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Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 2:10 pm
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I don't expect to ever be married in the future. It might happen, if I ever find someone compatible that I want to share the rest of my life with, but it's at the bottom of things I want to do in my future.
On the other hand, after I spend enough time taking full advantage of my freedom as a lone individual, I would like to have a kid or kids of my own eventually, whether or not they are adopted or my own blood.
Here's the thing though, as much as I want to be the playful parent, I also want to keep my kids grounded in reality.
No Easter Bunny, no Tooth Fairy, no Santa Claus.
I mentioned that I didn't want to raise my kids with Santa Claus to my mom once, and she jumped on me about it. I realized that if that's something I ever want to do, family might be an obstacle when it comes to raising my kids.
How are you going to raise your kids? How do you expect to raise them while taking your parents and present family into account?
Does anyone here already have kids?
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Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 3:36 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 7:55 am
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 8:14 am
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Raising kids without santa clause, etc seems well and good until they get old enough to talk to their friends at school about what they did over winter break. Then they realize, these other kids get presents and believe in Santa Clause and they don't. So they may feel jealous or inadequate or something of the like. You can raise your child however you want, but sometimes believing in things like Santa Clause can be good. If nothing else, it can stimulate their imaginations.
It's a very tough question for an atheist, though. For me at least, I would want to celebrate christmas with my child, but it would be hard to explain to them that it's a religious holiday when we aren't religious. As for the child's personal religious beliefs, that's even harder. I would want my child to feel free to practice whatever religion they want if they want to practice it, but at the same time, if my child doesn't say "mommy, I want to go to church on sunday," I probably wouldn't bring him/her there on my own accord.
I think it's one of those things that many atheist parents often find themselves playing by ear. My sister and brother in law have a toddler, and they haven't celebrated any religious holidays with her, but I'm anxious to see how they handle it once she's a little older.
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 5:26 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 2:50 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 3:17 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 9:49 pm
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Posted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 11:19 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 1:26 pm
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I must hold on .. // ♥
I have actually thought long and hard about this, and have come to several conclusions about how I will raise my children.
First off, no santa or any of those mythical beings. My parents told me from the beginning that they weren't real, but it was OK to pretend. And then when everyone else told their stories about how they found out Santa was fake, and how it crushed them, I could only giggle at the fact that I did not go through that.
Second, religion will not be important. Sure, should my child decide to be a Christian, I will support them. I will make my kids feel love and accepted despite what they may think or believe. If they want to go to church one day, it will be fine by me. But, you are not going to see me there with them unless it is for something special.
Third, I am NOT going to be the one to hand out money to them whenever they ask for it. They will get an allowance, and, should they waste it all and not have enough for something they want to do, too bad. But yeah.. if they need to come up with like.. an insane amount of money in a month, I'll help.
But really.. you can't plan anything else. Every other method to your parenting technique is going to depend on the child and what their specific needs are. You can only really set starter points, that can be changed and altered to the child and/or how the child grows.
♥ \ .. This happens all the time.
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 7:38 pm
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I want to raise the kid with out the childhood figures (ie. santa, jesus), so they can go to kintergarden and tell all there friends the truth. and one day ima take my lil athiest to curch, one of them 3 hour long ones too, and then tell them if they want to go back, thats ok with me, or they can have what ever the newest gaming system is then, i want to name him jesus, and he will be an athiest. and my mom will try to take him to church, and il have him make fun of her, and she wil cry.
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 11:47 am
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I do not want to raise a kid. I hope I will be too busy for it.
If I ever did, no Santa, Tooth Fairy, ect. They could have whatever religion they want (hey, it worked for me) and I would not push them in any way whatsoever. I not give them everything they want, they would have to earn it.
dr_nuby I want to raise the kid with out the childhood figures (ie. santa, jesus), so they can go to kintergarden and tell all there friends the truth. and one day ima take my lil athiest to curch, one of them 3 hour long ones too, and then tell them if they want to go back, thats ok with me, or they can have what ever the newest gaming system is then, i want to name him jesus, and he will be an athiest. and my mom will try to take him to church, and il have him make fun of her, and she wil cry.
LOL! That would be me if my parents were christians.
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 6:49 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:30 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:38 pm
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