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 Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 1:42 pm
so. i recently got in a big fight with my bestest rl guyfriend and now he is "done fighting a worthless battle". he basically said we are done being friends via e-mail.
why? because "i am ignoring him" and "i am a different person"
pfft. i am not ignoring him. he is just too busy with allison to notice. >_>
anyways. he is acting superior, as if he did nothing wrong. but he has yet to realize he has, and he needs to grow up. cause dude, of course i am going to change from how i was like, three years ago in 8th grade.
xD;
so yeah.
i want to get over him, but i am not sure how, since this was a really good friendship.
o___o;;
let's get to the point;;
MADG, do you have any advice on the situation at hand?
Edited; by Bella.
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 2:01 pm
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I recently went through a friendship break-up. In a nutshell: She talks crap all the time and is too bossy, I get pissed and post how I feel in a place she shouldn't have snooped, she gets angry and says 'don't take me so seriously,' that's bullshit because she's always serious, and I end our friendship. I don't regret it, she's just so demanding and I need a friend that is more open to other opinions.
These relationships are usually so easy to destroy because you care about each other too much, which can cause those involved to not want to hurt the other, and when it happens, you don't want to say something bad to make things worse when you're trying to mend it.
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Melodious Conversationalist
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 2:11 pm
zomg so insightful.
o:
<33
thanks~
&& yeah that totally makes sense.
he made me cry once, and it got to him.
and he said he never wanted to make me sad again.
so he always ended up saying snobby things at the end of the email like "I don't want to talk about this. I refuse to get in another fight."
/:
he is mr. high & mighty chronic 4.0 student at school.
he really does think he is better than a lot of people, and has that "holier than thou" attitude.
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 3:34 pm
Sometimes boys take time to mature. Some go the full way and become wonderful mature adults. Some..well..never reach the peak. Depressing really. I hope things go better for you.
And please, don't list in your first paragraph. I'll change it for you. It's just a warning dear, and in the rules as well.
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 3:42 pm
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Bella is so awesome.
ANYWHO, I'm going to say what every girl needs to hear;
YOU CAN'T CHANGE A MAN INTO WHAT YOU WANT!
D<
Quit getting that notion. If they piss you off or hurt you to begin with, they'll probably keep pissing you off or hurting you.
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 5:19 pm
Moonlight_Bella Sometimes boys take time to mature. Some go the full way and become wonderful mature adults. Some..well..never reach the peak. Depressing really. I hope things go better for you.
And please, don't list in your first paragraph. I'll change it for you. It's just a warning dear, and in the rules as well.
GCD habits. sorry.
Dx
<3
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 5:21 am
I would stand in line for this
I got into one of those fights with someone who I thought was one of my closest friends. :/
Turns out she was actually trying to break me and my husband up, after everyone found out I was pregnant. It`s one thing to try to bust of a couple, but if they`ve got someone else coming to depend on them, it`s a whole other thing.
She`d flirt with Alan, and do things that were generally unacceptable. He used to try to laugh it off because she`d be like that with almost every one of our guy friends, but it dwindled to just him.
At a Halloween party, the entire thing exploded when she came onto him, like bad. I won`t turn this into an epic bitchfest, so I`ll just leave it at that.
Hope your`s wasn`t scandalous, and like Neko said, boys don`t change and whatever we do, we can`t change `em, either. :V
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Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 6:00 pm
I know how it is , recently my friends started to say I have changed since I've been with my boyfriend. I told them I am happier that is how I've changed. Eventually after lots of emails we kinda figured it out but she said that she likes me but she doesn't wanna be friends (like your friend said) I email y friend back and said "I am willing to work it out and be your friend Mary . (Not her real name is used. Maybe you should do the same and say "I want to be your friend because our friendship has been so good. I would do anything for your friendship." Let him think about it and after it's up to him to be your friend or not.
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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 1:25 am
Not the same person? That's dumb. People change all the time, it's a part of life. I change daily, I'm never the same person I was yesterday.
In a situation like this you have to stop think about why people become friends.
Do you want someone to question and contradict everything you say? To make you feel uncomfortable or sad? To be bossed around? If so then be friends with people who do that.
I myself would like to be friends with someone I can to talk to. To do fun things with. To help each other out.
It's a give and take on both people's part. Think of it as a balance that both people need to make an effort to maintain. If it's unbalanced then maybe you weren't meant to be friends. Well that's a bit black and white, but some people just aren't compatible.
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Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 5:04 am
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Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 2:19 pm
well sounds like you need to talk to him about it you can't expect him to know whats wrong unless you talk to him if he still acts like he is more important than yea I would say geting over him would be best but unless its really nessisary you should never drop a good freind you never know when you need them
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