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Disclaimer: the veiws expressed here in are only my own and shouldn't be taken seriously by anyone reading,however if you do take it seriously message me for further discussion.


The explanation and breakdown of the circle

It really breaks down to peace love and empathy,seems all so simple right?wrong! You see it is actually very complicated if you think about it. The hard part starts as love,which is so easily dictionarily described as....

LOVE- strong affection ; warm attatchment ; attraction based on sexual desire ; unselfish loyal concern for others ; cherished/cherishable ; to feel a tenderness,passion or devotion for ; and last but not least also to take pleasure in.

Now if all of that in one place isn't hard enough love has a friend that it needs to manifest.....TRUST! Dictionarily defined as ............

TRUST- Assured reliance on the character,truth,and strength of someone ; a basis of reliance ; to place confidence in ; and to rely on the truth of.

the complication is now multiplied by two.Simply because you now have to have all of the above in every combitionation with yourself and another,just to get one piece of the circle.Therefore the two words now become one.Yet one more word ties into love,and that word is dependence.Saying that you will and do depend on that person,and that they do the same for you.

If I don't experience ALL of it, do I love someone?

In all technicalities,yes,but it would be a weak love, or family love,not "in love" just lust.It can always be stronger or weaker,it just takes effort,or effortlessness to move either way.

If I had them all,them I lost tehm,... can I get them back?

Of coarse you can,like i said it just takes the right amount of time and effort.

If I didn't have them,or wanted to increase them,what should i do?
Normal basis of relationships,start out as friends and don't rush.Simply talk get to know someone,spend very attentive time with him/her.
In scinario the geek/loser can always walk away with the prom queen/cheerleader or football star/goth if he/she puts forth the effort and time to obtain his/her emotional trust,and develope dependence. he/she must indicate thier love.
Never over indicate though,also known as rushing in,for some boundries broken could leave you a love sick,crazed,stalker.
Just simply try,try again,but don't be afraid to let go after many rejections,for the two just may not have enough in common,or too much in common to co-exist peacefully,and / or build a relationship that will last ,upon each other.

As always i hope this helps you as it has me,until next time be safe,and take care.

sincerely,
Jason E. Ralston