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Just wait until the girls at the salon hear this juicy gossip. *limp wrist flick* :roll: - I don't really know much about him himself, hopefully you do ;) , but I think if his random leavings on storm chases and vanishing online, etc. are frequent then it's probably not that he's inconsiderate to the extent that he doesn't bother informing you or better yet discussing it with you, so much as he doesn't have the time to and he just makes the decisions on the wing, as it were, or else he doesn't even have a say in the matter. Dunno, but hopefully you can figure if that's the case or not out for yourself. :XD - As for those differences, haven't you ever heard of opposites attract? 8) As I said before, it doesn't necessarily mean there's a problem, so if you're just creating one by thinking that this is an issue that needs addressing when it doesn't, then you should drop it and things will most likely be fine (as far as this is concerned). If, however, this lack of things in common is actually stopping the two of you getting on or making you drift apart then it probably is a problem in itself and as I said previously, if you can't come up with something to do together or to have in common, then maybe you're just not right for each other? :ninja: The him not giving way on films sounds like a minor problem, but if he's like that in general, not giving way or even listening to your opinions on things when they don't match his own, then it's a pretty big problem. But then again, you're only one side of the story, it might not be that he's too stubborn but rather that you've become too compliant and you just feel dejected that he hasn't become as willing to make such sacrifices as you have, even though no one's making you make them (other than yourself) anyway. - As above, nothing wrong with that kind of relationship if it works for you, so if you're just worried about it because you think it might be indicative of a problem that otherwise wouldn't be there, move on and forget about it. If not, and you don't feel you can be happy in that sort of relationship, don't force yourself to stay in it unless you're hopefully that it'll change. :ninja: - Most guys are like that. :XD - Most guys aren't like that unless they're in a group. And even then, if he seems to get too carried away in what he's saying, like he's not just picking up on the humour of a situation, but rather he seems like he'd actually find it funny to hit a baby, then he's an a*****e. :ninja: :XD But again, this might just be that guys and girls are different, or maybe you just have too different senses of humour for you to understand why he finds something that to you seems overly violent funny. *shrugs* - To you, or in general? If it's just to you, then you'd have picked pretty badly if he wasn't (although there's that whole thing about girls going for bad boys, so I still wouldn't've been surprised... :XD ) - That's a good sign, although with your male friend if you've known them longer it may not be as decisive a quality. :ninja: - :XD When making hard decisions, every factor, no matter how shallow, is fair game. :lol: - In tune with... you mean, he knows how to dress himself appropriately? :XD I'm confused as to that benefit. >.> But hey, fixing things is a handy feature to have in a partner. :3nod: - Won't understand or won't find it funny? 8) Considering how many people these days are so completely intolerant, I think the fact he's just okay with other people that don't share his views is a good thing. :3nod: - Things like that are the big relationship clinchers, but at the same time you have to bear in mind that if you've got a very close friend they could often do this too. Just because you get on really well with someone doesn't mean you have to go out with them. :domo: I notice you mentioned nothing about sex appeal. 8) While building a relationship solely on sexual attraction is obviously a pretty silly thing to do unless you only want meaningless sex for a while (which is what plenty of people [i]do[/i] want, to each their own) sex is always an important part of a relationship. :3nod: After all, love is complex, while sex is straight forward, while you can't go as far as to say that "love" is just "friendship" + "sexual attraction", if you can't be friends and sexually attracted to someone, what point is there in being anything more than just friends or sex-buddies accordingly? :lol: I'll take it as read that you're hot for him, though. :xp: Definately not something a guy wants to hear from his girlfriend when asking such a question, "I'm thinking about whether I'd be better suited to going out with my best friend who has a crush on me than with you". :XD But at the same time, things like that have a way of coming up sooner or later, and they always hurt more after they've been concealed. You could always use this contemplation as an acid test, if Jeff acts like an a** once you tell him about such thoughts (although to be fair with him I'd try and word it as delicately as possible and try and be a bit better with your timing than he is too ;P ) then maybe you're better off without him? If, however, he listens to what you have to say and talks about it with you, or even just lets it go as understandable, then that's a pretty big achievement in itself, and you never know, he might have something to say to you (good or bad or other >.> ) that he wouldn't've otherwise come to say. :3nod: But I'd be careful not to take my advice too readily as I'm a pretty harsh person myself, highly prejudice but entirely indiscriminant, I'm the kind of person who faced with the old saying "Lovers come and go, but friends last forever", which is meant for if it should ever come to a time when either your lover or friends make you choose between them or the other, you should always go for your friends as friendship is less fleeting and more constant that the complex and turbulant world of love :lol: , I think along the lines of, lovers are, generally, exclusive by nature, unlike friends (having two friends, even if both are your best friends, is considered fine, but having two lovers isn't ). But I digress, my point is basically I'm the kind of person that would look at such a situation and react in a "if they're manipulative enough to make such a demand, ******** 'em" manner, since friends that couldn't stay friends with you regardless of their impression of your lover are rather fickle friends, and a lover that has similar problems with your friends clearly has issues that makes them an a*****e. :XD Of course that's the base answer, but truth be told, in reality I'd always side with my lover, since I can quite happily make new friends with no real concern for my old ones, while doing such a thing in the matters of love are a lot harder for me. But hey, you know yourself better than I do, so you decide. :xp: