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A random question.
Why is it that the words that are left unsaid are the words that need to be heard the most? It sort of tears me apart that can't say what I want to because of that constant fear of rejection. If I do muster up the courage to open my mouth to say something..I choke on my own words and spit out new ones. I completely change the subject and I always wonder what could have been or what could have happened or not have happened had I said what I had been dying to say for so long. A sense of regret I guess.
Do you have this problem or is it just me?






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Prinny Raid
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commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 04:44am
D: I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes, I want to say something, but the fact that a relationship will end in a bad way, I don't. Just.. I don't know what to say, but just know that you're not the only one. It's a corny thing to say, but listen to your conscious.


commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 04:49am
I have the exact same problem and I have no idea why that is. It really sucks, and it's very annoying that I can never express myself through words towards people. Especially my boyfriend. There are so many things that I want to say, but I never can because I don't know how to say them without hurting people. Then when I finally think, "Screw that, I'll say it how it comes out" it comes out twisted, wrong, evil, and hurts the person. -.-

Bah, it's terrible, and I hate coping with it, but it happens, and some way or another I have to learn how to deal with it... same with you. Don't give it too much thought, and don't take it too seriously, 'cause after all we're not old enough to talk wisely or perfectly know what we're saying.

Good luck!

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~BrokenButterfly312~
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commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 05:19am
:O aww that sucks .. but sometimes you do have to say something .. even if it does hurt in the end .. but you'll get better though with time..no matter what we all go through it crying (but hey maybe it'll make things better 3nodding ).. sometimes I hold things back and if what Im holding back is serious or big it hurts me more if I dont get the word out .. so if I were you I would just get it out but make sure you know what you want to say and make sure your emotions dont get the better of you .. believe me if you let your emotions get control it can make it worse . gonk


commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 05:25am
Unfortunately, a lot of people have this problem. I guess it's just how people are influenced by their peers, the media, etc. I'm not sure exactly why a lot of people have this problem. I have this problem as well and it brings me another question: Does everything happen for a reason? I don't know the answer to that question, though. I wish I did because that would probably change my entire perspective and probably help me get through a lot of drama. . . Somehow.



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shadowkeandre
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commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 05:31am
I think every one has this problem. I used to have that problem but then I just said what i had to say and it all turned out ok.


commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 05:36am

I know how you feel.

I think that people are afraid of what someone else is going to say, and then they hold all of it in.

But then you come to realize that you should have said it all along...

I think that they wonder what the person might do if they say the wrong thing.

[[ That also brings up the issue of who your real friends are... ]]

If you can't trust the person, or if you think that it will hurt them, you don't say anything.

I think your mind freezes to the fact that you might loose them.



Teh Queen of Nerds
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OSaviorO
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commentCommented on: Sun Apr 08, 2007 @ 06:03am
i have the same exact problem i get ready to say something to like a girl asking them out or something and then i get the fear of rejection and then I say something extremely stupid and idiotic and then I just buckle up and i saw what i want to say so i know how you feel


commentCommented on: Sat May 05, 2007 @ 12:12am
That's why I was a book worm for most of my school career. I was afraid of what my peers would say if I said something, and so I rarely ever spoke. For some reason, it was easier to talk to the teachers, though...



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