Most guys I know h@e being critisized. Or r@her, we h@e it when people bring up stupid mistakes we've made in the past, and th@'s probably a lot of the reason it's so hard for us. I think most of us, even if we're totally sure she'll say yes, are too afraid to ask for a least a while. I'm kind of in the same situ@ion right now and I'm not really sure wh@ to do with it but this is not the time or rant to talk about th@. I'll find a way eventually anyways or I'll regret it the rest of my life.
Anways, One thing I'd like to point out first (hopefully this'll get me in more of a ranting mood than I am now) is th@ sex isn't all guys want. (I'm not saying we don't mind you XD, I'm just saying it's not the only motive for our attempts.) Maybe some guys only care about looks fortun@ely for me however, I am not one of them. Even sex really is important, I think the most important thing in a rel@ionship is being with someone you really care about. I think the one real test to see if you care about someone this way is to ask yourself "Even if for someone reason we could NEVER have sex, would I stay with them?"
I started thinking about this the other day when some girl who's a friend of one of my friends said "You know, girls don't usually like guys with long hair.." I though about it and honestly didn't care, the way I see it; if someone only cares about you for your looks then you're too good for them. I'd r@her be liked for me than for my looks if I really had any. (Based on looks alone I'm pretty certain I'm not the kind of guy any girl dreams about @ night.) [I'm not saying I'm ugly either though. XP I know it's kinda random but I have a lot of fun with my look, I think it describes me pretty much perfectly. Random, yet methodical and though out.]
I really think th@ the main obstacle any rel@ionship faces though (well, new rel@ionships anyways) is either/both persons' lack of confidence. Just 'cause the person you like hasn't asked you out or anything doesn't mean they don't like you. It really is just a m@ter of confidence most of the time. Th@'s wh@ my problem is most of the time. So I think wh@ I'd say to anyone who wants to ask anyone out or be someone is to just go for it. I think the one case unfortun@ely th@ this doesn't apply to right now is me though. .''>.<''. I really like someone but if it doesn't work out I'm afraid of losing them. Once again though, not the time or rant.
P.S. To anyone who's having a dillema like mine, try writing about it, it actually really helps you think stuff out. I've decided I'm just gonna have to take my chances. (Don't rush though mind you.)
Well wh@ever, night all. I'm getting tired, and thanks to anyoe who actually takes the time to read this,
"The Gift"
"As humans, we tend to destory what we cannot comprehend. It is our job however, to attempt to understand what we do not, accept what cannot be understood, and embrace the concept of things yet to be discovered."
