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What is love? Can someone young and immature know what love is? A lot of people say no a child or teen can not understand what love truly is. This isn't the case, psychologists suggest that children and teenagers understand love, but lack the ability to properly understand it and usually end up going threw lots of relationships that end badly because they misunderstood what they were feeling. Even worse comes when someone tries to tell them what they are feeling or that what they think they are feeling is wrong.

So how should someone deal with love at a young age? Just let it happen, don't force it. Most of the time you will be happier with your good friend than the really hot guy that sits next to you in math. Its more important that you love to talk with them and spending tons of time with them never gets old. That every stupid thing they do is cute and stops being stupid. That when you look at that person the only thing you might want to change is that they don't smile enough.

Of course most people want that really attractive guy but think about this. Its easier to get the guy you get along with into shape, than to turn the guy that's in shape into someone you can love. In fact trying to change the way someone acts will only drive them away. So the next time your friend asks you on a date, put aside the way they look and except who they are and not dismiss them because of what they look like.

Why do I bring this up? Cause the one I love excepts me. I am not the most attractive guy, but she sees me for who I am. She does point out she is going to make me get in shape, but I love her so thats something that I should be willing to do and with the help of my friends I will.

Also, sex and relationships... Should you wait? this is something you have to ask yourself. I can tell you a few things that will help you deside and make the right decision for you however. First, no matter what you see in the movies, real life, or your friends/boyfriend/girlfriend tells you, sex wont fix a relationship. It will only create a problem, especially if you decide its something you weren't ready for. If the one your with is pressuring you or ask for sex often when you have said no, then mostlikely its not you they want from the relationship.
Second, Its not something you should just do to get it over with. This again is usually do to pressure. this time from friends, but its not their body and its not their life. If something happens you have to deal with it not them. One of my deeply respected idols Doctor Drew says teenagers who have sex are more prown to become to emotionally attached and are likely to look for abuse and also have a higher chance to become sex addicts.
Think I am lying? Well here are the facts behind it: teenagers are going threw peberty and have higher levels of natural chemicals in their body. Because of this they take an over emotional position on everything that happens. So having sex is more inimate than most teenagers can handle and can cause emotional trama that will mostlikely require years of psychiatric treatment to overcome.
Now I am not saying that you shouldn't do it. Somepeople find that special someone in their High School years and give themselves to them and it turns out fine.
In closing take careful consideration on how you choose to handle these things in your teen years. I will say that personally I am still a virgin at 21. I decided that it was worth me waiting for the right girl and the right time. I am not miserable and am perfectly content with this discision, that doesn't mean that it will be for you.

I will probably add more to this soon However I need sleep now. I hope this information is helpful to whoever reads it. For thoughs of you who don't know who Doctor Drew is look up Love Line on myspace.com.
Oh and I would love to here peoples thoughts on this and hope people will post what they thought about this in their own journal. (hopefully with a link to this so more may read it.) Make sure to comment bye bye. xp