Do I Deserve This? (serious)

[anonymous trickster]

ok so we had room inspections in my dorm last wednesday and my roommate and i got a citation because we had a power cord plugged into a power cord plugged and an extension cord plugged into that. well my roommate wasn't there (because her grandmother passed away and left monday night) and we had three days to fix the problem (saturday at noon to be exact) or face serious consequences and pay a fine. she wouldnt be there until sunday night so on thursday i composed an email to her informing her of what was going on and how i planned to fix the problem which was simply to switch our beds and move my electronics over and leave hers there and sent it-or so i thought because after i moved our beds to ensure that we were no longer in violation and so that she could still use her good power cord for herself i get a text from her saying that she was going to report me for touching her stuff and that she was glad she wasnt on campus because of how angry she was at me. i got these text messages after i checked my email to realize it never sent or saved itself and began to retype it. luckily for me i will not be getting in trouble because i explained what was happening to my RA but ever since shes been back shes been rude, thinking the world revolves around her. she wont talk to me and is lying acout me behind my back and is trying to turn my friends against me ( luckily they know me enough and plus they dont believe her). my first problem was that someone who didnt need to be involved got involved and my roommate obviously doesnt trust me. and personally if she did the same action, all i would need to hear is the reason why and if it was for the same reasons, i would have been fine with it because she was thinking for the safety for the two of us. so i wanna know if i deserve being treated like this; i want to know if it is wrong to consider yours and another's safety and needs. i want to know if it is wrong to take action to prevent consequences and possible fines.  

[Toxic Pepper]

Maybe she misunderstood what went on? Try re-explaining everything to her. Tell her if you didn't do that you guys would have ended up with a fine... So you really had no choice unless she wanted to pay it and take the blame?  

[Aquamere]

she is completely in the wrong and needs think about what happened and how childish she is acting over a misunderstanding  

[anonymous trickster]

thanx guys. whats sux even more is that she is avoiding me and wont reply to any of my texts  

[urAq7]

your roommate is completely over reacting. you did what was needed so you guys wouldn't get fined, simple as that. i say just let her chill out and when she's ready to talk she'll come to you.  

[IIShadowxd1]

Aquamere

she is completely in the wrong and needs think about what happened and how childish she is acting over a misunderstanding

I agree. She Very..  

[Cupcake Baking Princess]

I agree that your roommate is over-reacting. Although you do need to try to keep in mind that she is probably mourning the loss of her grandmother. Mourning can cause all sorts of weird and not-normal behavior. If this doesn't blow over and things continue to get worse, talk to your RA. When I was in college I was able to switch rooms because of a dorm roommate that was very similar to yours. Try to focus on school and your life and let her live hers. Easier said then done, I know.  

[kbaby0921]

anonymous trickster

What everyone has said is true & I fully agree with. I will add that maybe you simply need to give her space & time. I don't know if you two had a strong relationship to begin with, but for now, the best you can do is give her space.
Like someone else said, you can't really make her trust you. She needs to get that back on her own.

What I would do is leave her a final note, handwritten on her desk, or laying on her bed. Or somewhere where it doesn't look like you touched her stuff...maybe placed in an envelop with her name written in big letters tapped to her side of the wall?
Try to re-explain yourself & the situation. Mention that you understand she feels that you violated her stuff and you had no intentions to do so. Let her know that you understand she is upset with you & you want her to forgive her & will give her the space she needs to take the time to forgive you & get trust back.

Until then...there really isn't too much you can do to fix the situation. I do not think you are in the wrong & I honestly would have done the same thing. Roommates can suck at times...but they are great learning experiences at times too. I've had great & totally crappy roommates. I hope your situation gets better somehow.  

[Flame2062]

If that happened to me... ill just put a poster of this in the room top saying OVEREACTING and at the bottom "It's a problem