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Well it was my sister's 18th birthday today and the whole family went to the olive garden. Even her new boyfriend came too. Yes her boyfriend, grrrrrrr. I do not hate the guy or anything, I just hate it that we don't spend time together as much anymore. I mean first my cousin gets married and now this! Its like to her I have disapeared. Now instead of asking me to join her at the mall she asks him! He's taken my place dammit!(pardon my french) hes moved in on my territory, and thats something no one ever do! Ok hes a nice guy, very very cute, and boy what a body, those muscles are amazing, but that not the point. My sister always tells all her boyfriends she loves them and loves on them and presses herself against them, and she needs to cut that out! If daddy saw them, which thank god he hasn't, he would crush his skull with his left hand. Daddy is very very very protective, he scares me sometimes. My sister is not a bad girl at all she just dos'nt really get it. If she would have been paying attention to what mother said then maybe she wouldn't treat guys like that.

Mother told us that boys at our age have one thing on their mind allot. She said its their hormones, and that they can't help themselves. Its the way god made them to be while they are young and when they get older its calms down. She said that boys think about what we look like with nothing on, and they can desire us without having to touch us. They fantasize about the female body allot. And we cannot call them perverts if were wearing something flashy, it would be our fault because its what they will think about if we help put it in their heads. That is why it is our job to help them by dressing tasteful. Even very decent boys struggle with these thoughts.
She also told us that guys need respect, they would rather feel unloved than disrespected. And also that boys are insecure deep down. Although they appear cocky and confident, they are often insecure in themselves. she said that they worry that they will be found out, and therefore are drawn to girls who help them feel like they measure up.
My sister should not use the word love so carelessly, she does that with all her boyfriends, then the poor guys get attached to her and she dumps them. Some of them have cried about it, I felt very sorry for them. I know its not easy for guys to cry. Espeacially in front of girls. Mother said guys are fragile and we can really hurt them.
Guys look indestructible, but on the inside their hearts are tender and easily hurt, and strongly guarded. She said that they will let down their defenses when they know their hearts will be safe with a girl. She told us thats why we should not gossip and blab each others secrets, because to him he just thinks if you tell the juice on other people you will do the same about him, and thats why they don't really like to get personal. She also said thats why boys are better to talk to because they don't share what you say to the whole world they usually keep it between you and him.
She told us that the one important thing to guys is their pride, she told us to never ever challenge it.


And she told us that guys do go after the hot girls, which is why its very important for us to take care of ourselves and have self respect. She said guys are attracted to girls with a good personality as well as inner and outer beauty. but they cannot force a physical attraction.

Guys like to talk to us, its just that to keep their attention we need to be brief and get to the point. When we ask them how was there day, and they say good, it means it was good. They could care less what the color of the ceiling fan was when they were feeling hungry at the time, so we shouldn't pressure them for every little detail. And guys want boundaries, they want to know what they can or cannot do with you, they don't like teasing games. They want you to be true to yourself, because when your not easy its a challenge for them. Deep down they want you to be hard to get. They want you to say no, they want to respect you. Then mother said that guys do like easy girls too. He likes them because they are easy and when he has his urges he wants the easy girls that can give him what he wants, but he dosn't want to commit himself to her because if she gives it to him how does he know she wont to anyone else. Thats why he loves the good girl the most, and when it comes to marriage he falls in love and wants his bride to be a virgin, to know that she is all his is the most wonderful thing you can ever give to him.

Thats why after always listening to what mother told me I try to treat guys with respect and be a good friend. I keep the boundaries and set the limits. I expect respect in return, and try not to make things awkward for them. I don't know if what mother said was exactly true but I trust her and so far all the guys in my life have been wonderful.

well thanks for reading, I hope it helped girls. And please leave a comment espeacialy the guys, tell me if its true or not. please? I really want to know. If you don't feel comfortable with leaving a comment feel free to pm me.