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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:10 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:13 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:13 pm
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girl_omnipotent Kupi-Chan Well, you should just tell him. Better to be bluntly honest with it than suprise him with it, you know? well, when I told him I was going to get a labret, he said 'no' to my face, and threatened to rip it out if I did...so I havent... I know I should tell him, but then, I shouldn't need his permission, and he acts like I do...It just gets so ANNOYING! Something to consider in it is wether you see the relationship between the two of you a long term thing with a possible commitment later down the road. If you don't see it lasting (honestly in your heart) then I wouldn't worry much about it either way. He doesn't have the right to tell you what you can and can't do. As only a boyfriend you may choose to give the courtesy of taking his feelings into consideration, but he doesn't hold any sort of control in those decisions unless you guys have a deeper relationship (and by this I mean an engagement or marraige.) Even then he couldn't really stop you, but his feelings in the decision should hold a bit more wheight then. I'd tell him straight up that he needs to back off with how controlling he's trying to be. If he doesn't like it, then it's his choice to leave if he can't accept it. How far are you willing to let him go in the control factor?
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:22 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:23 pm
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Black Phoenix Rising girl_omnipotent Kupi-Chan Well, you should just tell him. Better to be bluntly honest with it than suprise him with it, you know? well, when I told him I was going to get a labret, he said 'no' to my face, and threatened to rip it out if I did...so I havent... I know I should tell him, but then, I shouldn't need his permission, and he acts like I do...It just gets so ANNOYING! Something to consider in it is wether you see the relationship between the two of you a long term thing with a possible commitment later down the road. If you don't see it lasting (honestly in your heart) then I wouldn't worry much about it either way. He doesn't have the right to tell you what you can and can't do. As only a boyfriend you may choose to give the courtesy of taking his feelings into consideration, but he doesn't hold any sort of control in those decisions unless you guys have a deeper relationship (and by this I mean an engagement or marraige.) Even then he couldn't really stop you, but his feelings in the decision should hold a bit more wheight then. I'd tell him straight up that he needs to back off with how controlling he's trying to be. If he doesn't like it, then it's his choice to leave if he can't accept it. How far are you willing to let him go in the control factor?
I've been through many abusive/heavily controlled relationships before....I promised myself I wouldn't let it happen again. *sigh* but things started out so well this time. crying
If it gets much worse, then, yes, I will get out. He's been pretty great about alot of things: doesn't care much how I dress, doesn't fuss about my cutting, isn't violent- at least not without a good reason...
*sigh* I've already decided to do it whether he wants me to or not. whatever happens after that is pretty much decided by his behaviour in reaction to it... I really do not want to loose him, but I refuse to change who I am... If it comes to me having to get rid of him, then so be it.
But then, I feel I cant be too hard on him...I got him into a monogomous relationship...that alone was a huge accomplishment on my part. I suppose I could give him a bit of tiem to adjust, and then bring up the matter when he fully gets used to the idea of fidelity...
*sigh* relationships are so damn complicated.
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:26 pm
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girl_omnipotent Black Phoenix Rising girl_omnipotent Kupi-Chan Well, you should just tell him. Better to be bluntly honest with it than suprise him with it, you know? well, when I told him I was going to get a labret, he said 'no' to my face, and threatened to rip it out if I did...so I havent... I know I should tell him, but then, I shouldn't need his permission, and he acts like I do...It just gets so ANNOYING! Something to consider in it is wether you see the relationship between the two of you a long term thing with a possible commitment later down the road. If you don't see it lasting (honestly in your heart) then I wouldn't worry much about it either way. He doesn't have the right to tell you what you can and can't do. As only a boyfriend you may choose to give the courtesy of taking his feelings into consideration, but he doesn't hold any sort of control in those decisions unless you guys have a deeper relationship (and by this I mean an engagement or marraige.) Even then he couldn't really stop you, but his feelings in the decision should hold a bit more wheight then. I'd tell him straight up that he needs to back off with how controlling he's trying to be. If he doesn't like it, then it's his choice to leave if he can't accept it. How far are you willing to let him go in the control factor?I've been through many abusive/heavily controlled relationships before....I promised myself I wouldn't let it happen again. *sigh* but things started out so well this time. crying If it gets much worse, then, yes, I will get out. He's been pretty great about alot of things: doesn't care much how I dress, doesn't fuss about my cutting, isn't violent- at least not without a good reason... *sigh* I've already decided to do it whether he wants me to or not. whatever happens after that is pretty much decided by his behaviour in reaction to it... I really do not want to loose him, but I refuse to change who I am. If it comes to me having to get rid of him, then so be it. If he doesn't fuss so much about your cutting he shouldn't really say much about the body art you want to do with it. All in all it seems like you've got a pretty good handle on how to go with it if his reaction is less than of a savory nature. Good luck to you either way.
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:26 pm
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girl_omnipotent Kupi-Chan Well, you should just tell him. Better to be bluntly honest with it than suprise him with it, you know? well, when I told him I was going to get a labret, he said 'no' to my face, and threatened to rip it out if I did...so I havent... I know I should tell him, but then, I shouldn't need his permission, and he acts like I do...It just gets so ANNOYING! Ripping it out?? eek Are you sure he's the right guy for you..? sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Apr 08, 2005 2:32 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 09, 2005 9:02 am
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Posted: Sat Apr 09, 2005 7:10 pm
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