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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 10:37 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 05, 2010 11:44 pm
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This is some topic bro. Okay my views...well I think for one it depends on where you come from. I know from my parents that in other countries sex is far less "taboo" I guess you could say then it is here in the states.
Why I say the U.S. (I can't and won't speak for anything outside my own country since I've never been outside my own country.) Anyway, why I say the U.S. is "taboo" about sex is because at least when I was growing up it's like you break up the word and suddenly there were gasps and mothers covering their kids ears...it was like a dirty word. As I grew up I noticed that naked bodies were something to be hushed and covered you do not look at a naked body, yet later I would be told it is something beautiful and should be admired. Talk about giving me mixed messages here. This seemed to be a constant in my life, mixed messages that is.
Now days I've listened to younger kids...I'm talking anywhere from teens to 7 years old talking about sex. Now teens talking about it nothing new there. I know teens talked about it in my teenage years, so that one doesn't surprise me. However, the younger kids talking about it that surprised me. After all at 7...I guess I was far to innocent for the world I was a weirdo, I was knowledgeable about the workings of the world but when it came to sex I was completely innocent till some of my friends came along.
Now days sex seems far to little of a deal so to speak. Kids, teens, and even adults see it as nothing more then pleasure of the skin and something to be done to populate the Earth. "Something we must do to solidify our species" so to speak or more often it's just an act. It seems that it's just a pleasure that's talked about and people want to experience it but not experience the other things that can go with it.
Me personally...I believe sex should be between two people that love each other. I believe their should be some kind of bond something deeper between two people. I think it could take time before one reaches that point, but I also believe in love at first sight and sometimes things can and do work faster. However, I just believe wholeheartedly that there should be some kind of connection between the two people before something like that is shared. I believe it is a very intimate and deeply meaningful thing between two people. I think it is something that should be treasured not just given away freely to the first guy that gets our loins/crotch burning/throbbing. I mean after all dark ones above only know where they've been and with what and I'd rather make sure this is going to be something more then just a one night stand before I'm forgotten to the wind or measured up against the next lay the person gets.
That's something I've noticed too sure during my time there were always those people that talked about their sexual exploits. This was all to come girl or guy I've heard both sides though more the guys then the girls, but that's probably because I hung out with more guys then girls. Anyway...now days that seems to have bumped up even more. Use to it was certain people you'd hear talk about it now it's almost anyone that can get you to stop and listen. I'd personally rather not be another notch on some guy's/girl's bed post and nothing else about me is remembered except how I measure up to others or how others measure up to me.
I maybe alone on some of my thoughts but they are mine and my feelings towards this subject. At least for now though it's getting late and I'm kind of losing where I'm going with some of this so I'll leave it at this for now.
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 4:39 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 06, 2010 5:17 pm
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It takes some 1337 ninja skills to give us that url doesn't it purple? lol Just teasing. Well, now I get to finally share my opinion on sex.
Like Moon, I can't speak for other countries but I can give my opinion on North America. Personally, I believe there's a paradox currently in place: we're both oversexed and religiously repressed. There's so much sexual imagery in the media and I fear that this is heavily influencing younger minds for the worst. But what's even more terrible is how parents stay so hush hush on the topic. I don't believe sexual education should be left up to schools. This is such a sensitive and private topic that parents should be educated on and should educate their own children.
When I think about sex, I've always accompanied it in my mind with emotions. I don't really think of "casual" sex as bad necessarily but I think the argument of nature and reproduction isn't enough to justify casual sex completely when we have evolved to be an extremely social, emotional, mentally developed species.
While experimentation has its merits, one area that sex educations fails at is in the emotional component. The facts and mechanics of sex are always taught but rarely do classes go in depth about emotional effects and relationship dynamics. I think we're still really immature about sex, as a society, when we don't speak frankly about everything it entails.
I think one of the things I'll never understand is casual sex actually. The idea of exposing my body to another human being is such a private and intimate affair. I just couldn't do that for the sake of pleasure alone because it'd also feel empty. But then again, that's just how my heart and mind work on this matter.
On the topic of sex education though, what is up with a lot of places in the U.S. teaching abstinence only? The areas that teach that method only have reported the highest pregnancy rates in the country. I think it's pretty obvious teens are gonna have sex no matter what so it's better for them to be educated on how to protect themselves from disease and prevent any pregnancies.
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 3:22 pm
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Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 9:46 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 09, 2010 3:46 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 10, 2010 5:14 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2010 3:20 pm
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Well, you're my best gay guy anyway. xd I've never felt like a part of any community, either. Maybe most people don't, and we're really normal. eek
Okay, basically, I'm trying to get a lot of answers to compare. I'm hoping to be able to put together some kind of graph eventually and chart myself on it. It started as a personal growth kind of thing and has turned into a research project. xd
We've already covered your feelings on sex itself, so the first question is - How often do you think about sex?
Is the frequency of your thoughts affected by the people you spend time with? If so, how?
How important is sex to you in the parameters of a relationship? Would you be happy without it?
Has thoughts about sex ever taken over your mind so completely that you couldn't focus on anything else for long periods of time?
Anything you don't want to answer, just say. My phrasing has gotten more clinical since I started this survey, so if it seems too impersonal, I can rephrase in more colloquial terms. 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Apr 12, 2010 5:25 pm
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purpleravenhawk We've already covered your feelings on sex itself, so the first question is - How often do you think about sex?
Oh damn this is hard to answer actually. I mean, I've never counted or anything. I don't think I think about it any less than the average male though. I guess I'd say... quite a bit?
Quote: Is the frequency of your thoughts affected by the people you spend time with? If so, how?
Oh sure. Like if I spend time with a friend or when I'm chatting away with my sister, my mind's totally off the subject of sex because my mind's just totally on the conversation and interaction with the person around me. Though oddly enough when I chat with Moonracer I'm as pervy as ever... wtf... lol
Quote: How important is sex to you in the parameters of a relationship? Would you be happy without it?
To answer this question would be very complicated for me. I've never been in a relationship and I have major self-esteem issues. But if I imagine a relationship I see a healthy sex-life attached to it because I think I'd need that physical intimacy. But to be really positive of my relationship needs I'd have to experience one first.
Quote: Has thoughts about sex ever taken over your mind so completely that you couldn't focus on anything else for long periods of time?
No. If that ever happened I'd be really worried actually. lol
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 4:53 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 5:51 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 5:55 pm
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