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I work with a guy that no one likes.

It's not one of those "he's estranged" types either. He's just a typical guy.

He annoys a lot of people. I've worked with him before and he annoyed me.

I see if I can put into words what it was I didn't like about him.

We both started working at the company relatively the same time. I was hired about a month and a half before he was. When we would work together though, he would always act like he had been there longer.

We would be doing something together and he might say something like "Here, let me show you how to do this." But I already knew how to do it. And it wasn't something that I couldn't pick up in a few seconds.

It might sound like he's trying to be helpful, but he's actually just trying to assert that he's better than you.

We were both hired as temporary employees and we were both later hired as full-time employees. I was hired full-time about a month before he was and when he found out he drives up and says "Didn't I start earlier than you did?"

Sometimes he'll hear something like, I'm working some overtime in California, and he'll ask me about it. I'll be like "Yeah, I'm going." and he'll say "Niiice." and nod his head.

I don't know what it is about when he does this, but it seems so terrifically ingenuine. It's as if he doesn't think it's "Nice", but rather it upsets him or he's jealous.

I hope I'm not coming off as if I hate this guy, but he's actually really a good person. Most of the people I work with don't care for him and it's for the same reasons.

I'm not sure how well I'm explaining this to you. Is there some sort of English word to describe a person who irritates you despite it not being his fault?

I don't think he realizes how much of an a** he is being half the time. It's like everyone around him resents him and makes fun of him behind his back, but it's not even something he's aware of.

Because of this, at times I worry that I am the same way.

My girlfriend will, on occasion, when she is angry with me, tell me what a terrible person I am and how I come off as a really big a*****e to everyone else even though I don't think I do.

I try very hard not to be annoying, not to correct people, or to assert that I am always right, and it's because I'm afraid I'm just like that guy that everyone hates, but no one tells me.