Gaia reminded me it is still Gaia yesterday, which is also THE INTERNET lol. If you have an opinion, even if it is factual or backed up, even if its wrong, no matter what if someone disagrees with it online people will be assholes before they have a discussion. We are also in an age where people have become obsessed since COVID with controlling others speech and what can be said so I suppose its not a surprise this has not improved over the years.
For a moment though, I want anyone who might read this to imagine a world where when someone says something on a hot topic that truly deeply irritates us, that if instead of responding negatively that we were to respond by initiating a discourse. Seeing what other people think, even if we don't agree with them, and everything in our being says "NO, YOU'RE WRONG". It would feel difficult and require a certain level of self control, but if we all practiced this things would be quite different. Both online and in person.
But our instinct is to be rude, and put others down. And then we complain that the world is a terrible place when we are contributing to it being less of a nice place. Positive discourse is a rarity.
I am positive I did not respond in kindness yesterday once people started to attack me. I was told I was an embarrassment while a government source was thrown at me (which I found pretty funny actually), so I threw a government article back at them countering their argument from the National Institute of Health while being mocking towards their insult. I know I need to be better, and cannot make people better themselves even though they started it.
I was very impressed yesterday on my favorite discord channel. Friends were having a debate on a very hot topic. Abortion. One of the topics that turn people nasty fast. It was a long online debate, but there was NO nastiness. NO animosity. It was a calm respectful discourse. There wasn't even disdain towards each other. I have mad respect for those friends for the way they respect others. They understand people are different and have different opinions and don't demonize each other. They don't look down upon each other any less and look into each others point of views to see how the other may be thinking. If it was anyone else online it would've been more like this:
"You're disgusting that you think anyone has the right over a woman's bodily autonomy!" "Well I could never be friends with someone who supports murder!".
But they understand humans are more complex then that and much more goes into behind why people form the opinions they do or form the thinking they have and they look at the person as a whole. Things are not black and white, and people and their thinking is not black and white. And us developing this understanding helps us to better respond to each other, and even react with empathy. Another trait this world lacks making it colder.
Which leads me to my next point:
We cannot know, what we do not know, if we do not open our minds to what we may not know.
We must open our minds to other ideas and what other people have to say.
I think people think opening your mind is the same as accepting what the other person is saying and believing it. But you CAN open your mind to something while still not taking on that opinion or belief as your own.
I didn't bother to continue to debate those people because the fact of the matter is they are not willing to open their minds and have cemented themselves where they are. I could have sent them the hardest of evidence and they still would have put me down and told me I am wrong and told me I was part of the problem for not sharing in their beliefs system. They weren't willing to have positive discourse and open their minds, much less be nice. I repeat opening your mind DOES NOT mean you need to share the same opinion after having a discussion or listening to what others might have to say.
How many times have you been online and watched 2 parties debate, and no matter what solid evidence is presented, there is no meeting of the minds? Just animosity and insults. There is literally a refusal to open their mind and at least see why the person thinks the way they do.
Growing up I used to do the online debate thing quite a bit, but I have rendered it a useless thing to do. I probably would have taken an interest in debate if people could be better people. But I still have moments (and this is where kindness needs to come in) where I think OMG how can someone think so stupid? Are they not looking into all sides or are they blindly consuming info? And then I make a comment on the matter like a dummy, and suddenly there's a lot of rudeness on their end, so I respond the same way. My initial thoughts were unkind so I had to say something even if I wasn't rude, but once they responded rudely its on like donkey kong and now I'm being a dumb b***h too. The unkind thoughts are why I responded even if I didn't act that way till they responded.
So I guess the daily lesson here is:
1) Be kind in both mind, body, and action
2) Open your mind and hear others out
3) Don't complain in the midst of your lack of kindness that the world is a shitty place when you are not helping either.
4) Negativity brings more negativity, positivity brings more positivity.
Have a great day Gaia. Be kind smile
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