ryan keeps trying to hug me and lean on my shoulder (of course i back off though) and it was weird, on thursday b4 school he was like "wheres bryce?" and i said "hes snowboarding, wont be back until friday night" and he was like "oh, u shouldnt have told me that heather" and i was like "what? why?" and he was just like "oh nothing" and that whole time he had his head on my shoulder and i was backing up and like, walking through the group circle tryin to get him off me but he kept his head on my shoulder the whole time so i just pushed him off and walked off and he was like "oh, that was nice heather!" but i couldve cared less at the time. lol.
AND THEN! during lunch that day, he came up behind me when i was standing in a group of me, ryan h., sean, tad, and a few other guys and he put his arm around my neck/shoulders and his other hand on my back and he started to pull me down and i was like "ryan get off me! let me go!" but he wouldnt so i kind of mouthed "help me!" to the guys that were standing around, and they just kind of stood there! so then sean spook up and was like "dude! get off her! just because her boyfriend isnt here, it doesnt mean u can hit on her!!" so ryan was like "im not hitting on her" but he let go of me after that and i went and hid behind cory after that. but ryan didnt get the hint when i was practically yelling at him to get off and he came up to me trying to tickle me! so tad was like "ryan, seriously, stop! we know u like to hear girls scream from what u hear ur parents doing at home, but not at school man!" and ryan was like "i only live with my mom" and tad said "oooohhh thats gross! what is she doing then!" it was funny, and after that i just went with candice (or was it lacey, idk) to fat cat. i had had enough! i didnt go back until right b4 the bell rang so i could stay away from ryan.
i dont know how i can tell him to back off without hurting him cause i feel bad for him you know? but i DO NOT want him hanging on me all the time and i thought i gave him the message when i kicked him in the shin when he was trying to "molest" me but i guess not. i mean, sometimes he can be cool to talk to so i like being his friend sometimes, so i dont want to make him mad at him, but bryce doesnt trust him (which he has good reasons not to) and i dont want to hurt bryce by leting ryan act the way he does (and i dont WANT ryan doing that). what should i do? i dont want to lose a friendship, but i dont want my bf to lose faith in me. i would rather keep my relationship with bryce anyday then exchange it for my friendship with ryan, though. but bryce doesnt do anything with a girl i dont really trust, so i want to show him the same trust he has shown me. how do i do that?
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(Its what I'd do, and what I'd offer to do if I was down there...)
But you should really sit him down and tell him flat out that you don't have and never will (don't give him any leeway to think that you could ever possibly like him) have any romantic interest in him and that you have a boyfriend and like him very much and want him to trust you.
Then, after that, the next time he tries to do anything to you, beat the crap out of him.