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Some notes about my sexuality. |
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• I am into women, girls*, and females. • I am also into grrrls. • I am also into non-binary people of many kinds. • I am much more rarely into men, boys*, and males. Some of this is because they just don't do it for me physically or emotionally, some of it is because I've internalized homophobia, and some of it is because they tend to trigger me. • I am into some bois. • I tend to be slightly more attracted to femininity than masculinity, but it also really depends on the person and, sometimes, how they identify. • The assigned sex of any given person has nothing to do with whether I am attracted to them or not. Meaning, all the above refers to those who identify as such, and trans people as well as cis people. • In fact, presence or absence of any kind of surgery or HRT doesn't have anything to do with whether I'm attracted to someone, either. Or just about anything else related to the traditional concept of someone's sex. • I don't really consider myself queer because I feel like I'm not attracted to men, boys, and males enough for it, and because I feel like I'm too heteronormative to be queer. I also suspect internalized homophobia has something to do with my avoidance of the term. • I don't consider myself pansexual because gender does affect whether I'm attracted to someone or not, even if it won't automatically exclude anyone as a possible source of attraction. • I've called myself heteroflexible in the past because I fall back on being attracted to women, girls, and females most of the time. But because I'm attracted to a fairly large number of non-binary people and do enjoy breaking with heteronormativity a decent amount of the time, I sometimes feel like I'm a little too queer to be even "mostly straight." I also worry about erasing the identities of those I'm attracted to who don't identify as women, girls, or female. • I find the label of demisexual to be pretty accurate. I'm very rarely attracted to complete strangers, and I'm almost never sexually attracted to them. While I may be somewhat sexually attracted to those I know fairly well, strong sexual attraction does not generally develop until I'm in love with someone or romantically involved with them. • This basically means that personality really does affect whether someone is attractive to me or not. I'm attracted to personalities, and generally more to certain genders than others, and my attraction to individuals' physical attributes tends to develop from there. • This also means that the concept of casual sex doesn't generally appeal to me in the slightest. • I like penetrating and being penetrated. This has more to do with whether I am Dominant or submissive than the gender of the person in question, or my own gender identity. However, I'm generally really uncomfortable with the thought of being penetrated by a male or man, for the reasons listed up above. • I like sex that ******** with the heteronormative standard. • I also like sex that goes along with heteronormativity. • I also find heternormativity comfortable and familiar in other sexual and non-sexual situations. But this is only true when I am the one choosing to be heteronormative and not being forced into it. • I have a lot of sexual triggers and hang-ups, even though I'm not inclined to discuss them unless you're a good friend or a partner. • You may also want to read this to learn more about my gender identity.
*This refers to those who identify as such, not those who are underage.
Dystopia Lycanthropia · Tue Aug 16, 2011 @ 09:35pm · 0 Comments |
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