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 Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 7:40 pm
Hey guys. I really need advice. So here I go... My boyfriend and I were together for one month. I called my friend Amber that August 6th just to talk. It was Derek's and I's one month anniversary. Then she breaks it to me "He can't talked to you anymore... His uncle [legal gaurdian] is forcing him to break up with you... He can't have anything to do with you or he'll be forced to move to California..." So that was that. I was super depressed for a few days. I was so depressed I was cutting, and suicidal. Then, I find out he's dating my EX bestfriend Chelsea. She told me she only said yes because I said "I'm almost over him.." when I had a really bad mood swing. She lied to me about a lot of s**t and we are no longer friends. Derek has been off and on cheating of Chelsea with me for two days. He asked me out because I was sad. I said yes of course. Then, he felt so bad he broke up with me... So I was even sadder to the point where I cut and almost commited suicide. I had to bottle of tylenol in my hand. But, then put it back and called Amber wich we told him. So we talked and go back together behind Chelsea's back. Then, today we agreed to break up. I only did it for him. Apparently he just cut. But, I still love him and feel really depressed. The reason why he won't dump Chelsea is he still likes her and she is going through a really hard time in her life. I don't wanna hear "stfu you little emo kid." I've had enough of that. I need advice badly.
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 8:09 pm
Dammit, you.
Don't kill yourself over someone who isn't worth it, or I'll bring you back to life and kill you. -huggles-
It's going to hurt like crazy, but you should probably just move on.
He isn't treating you or the girl like he should.
When you're in a relationship, you should be happy with the person you are with. Cutting mostly out of romantic anguish? I can't say I haven't done it in the past, but I'm still going to tell you not to. You may love him, or be infatuated with him, but he obviously has no respect for you.
Ex bestfriend? I'd say. They put you in a really bad place. I hate to say it, but your friends can't possibly be good for your mental or emotional health.
If you ever think you're going to commit suicide, tell someone. Admitting you need help isn't that bad. There are also facilities you can go to where they will try to help you. The one I went to had really good food. ninja
For real, it isn't worth it. They aren't worth it. Give yourself some credit, you're better than that. You don't need them in your life.
I really hope you work everything out with yourself.
I hate to see people hurting themselves.
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 9:17 pm
Well he really would have to move, you'd really lose him. Wait it out and see what happens. For now, you need to seek some help. I used to be a cutter and suicidal, but I got help and I'm actually enjoying life for once.
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 10:09 pm
Living Disappointments Well he really would have to move, you'd really lose him. Wait it out and see what happens. For now, you need to seek some help. I used to be a cutter and suicidal, but I got help and I'm actually enjoying life for once.
Yeah, but right after they broke up he asked out some girl. confused
How mean is that?
Also this guy is like 13, so it would be a long time until the other guy didnt live with his guardian.
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 10:29 pm
I may not know the best advice. Usually I just give really good ideas for really random stuff. But, this? This I've had experience with. It takes forever to get over someone whom you really care about. It doesn't get easier, just less noticeable. If you feel a certain way about his actions that makes you depressed and have thought about cutting yourself or committing suicide, he's not the person to be thinking of. There's so much more to life than one bad breakup. I'm sure there will be several, but then you'll find someone who fits. And he, nor your ex-best friend fit into your life anymore. It'll be difficult, but, really. We don't even know you and we're taking you into our hearts. There's no need for people like them.
<3
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Posted: Fri Aug 15, 2008 3:27 pm
it sounds like he can't make up his mind and I know it's hard to just give up on someone you love.. (has been trying to do it for over a year and a half) but It sounds like you need to find someone that will fight for your relationship, and focus on you and not on people around you guys. =] Good luck and I hope you stop hurting yourself over things that make you feel bad that you have no control of, I know it's hard not to have control but cutting isn't the way to go about it =]
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 4:20 pm
AmeKisaki Living Disappointments Well he really would have to move, you'd really lose him. Wait it out and see what happens. For now, you need to seek some help. I used to be a cutter and suicidal, but I got help and I'm actually enjoying life for once.
Yeah, but right after they broke up he asked out some girl. confused
How mean is that?
Also this guy is like 13, so it would be a long time until the other guy didnt live with his guardian.
Well, if he's set on this guy, I can't tell him to just forget about him.
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 5:27 pm
Not to sound mean, or anything, but I have an idea-
Let his uncle catch you and him fooling around.
So then he'll have to move to california, you wont have to continually deal with heart break, he (and your ex best friend) can no longer stab you in the back, and the only problem you'd have to worry about is the not being able to see him.
WHICH you aren't even supposed to be seeing him anyways, but what the hey.
Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I hold true to the chinese philosophical writing- "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." You really are the only reason you're being CONTINUALLY hurt..
Like I said, I'm not trying to sound insensitive or anything but.. It's just how I deal with my problems. I eliminate them one way or another. confused
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 5:37 pm
SuperCock, you are much wiser than I had ever imagined. eek
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Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 5:48 pm
Lol. Eh.
Cock's just been around the block a few times.
HAHAHAHA. THE INNUENDO'S JUST KEEP GETTING BETTER. XDDD
I'mstillavirginthough.. .__.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 3:56 am
SuperCock Not to sound mean, or anything, but I have an idea-
Let his uncle catch you and him fooling around.
So then he'll have to move to california, you wont have to continually deal with heart break, he (and your ex best friend) can no longer stab you in the back, and the only problem you'd have to worry about is the not being able to see him.
WHICH you aren't even supposed to be seeing him anyways, but what the hey.
Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I hold true to the chinese philosophical writing- "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." You really are the only reason you're being CONTINUALLY hurt..
Like I said, I'm not trying to sound insensitive or anything but.. It's just how I deal with my problems. I eliminate them one way or another. confused LOL Wow that is a suprisingly good idea O_O that sounds like a better approach then others so far, and that way the guy can't keep hurting >.> well sounds like everyone. Kudos to you.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 4:35 pm
SuperCock Lol. Eh.
Cock's just been around the block a few times.
HAHAHAHA. THE INNUENDO'S JUST KEEP GETTING BETTER. XDDD
I'mstillavirginthough.. .__. It was an obvious answer and I didn't think to say it... They really do. xd So am I, but that's obvious.
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Posted: Mon Aug 18, 2008 4:44 pm
He's not worth cutting for. If he cheats on you, leave him.
Please don't hurt yourself. emo
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Posted: Tue Aug 19, 2008 11:44 am
If he cheats on you, and he just going out with you again because he felt *sorry* for you. Then you are too good for him. Who dos he think he is ?
I think you should forget about him. There are other guys out there for you.
If I caught my boyfriend cheating on me. He be in a lot world of Pain.
Just kidding, Sensei martial art was only for self defense not for harming other people because you have the urge to do it.
You should try and look for other guys out there. If you find the right person. This guy right now will just be another bad memory of your past.
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