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Just a place for quick tips, to save you the time of reading pages and pages of blog posts. =] Keep in mind, these are just from personal experience. If you have tips that you found useful, please message me. I will add them!
- Don't do this alone. It's just about impossible. Tell someone that you know personally. Not just an internet friend. You'll need someone that can actually be THERE for you. If you have a good relationship with your parents, tell them. It's worked wonders for me.
- Have any razors? Destroy them. Now, I'm not saying go through your kitchen and dispose of all the kitchen knives. Parental units may not jump at that idea. But you need to distance yourself from whatever you were using to cut yourself.
- Don't beat yourself up if you cave in. This is an addiction. Going cold turkey... Is hard. If you cut, just start the count over.
- Take it one day at a time. Don't look at the big picture here. It will seem impossible.
- I was forced into therapy when I told my parents. I was very much against at first. But having someone to talk to, that won't judge you... It's helpful. It's easier for me to talk to her because I DON'T know her. At least consider it.
- Have someone you can call at any time of day, or night. Someone who knows what you are going through, and can distract you until the urge passes. And it WILL pass.
- Play Guitar Hero! Keeps both your hands busy. When the urge is small, it has actually worked quite well for me!
- Surround yourself with those who love you, and things you love. When you feel an urge coming on, call up a friend and hang out. Or, if that doesn't work, just give a friend a call. Talk to them, let your feelings out. Friends WANT to be there for you. Let them.
- Think of an activity you love to do more than anything... No, not cutting. Something like writing, playing an instrument, reading a book... Anything like that. When you feel the urge coming on, and it's still small, go and do your favorite activity. Beat the urge before it grows, and it will go away.
- Many of you may be music freaks, such as I. I live and breathe music... Can't live without it. HOWEVER, at times it may not be the best therapy. Example... I'm an Avenged Sevenfold fan. BIG fan. I love their music but... When I'm trying to fight the urge and keep it surpressed, their music just ISN'T what I need to listen. While it's amazing, it's very dark and often talks about death or pain. I know you may love that kind of thing, nothing wrong with it! But... Listen to it wisely, alright?
- It's all about love, baby. =] You're addicted to cutting, but you don't love it. It doesn't fill that hole inside you like doing something you love, or being with someone you love. Do that instead.
- Motivation. Set a reward...like, for girls, I was going to get a manicure and then realized I didn't have that much money so...a whole day wearing a tank top - WITHOUT massive amounts of bracelets or arm-warmers or crap.
- And cheesey but, it really does help. Excersice as much as possible. (And eat).
- This one, my biggest problem, is VERY important. You're NOT perfect. No one is perfect... Don't expect it of yourself, you will always fall short. Makes me think of a song by the band Paramore. A band all of you should listen to. The song is "We Are Broken". It speaks about expecting perfection from yourself... It destroys you. Don't do it.
- Realize WHERE this addiction will lead you. It WILL get worse. And someone will probably find out. If it's that bad, there are places that they send cutters. NOT an appealing place. And... If no one finds out? Eventually it will lead to death. It always does, if it's not beaten. Scary thoughts, but that is the reality of this.
The list will grow as I come across more. Please, if you have some, let me know!
The Magical Mellophone · Tue Feb 05, 2008 @ 01:48am · 0 Comments |
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