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Communication is key in any relationship professional or personal, if there is no communication then the relationship will always fail. That is the way it is. In personal relationships, it is the leading cause for it to fail. In professional relationships if one fails to communicate properly, they will lose their job or never advance within the company. My question I pose is why is it so hard to communicate for the majority of people? Is it because they are afraid of how that person will feel? Because they don't care enough to tell someone they are not interested? Or straight up cowardice?

The first example is cowardice. I was supposed to go on a date with a guy. Last weekend we had plans, he told me that he had fallen down the stairs and broken a rib. He continued to tell me that he was still looking forward to going out with me and was beating himself up over the fact that he had fallen down the stairs because he was now unable to drive because of the meds that they put him on. So we made plans for this weekend. All week I had no reason to believe that he was going to bail out on me, until I noticed a friend missing from myspace the day before our date. Yup... I contacted him by text message, never got an answer. My thought is: Is it so damned hard to pick up the phone and tell me that you think WHATEVER about me and don't want to go out? Smooth... like sandpaper... How the hell can this person call himself "a good guy" if he treats a girl like that normally... no wonder he is single. Communication skills: 0

The second example I will use is when I go to a job interview and everything seems rosy and the employer shakes my hand and says, "You will hear from us by this time, no matter what the decision." That time comes and guess what. No phone call, now obviously I haven't gotten the job, but when someone says that they will call, THEY WILL CALL!
Ok, so I call anyway.
"You have not recieved the position."
"Thank you for the opportunity." *Click* "Dumbass, you should of asked how you could improve, would that be uncouth?"
In this example we see 2 examples of lack of communication, the fact that the employer didn't care enough to call the potential employee to let them know that they have not recieved the position, and the cowardice of the potential employee to ask how they could improve on their interviewing skills or any feedback at all for that matter. I admit that this is cowardice on my part because yes, I am afraid to recieve the truth, to recieve bad news. but I would want the truth even though it was bad. Because then I could look at myself and see where I can improve.

The third example is a friend of mine who is in love with his ex girlfriend, and his ex girlfriend is in love with him, but with someone else. Now The ex girlfriend is not in love with her current boyfriend, and finds him rather boring. She will not leave him for the man she is in love with because she is afraid to hurt him and "he hasn't done anything wrong." Now, if I were the current boyfriend I would want her to tell me how she feels about me, I would want to know the truth, not a ball full of lies. Even if the truth hurt me, at least I would know that I wasn't in a relationship full of lies.

I want communication, I want the truth even if it is bad news, I want to know where I can improve myself as a human being. That is a desire that I believe all humans need fulfilled. The road to good relationships professionally and personally is communication, follow through, if there is none of that, relationships will fail. People need to voice the truth about how they feel about others, because in the end it might improve the person on the other end.