This is THEE MOST IMPORTANT thing I have learned from my high school experience.
No matter what you do, what you look like or where you're from, there will ALWAYS be someone who will dislike you. And you shouldn't change for that person, because if they do not appreciate for who or what you are, they do not matter to you and you don't need them in your life.
How I learned this?
There were 2 girls that I was(still am) friends with, not very close nor did I hang out with them but I could call them my friends.
I was also friends with these other girls (no longer friends) who acted like they were friends with the other 2 girls.
And these 2 girls didn't really know each other:
---Girl #1 was just known to be incredibly nice and charismatic and just full of positive energy. Despite her sad past. She's also as pretty as her personality.
---The other girl, Girl #2 was the same, kind and charismatic and she is so active in the community I lived in, she's studying politics because she wants to make the world a better place and also has been on talk shows and everything because of what she does for the community we live in. She's an AP student and studies her a** off, just so one day she can make the world a step closer to peace.
I'm not the only one who thinks they are incredible, almost my whole school knew how amazing they were. And I say "almost" because of these other group of girls I use to call friends.
Rather than being happy for these two girls, they became jealous and spread horrible things about them. One of them (I will call her bitchface) said.
"Oh, she's just pretending to be nice in order to get guys."
And started telling people that Girl #1 was giving blow jobs/handjobs to these guys.
WHAT THE HELL!?!?!?!
GUYS LIKE HER BECAUSE SHE IS GENUINELY NICE AND OPTIMISTIC!!!!
Bitchface also hated girl #2 for reasons that are dumb(jealousy). Girl #2 has been dating a guy since middle school, and in middle school bitchface's friend constantly hit on girl#2's boyfriend. They were able to overcome bitchface's friend and dated all the way til our senior year in highschool. When he broke up with her because he no longer felt the same way, she had a break down and just cried in the nurse's office.
A lot of people felt bad for her. And it's normal for her to break down in tears, they've been dating for a long time and he broke up with her around the same time her mother was diagnosed with a disease that was causing her organs to fail. A lot of people thought girl #2 was some sort of super human because of her accomplishments, but really, she was just human with human feelings.
However bitchface and some other people didn't feel anything for her, some people started telling people girl #2 was "crazy" and "insane" and that she's not that perfect. Bitchface also called her out over facebook, leaving an incredibly long paragraph about how her problems aren't that bad. Stating that her mom's illness is curable anyway and that she shouldn't be as sad as she was.
This got to me, because girl #2 didn't do anything wrong but be human.
Sorry if she didn't live up to YOUR expectations like she was totally suppose to do.
So this was what I experience in highschool that granted me the freedom of being myself and being confident with who I am. And I hope who ever is reading this know that being yourself may sound as cliche as it is but it's one of the most important things to know.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." -Bernard M. Baruch
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