Not wanting to lose this big rant, I want to save it here:
I freaking
Of course love is real; not physically real, it's like an ethereal create you can feel, but cannot understand.
I have to agree with you when you say that love is thrown around so casually these days - I find that it happens with the preteens and young teens (around ages of 10-15, depending on the maturity). I'd even say blasphemy, if it didn't sound so silly.
Love takes a lot of forms, the way I see it. It is normal to love your parents and a friend, but in a completely different way from each other. Love isn't what people always think, that it envolves, well... at some point, sex - face it, if you do love a person, you will want to have sex with her/him someday, since it's not only healthy and normal (DON'T FORGET THE CONDOMS) but also a way to entwine your bodies in a deep, meaningful way. Love is a feeling that has no 'scientific proof', or whatever you call it. You can't limit yourself to facts only, you have to experience it. Of course you can love your mother and your father, it's absolutely natural to attach to them, they raised you, gave you shelter and warmth, sometimes even fought with you, but they will always be your parents. So it is with your friend. After you spend a big amout of time with someone you care about, you'll end up loving him, in a different way you will love your future lover. But it is possible. Example: my "brother", my best friend since the seventh grade. We became so close over the years that he has even crossed the line of 'best friend' to 'brother'. And I love him, but I don't see myself in any other relationship with him besides this one we're having now - which, mind you, it's fantastic.
While I understand that sometimes, when you're with someone for a long time - or even for a little while! - you might experience certain feelings and call it 'love'. While sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I am not saying that you should only date when you find your true love. Actually, I believe you should do exactly the contrary.
Experience, adore, hug, care, worry, suffer, hurt, get hurt, be vulnurable, be warm, be cold, smile, laugh, frown, cry, confort, seek warmth.
You will cherish that experience later, and I am sure that, if you date with the people you trully adore, or to a point where love tingles, you might just find that one person. Love hurts, everyone knows that, but even Gandhi said, "a coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave." Because you will get hurt, but, then again, it's a good thing. It means you care. Hurt will come, but love will heal that wound. Sooner or later.
Then again, I don't believe that in a world with so many people there is only one true love. I'm not saying it's a bad thing; again, quite the contrary, it's good. So you can meet different people and ways of loving. Don't be afraid to open up your heart; just cautious. Not everyone has good intentions, and you have to see beyond the smile he/she gives to you.
There is also no perfect relationship. That's an utopy - and an incredible subjective topic. For example, for some old fashioned man, his dream of a perfect relationship is the classic routine of getting home and having his wife with his dinner ready, the kids ready to bed, the house cleaned. While for other man, the perfect relationship can be sharing tasks together, spend the night in each other's arms, having both the same 'authority' over the other.
It might happen, but discussions and bickerings will happen. And it's only normal (unless it's every day over everything), even healthy. The two people in a relationship are not the same - it'd only get too boring. Not saying that 'opposites attract', but there is some truth to this statement. Having things in common is fenomenal, but so it is to discover new things about your lover. Due to this detail of being different, you will have arguments because you have a certain way of thinking, a certain morality, a certain opinion that your other half doesn't share. And that is so normal.
The perfect relationship, the one you see in movies, is an utopy, but the true perfect relationship is the one where both partners feel loved, love, and trust eachother, are honest, do not fear to be vulnerable, and so on. And, yes, the perfect relationship will include sex, maybe even a child later on your life, if, and only if, both partners want it.
I am also a very physical person. I love to hug, kiss, touch, hold hands. When you love someone, lust will be included in it. It will, and that's what it is normal. Because you will feel an attraction to that person.
That's why I say I'm adoresexual. Yes, adoresexual, haha. I like to believe that you fall in love with the person, not the gender. I don't seek out to find a man (or a woman) desesperatly. Of course I have hormones, I'm completely normal, but that doesn't mean I lust after every good looking man/woman that I see. Society has just decided that your sexuality is more important than a pair of jeans. That's why, sometimes, your love isn't out there; you haven't searched everything.
I have to agree with you when you say that love is thrown around so casually these days - I find that it happens with the preteens and young teens (around ages of 10-15, depending on the maturity). I'd even say blasphemy, if it didn't sound so silly.
Love takes a lot of forms, the way I see it. It is normal to love your parents and a friend, but in a completely different way from each other. Love isn't what people always think, that it envolves, well... at some point, sex - face it, if you do love a person, you will want to have sex with her/him someday, since it's not only healthy and normal (DON'T FORGET THE CONDOMS) but also a way to entwine your bodies in a deep, meaningful way. Love is a feeling that has no 'scientific proof', or whatever you call it. You can't limit yourself to facts only, you have to experience it. Of course you can love your mother and your father, it's absolutely natural to attach to them, they raised you, gave you shelter and warmth, sometimes even fought with you, but they will always be your parents. So it is with your friend. After you spend a big amout of time with someone you care about, you'll end up loving him, in a different way you will love your future lover. But it is possible. Example: my "brother", my best friend since the seventh grade. We became so close over the years that he has even crossed the line of 'best friend' to 'brother'. And I love him, but I don't see myself in any other relationship with him besides this one we're having now - which, mind you, it's fantastic.
While I understand that sometimes, when you're with someone for a long time - or even for a little while! - you might experience certain feelings and call it 'love'. While sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. I am not saying that you should only date when you find your true love. Actually, I believe you should do exactly the contrary.
Experience, adore, hug, care, worry, suffer, hurt, get hurt, be vulnurable, be warm, be cold, smile, laugh, frown, cry, confort, seek warmth.
You will cherish that experience later, and I am sure that, if you date with the people you trully adore, or to a point where love tingles, you might just find that one person. Love hurts, everyone knows that, but even Gandhi said, "a coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave." Because you will get hurt, but, then again, it's a good thing. It means you care. Hurt will come, but love will heal that wound. Sooner or later.
Then again, I don't believe that in a world with so many people there is only one true love. I'm not saying it's a bad thing; again, quite the contrary, it's good. So you can meet different people and ways of loving. Don't be afraid to open up your heart; just cautious. Not everyone has good intentions, and you have to see beyond the smile he/she gives to you.
There is also no perfect relationship. That's an utopy - and an incredible subjective topic. For example, for some old fashioned man, his dream of a perfect relationship is the classic routine of getting home and having his wife with his dinner ready, the kids ready to bed, the house cleaned. While for other man, the perfect relationship can be sharing tasks together, spend the night in each other's arms, having both the same 'authority' over the other.
It might happen, but discussions and bickerings will happen. And it's only normal (unless it's every day over everything), even healthy. The two people in a relationship are not the same - it'd only get too boring. Not saying that 'opposites attract', but there is some truth to this statement. Having things in common is fenomenal, but so it is to discover new things about your lover. Due to this detail of being different, you will have arguments because you have a certain way of thinking, a certain morality, a certain opinion that your other half doesn't share. And that is so normal.
The perfect relationship, the one you see in movies, is an utopy, but the true perfect relationship is the one where both partners feel loved, love, and trust eachother, are honest, do not fear to be vulnerable, and so on. And, yes, the perfect relationship will include sex, maybe even a child later on your life, if, and only if, both partners want it.
I am also a very physical person. I love to hug, kiss, touch, hold hands. When you love someone, lust will be included in it. It will, and that's what it is normal. Because you will feel an attraction to that person.
That's why I say I'm adoresexual. Yes, adoresexual, haha. I like to believe that you fall in love with the person, not the gender. I don't seek out to find a man (or a woman) desesperatly. Of course I have hormones, I'm completely normal, but that doesn't mean I lust after every good looking man/woman that I see. Society has just decided that your sexuality is more important than a pair of jeans. That's why, sometimes, your love isn't out there; you haven't searched everything.
Moving on.
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