There is the saying that you hurt the ones you love the most, but what about when you are hurt by someone you care about such as a friend or someone you once believed to be a friend? What is one to do, should they fight back or just let the “friend” batter away their heart? Either way something like that is not always easily forgiven or forgotten. This leads me back to a memory of mine with a girl who I thought of as a friend, looked up to, and will refer to her as Alice.
I had known Alice for about all her life, she was two years younger than me. I held her high in my eyes and that was my first mistake. She sometimes had a short temper, but tend to be a funny girl most of the time. Her mother had been having major financial problems and that left her stressed. She began talking about people behind their backs and I didn’t make much of it, and did not participate, since it was not about me. Yet one day she just seemed to have it in for me.
She started talking to our other friends about certain things about me that I had only trusted to her. Till this day I don’t know if she was intentionally speaking loud enough so I could hear her or not. I just kept ignoring it until about four hours straight of it and I had had enough. Once we were on our way home I confronted her telling her that if she had a problem with the way I did things to please tell me not just the rest of the world, and if I was doing things wrong to tell me so I could learn how to do things better. She was stunned at first about the fact that I for once stood up for myself. She then followed me towards my house where she proceeded to tell me, “You suck, you suck as a student, you suck as a friend, you are of no use to anyone...” She continued to verbally whip lash me for about a minute or two as I just stood there silent not wanting to waste my breath on the likes of her.
It hurt to have that coming from someone I considered a friend. When Alice had been harassing me I thought as to what my brother might do. He is a fighter and won’t put up with other peoples rubbish, but he’s not stupid either. That is why I stood up for myself because I had to be able to stand on my own since no one else there would, but I had to keep a cool head and not loose my temper. Though it hurt me much what happened that day, I am a little glad it happened. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to forgive her but I know that I well never forget. I’ve learned that I am able to stand on my own two feet as well as that I shouldn’t put up with that sort of treatment, especially when it comes from someone I call a “friend.”
Since then I’ve been more cautious of who I choose as friends and how I let them into my life. Though it may seem cold to some, I have found this way to be useful in such a way that if I do end up hurt it doesn’t get to me as much. I still continue to give people the benefit to the doubt but now once they hurt me I no longer call them my friend. I believe that everyone should learn, young or old, is that they should have an open mind towards others and understand that we all have flaws.
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