, I don't expect to qualify for grants and things, although at the same time I'm 25 and I don't see why I necessarily have to consider myself attached to my parents (in terms of applying for those, obviously I'll probably need to be able to say there is someone with me in terms of loans).

Yea, I did tell her that years ago when she was upset about your ultimatum and still wanted to message you anyhow, to leave you alone and maybe in a few years when she's seen you've gotten it together and etc etc. Although I don't know if I even fully believed that, I just saw no point to her harassing you and felt she'd only make it worse. Up until I started talking to you still didn't know that she keeps trying to message you from time to time. But yea, from what I can tell she's in a better place than a year ago, but that is SO not saying a lot, and she's still worse than she was a couple years ago. And that would be my main problem now if I ever did end up talking to her. I tried to rationalize things away when we were friends, didn't usually know most of the people she antagonized well, and tried to bring about resolutions between our mutual friends. However after not being friends for so long, even if I could get over everything that happened between us, and honestly I could, I just don't think I could deal with how she treats other people, particularly people I care about. So I guess I should just be glad she doesn't try to contact me, don't have to deal with it. I never expected her to apologize, she expects everyone to apologize to her for all the assorted 'wrongs' from what I've heard, and honestly a year ago I apologized in terms of having hurt her feelings (not in terms of my choice, which I feel I had every right to make and she really had no right to get angry at me for, but I still apologized that she had been upset). But she never responded, and has since told people I either stopped speaking to her or sent her a message saying she was a bad friend (which bs, I did finally bring myself to re-read my message, and it was in no way antagonizing, just explaining my feelings and apologizing for hurting hers - like always I bet she didn't read it). So yea, I think because of how she felt about you at the time she just blamed Karma and put you in a bubble. Nowadays she just feels "attacked" and blames everyone else without even trying to rationally assess the situation. So yea, I don't know if she'll ever get better, but I do know she isn't now, and I'd definitely feel secure in a decision that she's not a healthy person to have in one's life atm.

Ugh, some days I'm freaked out about whether it's actually feasible to start in March when applying for funding this late, even if the funding is only loans which I'd have to pay back and thus in theory they'd be more accommodating about it versus thinking it'll have to be fine and I'll figure it out somehow. Unfortunately at the moment it's the former, and overwhelmed by packing, graduation stuff tomorrow, only just managed to snag a Christmas gift for the bf today and not even sure he'll like it, and generally not prepared to leave England. Frazzlement (sure, that's a word) is basically my excuse for going poof. I figured you had finals for awhile so it would be fine, however I'm probably going to be poof a few more days to some extent, at least from the roleplay. Need to get through the stress of tomorrow before I can try to get back into that.

I understand your feelings entirely. And considering she never once respected your wishes to not contact you, especially as she's not gotten her life together (couldn't help but notice her DA profile after you said she messaged you, and her apparent own alcoholic nympho label is slightly unsettling), at least in terms of not being able to stop treating people she used to be friends with with disdain and arrogant abuse just because she's unhappy or unable to empathize with how others might feel. I definitely am not in the same place as you but I hope to get there. At this point I just don't know if I could in good conscience try to reestablish a friendship with her. I doubt I could trust her again, it just doesn't seem healthy. But we shall see.

Ok just got back to America, have been in Wales with my boyfriend and pretty much didn't want to spend the last time we'd have together for awhile online, but should definitely be around more now. Hopefully I can get things figured out, PhD would be the easiest way to get me back to England, and while I don't know that that's where I want to end up forever, it is where I want to be for now. It is where I want my PhD from, and while the current educational climate is shifting and unnerving, I still want the PhD. So somehow I shall get back there. I shall just keep having mini heart-attacks until I do. XD

Well yea, with things like relationships, even friendships, it can't always come down to a purely rational thing. But in the long run, despite how I feel, if I don't feel I can have a healthy relationship with her then I can't have one at all. Though as I've never heard anything to indicate she ever even wants to reconcile our friendship, my feelings don't particularly impact any action.

EDIT: I accidentally ran into her just now. She ignored me and walked away, but oops. I saw a mutual friend, ran up to hug that friend, and TOTALLY didn't recognize her until I was hugging that friend. And yesterday a different mutual friend wrote a FB status about hoping karma gets some random person back, and I'd written something about hope things aren't too bad and vengeful karma doesn't need serious releasing. She just now wrote: "Hah. Karma is a lie. Bad people usually get whatever they want. It's called life and it sucks." Considering I literally ran into her like 20 minutes ago I kind of find it hard to just assume that a coincidence and not a pointed statement. Which is a little unfortunate if that's the case because that's pretty immature, but I guess it's just more evidence to your point that a friendship with her would probably be unhealthy. It's clearly not something that's an option to me given how she's still being resentful over a year later, but even if it was it's probably something that would just be better avoided. And the weird thing is I'm mostly unnerved by the fact that I just didn't recognize her, her hair is different and she looks heavier (but maybe it's just the coat) but she doesn't look that different once I actually noticed her. Just to realize she's actually that far removed from my active recognition and conscience, I dunno, life is strange.