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Alrighty, I was banished from a guild. Some may gasp some may shrug, some may laugh. Others may say they've been there before. For those who've never experienced such an event, need to know that it stings. Yeah, it hurts like heck, I dont' care if you didn't like the guild or the club or the thread or the anything, it hurts!

Rejection always hurts.

It would make me a lesser woman to tell which guild and divulge names so I won't even if those who are in that guild will likely never read this...ever. I won't because that's not the point. The reason I'm writing this is because I want to get these feelings out, I've talked about them, now I want to tell you, I want you to learn from my experience.

Lesson #1: If you get off on the wrong foot with the captain, I mean not just you made a mistake and the captain of the guild is rightly biting your head off. I mean, you made a mistake adn you get in a full on fight with them over private message, that's a bad sign. If that happens, its best to break off your membership right there, I don't care it you thought you were right and he/she was wrong. If you stupidly decide to go on, watch your back, watch what you post.

Lesson #2: If you have a problem with one of the other members, do not have much contact with him/her. This will only get you in trouble because if you are the junior member, usually the heat hits you first and the hardest. Especially if they are a crew member. I stupidly kept trying to make amends, make friends with a very immature young lady adn she had me banned from a guild that I was already feelign leary about. That was stupid, I could have easily avoided her and should have, so take this lesson to heart, stay away from them, don't let them baet you...just stay away!

Lesson #3: If you see this happen to someone else, you see abuse happen to another member adn yous tart to feel a bit weird about it, leave the guild. Its best to leave early before it starts happeneing to you. Not saying its garanteed but if you feel wrong about how another member is treated, that guild, its members are not for you. Now if the person is being a total jack a$$ and spamming, not following rules, being a jerk, that's a different story.

Those are my three lessons, if I can think of any more lessons, I'll put them up. Remember, if you're banished for just being yourself, the stining will stop in time. It helps to talk about it outloud with someone you trust. Okay, I'm getting tired of typing so that's all for now.

Candidly, Bluesteel.