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Empathy
In my opinion, the ability to empathize is one of the most necessary qualities for every human being to contain. It is necessary in all aspects and at every stage of our lives.
I’ve often witnessed many people showing a deficiency in this quality. Despite the numerous experiences, I’m still shocked on these occasions. It seems society is becoming desensitized and as a result, less able to comfort others (as well as themselves).
Some people think giving some sort of generic condolence represents empathy and this is incorrect. To truly demonstrate empathy, you must allow yourself to be emotionally vulnerable and to a degree, absorb the other’s feelings. Its not about giving advice or trying to fix their issue. It’s not about placating. It’s about understanding and supporting them. Its about making an emotional connection.
NEVER ever say “At least_______”. It’s the worst. Haven’t you ever experienced that from someone trying to “help”? Say you had a really bad day or receive bad news like, you have cancer, for example. How would you feel having someone say “At least there are treatments nowadays”? If you had a miscarriage, what emotion would “At least you can get pregnant” evoke? Do you see what I mean?
It often takes time for a person to process their feelings. They must be allowed to feel without pressure or judgement.
One of the most helpful things to say is something like, “I honestly don’t know what to say, but I’m glad you told me. I’m here for you” and then ACTUALLY be there for them. Its simple. Don’t just say the words. Some people can pretend, but fake empathy is rarely consistent and never helpful. People with emotional acuity can very quickly tell when someone is being disingenuous.
No type of relationship is sustainable without empathy and many people without this ability, end up alienating those around them.
You can learn how though, so don’t lose heart. There are many credible instructional articles available online. Do your research. Be honest with yourself, open and of course, willing. In time and with practice, it will begin come naturally.





 
 
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