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 Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 1:14 am
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 2:16 am
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Is he socially awkward himself? Quite a few people do things in such awkward ways because they are simply socially awkward. Often if its done on a common scale for most of how they go about life then it may have something to do with the Autism Spectrum. Though for many people they may have certain areas of awkwardness with out the other stuff.
Not saying its the case with him, but having worked with quite a few people on different parts of the autism spectrum it can be quite interesting to see how people with forms of autism will go about things (They will often try and fake behaviors they know they should be doing because they know what is considered right in that situation, yet will fumble through it because even though they know what is considered right, they still cant innately understand it).
I love working/chatting with socially awkward people (Even though in work I am very social, outside of work Im still somewhat socially awkward, though I understand enough about social psychology, body language and such to fake it XD). I find them to be quite interesting since they have a very different world sense.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sYnCr4urTkc (watch this for a brief intro its only 1.5 mins long, quite interesting)
Though maybe he was just trying to be funny...because if he was making fun of you for being single, then essentially he is making fun of himself for being the same.
Maybe hes just had bad experiences before, and didnt want to seem to eager?
Without knowning him more, I couldnt really do more than speculate, but there are several logical reasons for awkward behaviour.
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 2:29 am
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Nope, he's usually pretty socially adept. Out of the group of friends that we have in common, I would have said he's the least socially awkward person. I know a few people who fall on the Autism spectrum.
I don't think he was making fun, as such, but it may have been "Aw, that's sad. I feel like I should take you on a date." type thing. He was possibly just really surprised when he found out that I've never gone on one, except then he said some other stuff and now I don't know if he was trying to make me feel better or what, and then it went in the direction of 'Well if I asked you would you go on one with me' and then I had to be all 'probably not' and it was blaaaaargh.
I am extremely awkward with anything related to dating/romance/attraction when applied to myself, and I don't read these situations well. I'm probably getting worked up over nothing, but this kind of thing hits my anxiety buttons. |
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 2:46 am
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 2:48 am
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Sagebomb ShadowedMoonlight I am extremely awkward with anything related to dating/romance/attraction when applied to myself, and I don't read these situations well. I'm probably getting worked up over nothing, but this kind of thing hits my anxiety buttons. Fair enough. Yeah it happens. Whilst I tend to be quite good at reading others, and analysing others. I do tend to have limited social interactions outside of work, and have caught myself totally missing situations pertaining to myself several times. I am extremly outward focused. And I really care, and listen to my female friends, and like to look after them...which I few times had lead to them...asking me out...and leaving me in that bad spot of explaining that I value thier friendship and what not, but I wasnt looking for more and yeah...Sometimes its hard to genuinly care deeply about someone with out them thinking your care is a different form of care emo
People and feelings are so complicated. It's fascinating, but it also makes life really hard sometimes. >_< |
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:13 am
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:35 am
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Sagebomb ShadowedMoonlight People and feelings are so complicated. It's fascinating, but it also makes life really hard sometimes. >_< Yep, humans be crazy, and our ability to think at many different levels allows for much misunderstanding. Like I can think about the fact that you are thinking about what I could think you are thinking. Which is something with many levels, yet still something we can do easily enough....but just one error on any of those levels can lead to various mistakes in communication and understanding. |
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:43 am
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:48 am
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Sagebomb ShadowedMoonlight Exactly! And then each exchange following sheds new perspective on what was previously said and done, and we dwell on that and the possible meanings and use those to formulate our next actions, and it all spirals into madness. xd Exactly, lack of understanding can often cause massive problems (Now to get me in big trouble) Just like talking to a girl about anything during her PMS stage. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHzjgNoRmjgOf course I say that in jest, but various brain chemicals in different stages/states and levels can lead futher barriers to communication and understanding.
As my mother once advised my brother: "Never ask a woman if she's PMSing, because if she isn't, she'll kill you, and if she is, she'll kill you." |
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Posted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:01 am
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 3:18 am
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Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2013 9:10 am
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